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Single Parents

@snazzieyama asked, “otps and single parents au please uwu! congrats on 200 babie!!!” 

1. “You’re the next-door neighbor my child has attached themselves to, and I’m so sorry.” 

2. “We work together and we’ve always been a little on the hostile side toward each other, but I had to bring my child to work today and you’re the only one they’ve gotten along with so far.” 

3. “After my spouse died, you were the friend who helped me pick up the pieces and raise my child, but lately I’ve been looking at you… Differently.” 

4. “Our kids are best friends, so we end up spending time together so that they can. Luckily, you’re really cute.” 

5. “My child wandered off at the grocery store, and I’ve been panicking, but you’re the kind-hearted stranger who brought them back to me. Please let me thank you with dinner.”

6. “You’re the first person I’ve gone out with in years, and I’m nervous about it anyway, but halfway through dinner I get a call that my child has a fever and I should go check on them. I’m so sorry, but I-what do you mean you’ll go help me? Are you really that understanding?”

7. “My job keeps my crazy-busy, and you always offer to watch my child. I feel guilty constantly leaving them with you, but neither of you seem to mind.” 

8. “I asked you to be my child’s godparent when they were born, but lately I’ve been wondering how you’d feel about step-parent.” 

9. “Our kids are partners for a school project, and neither of them told us about some really crucial supplies they needed until the last minute, so we’re out on an 11 PM Walmart run.” 

10. “We went on one date, and it was decent but didn’t really go anywhere. However, your contact is right beneath my friend’s in my phone, and I accidentally called you when I was sick and asked you to watch my child. My bad, but could you actually please come because I think I might pass out.” 

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in the cold night ◇ leo [vampire] moodboard, please like or reblog if you save it! ⛓️

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Mandy Patinkin on The Late Show, December 18, 2015

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Hello! First of all, thank you so much for all of the work that you are doing. VIXX would not be such a big part of my life if you weren't here. Even though I speak Korean a little, I still need you to understand everything so thanks so much for doing all of this. I have a random question. I'm trying to find a clip online and it seems to not exist anymore. Do you remember which show was it where they made grandmas judge the JEKYLL album covers? I can't find it anywhere but I sweat it exists haha

Hii Thank you!! i checked with the group and found the video you are talking about~ You can watch it here The segment starts at 30:53 ^^

-Admin R

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SELF CARE TIPS

Set aside some time, to allow yourself to work through each step. Don’t rush or skip ahead. Self Care is important, and you deserve to devote some time to it.

You may want to go through this routine as soon as you wake up, as a preventive measure.

1 - Have you eaten in the last four hours?

If you haven’t eaten in a little while, your body needs fuel. It’s time for breakfast, lunch, or dinner.

If there’s a specific food you want, it’s okay to eat it! You don’t have to eat perfectly healthy all the time– no one does! Just also use your brain a little, and notice the quantity you’re eating, and how healthy it is for you. You’re probably just fine at trusting your gut and knowing what your body needs.

Making a meal is hard for you right now, and that’s okay! Everybody struggles with cooking sometimes.

You have some options:

You can cook a meal for yourself.

You might have ready-made meals in the fridge.

You can get take-out or delivery.

You can go to a restaurant.

Take-out, delivery, and restaurants are a little more expensive than cooking on your own, but how you spend your money is your decision. It’s okay to treat yourself!

If you’re going to cook on your own, you have to decide what to make. A friend, partner, or family member can help with this. Here are some ideas for easy foods you can eat right now:

Pasta with butter, sauce, cheese, vegetables, and/or meat

Ramen noodles

Sandwiches

Rice

Grilled cheese (This can have meat on it, if you want!)

A smoothie or milkshake

Baked or fried potatoes

Eggs, pancakes, and/or bacon

Macaroni and cheese

Canned soup

Salad

Vegan

Boxed mashed potatoes

2 - Have you taken any medication you need to take?

Medication needs to be taken on schedule, or your body might react negatively.

Take some time now to take any pills, do any tests or injections, or apply any ointments prescribed by your doctor.

If this is a persistent problem for you, you may want to set a smart phone alarm so you remember to take it at the same time every day.

3 - Are you keeping yourself hydrated?

Drink a glass of whatever liquid you like best. Water is ideal, but don’t beat yourself up if you’d rather have tea, soda, juice, or milk. Soda will actually make you feel thirstier, but if it’s easier for you, then that’s okay!

4 - Can you take a guess at how many hours you’ve slept out of the last 24?

Everyone is an individual with different sleep schedules, but most people need 8 hours of relatively uninterrupted sleep. If you had less than that, and/or woke up frequently, and/or had nightmares, it might help you to take a nap.

Take a nap. You can finish this self-care guide when you wake up.

Ideally, let yourself sleep naturally, and sleep until you wake up. Obviously, this isn’t always possible. Otherwise, set an alarm for yourself, with plenty of time to wake up and get yourself together between your nap and your responsibilities.

5 - Are you in pain?

If there is something your doctor has prescribed you for pain, you should take it or do it.

For aches and pains, take an aspirin. You may also want to apply a heating pad or a cold pack on whatever hurts.

If you have a stomach ache, there are medications for that, like Pepto Bismol, and hot tea may also help.

