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i have not used this account in like over a year and its kinda crazy how toxic and really really yikes i used to be, like I was aware I was mentally ill and made no effort to change and get better. over the past year ive grown so much and im finally free of all disordered eating and i dont get anxious as much at all and i have been able to manage my depression. this account harbored the worst things in me and gave me a place to make reay unhealthy choices. Heres to keeping going

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Someday I will have my own place. My world won’t be confined to my room. I will stumble sleepily through the house in the morning, opening the blinds. I will sit out in the backyard and look at the stars. I will go out whenever I want to. I will survive long enough to have that.

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Underrated form of intimacy: being silly together

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When abusive parents find out you self harm…

They’ll respond by abusing you and then tell you the abuse is their concern for you or their love for you, but that isn’t what it is. It’s just more of the abuse that they’ve always been doing that caused you to self harm to begin with.

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If, instead of an abusive parent, you'd had a good parent capable of love, how could they have supported you when they found out you were self-harming?

What did you need at that time? Or if you're going through this right now, what do you need?

All the stories you're sharing of the way abusive parents react to self harm are just crushing to my soul. I think parents need to know what an appropriate response is. Let's do what we can to increase our society's awareness about what's needed from parents in a situation like this.

I know that abusive parents usually do the opposite of whatever is supportive to their child, but don't let that stop you from telling us what would have supported you at the time. They don't care to hear it, but you deserve to be able to say it and we care. So say it to us.

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Abused Kid To Do List

- Don’t forget to drink water

- Do your chores even if they make you feel anxious

- Recover the capacity to experience safety

- Deactivate chronic fight or flight response

- Learn polyvagal theory

- Try some techniques to help you with flashbacks

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To those of you who had to hide stuff from your abusive parents in order to have anything… How did you do that?

Please reblog so other people can see.

Or maybe it’s not even in the past for you yet. I don’t have a lot of experience with this, so I don’t really have any tips. I know a lot of you deal with this, so if you could share any helpful ways to cope with this, I’m sure it would be really helpful!

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Everyone warns you about red flags in a relationship but I want to hear about green flags

So here’s some. Add your own if you’d like!

* listens to you talk when you have issues and supports you through them

* stops doing things you tell them make you uncomfortable

* compromises when necessary

* never puts you down deliberately, especially not publically

* supports your ambitions

* uses a calm rational tone during arguments

* is able to apologise when they’re in the wrong

* aids your growth process

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Sure, relationships typically start with a honeymoon phase that then grows into something deeper but a bit more mellow if things work out, but it’s depressing as fuck that this has turned into a really, really common script for straight relationships that says it’s totally normal and inevitable for dudes to just become more and more emotionally checked out of the relationship, and leave it to their girlfriend/wife to perform if she wants to get even a crumb of affection from him. I’m so fucking tired of seeing women constantly being taught that decades of emotional neglect is just our lot in life.

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those little things on ur nose aren’t blackheads, don’t try and get rid of them they’re sebaceous filaments and they’re permanent and literally everyone has them

every girl has that little pouch of fat on her lower tummy, despite what magazines try n show u, you have important organs there that need to be protected don’t try and get rid of ur pouch

ur body is smarter than u think and it knows what to do when u eat more than normal. one bad day, or even week, of eating poorly isn’t gonna ruin anything at all I pinky promise

if u think u look good up until u try taking a selfie, it’s not ur fault - our faces are asymmetrical and when u see ur face flipped it will look unnatural to u, since u don’t see it that way when u look in the mirror. to everyone else it looks perfectly fine

no one’s stomach looks the same at 8pm as it does at 8am. no one has a chiseled six pack after a day of eating, not even the super fit people u see on tumblr, because ur stomach naturally expands after eating and expecting to have a flat tummy before bed is very unrealistic

no one notices if the bags under ur eyes are bad today. no one pays attention to the bump in ur nose or the zit on ur chin or the piece of hair that u missed when u were straightening. literally no one notices these things except you so stop worrying about it ur gonna be fine

sometimes u just gotta get over urself

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did a lot today !!!! haha take that depression

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