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"Something Wasn't Working, I'm On New Start Again"

I’m listening to New Start Again, and I’m realizing one thing that I think attracts me to Dick Diver, and that sets them apart from American bands of their stature and attitude, is there’s no fucking chorus pedal or digital reverb. I also think dolewave is much more interesting than like the Captured Tracks/Woodsist school of chill and lazy indie…to my knowledge, none of these performers are the fashion model spawn of Conde-Nast editors. In America, we millenials also obsess over the television show Girls, the success of which is the product of nepotism as much as it is its merit-worthy/“generation-defining” stories. There is no apparent upward mobility for my friends and I at the moment, so I don’t know why we find stuff like that so attractive when really we should be frustrated. 

I am not qualified to dive into what sets Australia’s young adults apart from America’s or the economic factors that are driving the dolewave tag. That’s already been done extensively and is probably best covered in these three articles. But I do think it’s really interesting that while an heiress to a nine-figure fortune is being championed in the American music press as a DIY artist with no second thought, the Australian press is actually investigating economic and social forces that are informing bands like Dick Diver and Bitch Prefect. jakec can correct me if I’m wrong, but some of the members of these bands are, like, literally on the dole right? 

I’m also thinking, not to waste more brain cells on Zachary Cole Smith, but how his attempt to emulate the working class slack of Kurt Cobain is an interesting counter to the Bed Wettin’ Bad Boys’ unironic embrace of “success rock.” Not that DIIV and BWBB occupy the same place in indie rock for most people at all. But thanks to the internet, I now have the ability to choose between the “why me, I’m so famous now, I know how He felt,” of ZCS and the sincerity of what the Bad Boys do. I cannot for the life of me find it now, but there was an interview on some blog with BWBB in which they make clear that their declaration of success rock is not sarcastic, that they truly aspire to success and something bigger, and that the album title Ready For Boredom was not something nihilistic or Wavvesian, but rather referred to having had so much excitement and worked so hard that boredom was a well deserved break from it all.

Outside all the talk of dolewave, I’m interested to know how these bands are marketed in Australia. Is there anything like the celeb gossip rag coverage Sky Ferreira and Zac Cole Smith get with Woolen Kits? Or does nowhere in the world match our thirst for anointing People Who Are Better And More Exciting And More Beautiful Than Us? Are the UV Race playing Melbourne’s answer to House Of Vans? 

Maybe I’m drawing false, like, battle lines or distinctions here, when all I’m trying to say is I fucking love Australian guitar music.

Also, take all this with a grain of salt because it took a few listens for me to realize that Newstart is part of Australia’s social security. 

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The Dream Team

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she jack off my trades till im master of none

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Sounds like my mom.

Getting to know my mom as an adult is a beautiful experience. She was very mentally ill, had addictions, and had severe past trauma when I was younger but now that she’s sober and on better medication I can see how truly wonderful she is. She’s always giving the shirt off her back to help her community. She may be feisty but she loves you. She always puts family first. Truly someone wonderful to get to know. I used to question why my dad stayed with her, but now I know.

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i wholeheartedly recommend every "burned out gifted kid" and people who were raised in the gifted tarpit to examine themselves for NPD/maladaptive narcissism without a personality disorder. especially if you are in a genuine crisis and/or deal with depression, addiction, self-harm and suicidality due to your upbringing. giftedness and narcissism are unfortunately still huge taboo topics but its important to take your struggles seriously and have others in your environment do the same. if your life is seriously impaired by things like constantly having to be "the best" in any peer setting, having breakdowns upon not delivering things to your standards or getting not good enough feedback, being in depressive isolation with thoughts like "if i wasnt for [xy impairment] i would be on top of the world right now", seeking solace in addiction or fantasy, etc. then you might actually qualify for an NPD diagnosis. childhood pedestalling while simultaneously having your needs ignored can lead to maladaptive narcissism to the point of a personality disorder if not dealt with properly. growing up gifted is unfortunately fertile ground for that. if you feel like this has impacted your life in a negative way and youre still struggling with the repercussions then talk to a professional about it and ask for an NPD assessment.

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romanticize learning, not school

The education system (in the U.S. at least) sucks! School sucks!

High expectations get set on you and you exhaust yourself trying to achieve them

Often, it promotes unhealthy competition and causes you to compare yourself to other students, even though everyone has different skill sets and circumstances

Being neurodivergent makes it HELL

School doesn't DESERVE to be romanticized. Burnout sucks. You're not going "above and beyond," you're trying to push yourself into unbreathable altitudes.

Rather, consider romanticizing learning:

Researching because gaining knowledge is fun, you like how it feels to understand the world around you

Teaching because you want to spread that knowledge to others

Finding your own engaging methods

Giving yourself control. Learning because you want to.

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being good at math & school but being shit at everything else truly is a specially crafted hell. Ppl will deny recognition for your academic achievements and the effort you put into your studies bc "well of course ur doing good you're smart that's just how you are" but then turn around and shit on you when you struggle in different areas bc "you should be able to do this you're smarter than that".

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Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help by Richard Pink and Roxanne Emery

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My life is a constant cycle between "I need to rest before I burn out" and "I'm wasting my potential, I should work harder"

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yknow it really bothers me that 95% of conversations i've seen about gifted kid burnout are neurotypicals talking about "oh these kids are upset they don't get to feel special anymore"

as opposed to "yeah these kids have severe self-esteem issues because the only thing they were ever praised for as children was how smart they are and how quickly they learn and now they can't do things if they don't know how to do it immediately because they're terrified of failure because their love always felt so conditional on their performance even if it wasn't"

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adhd paralysis sucks bcuz im just sitting there and my brain is like

YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME

no work done no rest gained. literally no point of this at all

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no nuance you gotta answer, the leading answer after the first hour from posting wins