It's valid to get upset because everyone deserves to be respected. Sounds like she is being an asshole
hello this is a genuine question I'm not trying to be inflammatory i just wanna know if im being unreasonable - why is it that if I get mad about my trans housemate misgendering me (gnc cis woman) i'm in the wrong but if i misgender her it's totally fine for her to get mad at me? it feels to me that she is implying that her womanhood is more valid than mine bc she presents more feminine than me but like, am I projecting, is it an existing double standard or is she just being an asshole