Be nice to your body, and try to do “replace” the unpleasant pain with some pleasant alternative sensations, like good smells and pleasurable textures.

6 - Is something about your environment distressing or uncomfortable? Are your surroundings the right temperature?

If you’re too cold, you can try putting on some warm clothes, using a space heater, turning up the heat in your home, putting on a blanket, and/or snuggling with a pet or another person.

If you’re too hot, you can try putting on cooler clothes, turning on a fan, or turning up the AC in your house.

7 - Are your surroundings dirty or smelly?

It’s hard to feel okay in an environment that is unfriendly for whatever reason. If your surroundings aren’t clean, set a timer for five minutes and take care of the biggest problems, like leftover food, pet messes, or dirty clothes.

Chores can be scary and exhausting, but that’s not what we’re doing here. We’re just taking a little five-minute clean up to make ourselves and our homes happier!

8 - Do you feel unsafe because of the people, or lack of people, in your surroundings?

If you can, try to remove yourself from situations that are overwhelming or feel unsafe. If you can’t relocate entirely, take frequent breaks, or tune out with headphones.

9 - Does your body feel uncomfortable, sweaty, or dirty?

If you have the energy and ability to take a shower, it may be a good idea. If you are unable to take a shower, here are some things to do instead:

Wash your face

Put on lotion

Change your clothes

Use dry shampoo

Whatever physical self-care activity you like best!

10 -  Do you know why you’re in a bad mood, or not feeling well emotionally?

(Remember, any answer is okay!) If there’s something on your mind, we’re going to do our best to take care of it.

11 - If there is something in your mind, set a timer for 15 minutes, and work on a solution.

If it’s something you can change, then great! If not, do your best to reach out to someone and talk about it.

12 - Remember, 15 minutes and only 15!

You can go back to whatever it is after we’re done working through this together. We’re just taking baby steps in the right direction.

13 - Sometimes, we don’t know the source of our bad feelings, and that’s okay.

14 - Do you feel anxious, nervous, keyed-up, paranoid, scared, or on edge?

If you’re generally anxious but don’t know why, that’s okay!

If you’re feeling anxious about something specific. That’s okay! Set a timer for 15 minutes and do something to take care of that worry. Maybe chip away at a task that seems insurmountable. You can do it!

15 - Here are some ideas for grounding activities:

Take deep, calm breaths.

Notice and list things in your surroundings.

Expose yourself to strong, pleasant sensations, like a pleasing smell or a favorite blanket.

Say out loud your name, your age, the date, and your location. List some things you’ve done today, or are going to do.

Splash water on your face or run your hands under the faucet.

Do a body scan meditation, or pay close attention to each of your body parts one by one.

Make tea. Feel the warmth of it in your hands, and the taste as you sip it calmly. Listen to music.

Play a categories game, and name some types of dogs, or clothing items, or gemstones, or countries, or anything else you can think of.

Write in your journal.

Take a mindful walk, either inside or outside. Pay close attention to your body and your surroundings.

Squiggle. Wiggle around. Dance. Stretch. Be silly and active for a few minutes.

Any other favorite grounding technique you’ve heard of or can think of.

There’s nothing wrong with experimenting!

16 - Do you feel triggered? Are you having flashbacks? Is something traumatic or upsetting from the past weighing on your mind? Did you have a vivid nightmare?

If you’re feeling triggered, see if there’s a practical action you can take to lessen your distress. Can you block that unsafe person from your Facebook, for example?

If not, reach out and tell someone safe how you’re feeling. Just express yourself! Human contact works wonders when you’re not feeling well emotionally.

Remember that you’re here in the present, and nothing from your past can hurt you. If you like, you may want to try some grounding exercises to reinforce that idea.

17 - Are you feeling dissociated, depersonalized, or derealized? Do you feel far away, foggy, or unreal? Are you not sure who you are?

Go back to number 6 and try the grounding activities.

18 - Are you feeling depressed, sad, or upset?

Feeling depressed isn’t fun, but it doesn’t last forever! Don’t be mad or disappointed with yourself for feeling depressed.

Take 15 minutes and accomplish something small, like loading the dishwasher or making a friendship bracelet. You are not a failure, and your situation is not hopeless! You are a superhero, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

19 - Are you feeling lonely?

Everybody feels lonely sometimes. If you’re feeling lonely, there’s ways to reach out to people!

You can talk to someone in your house, or call someone on the phone. You can also use texting or Facebook messenger to speak to someone. You may want to talk about how you’re feeling, or you may not. Anything you want to talk about is okay!

If that isn’t or doesn’t seem possible, you can post a general message on Facebook, Tumblr, Vent, or another internet service, about whatever you want!

20 - Are you feeling foggy?

If you are feeling foggy, you might need some exercise.

21 - Do you have the energy and ability to go for a walk?

If you can’t take a walk, that’s okay!

Here are some alternatives:

Jumping jacks

Bouncing on the bed

Dancing

Push ups or sit ups, if you like doing them

Walking up and down the stairs

Yoga

Wiggling, squirming, jiggling around; being silly and active and having fun!

If none of those are or seem possible, just sit outside for some fresh air!

22 - Do you have pets at home?

Playing with pets can be a great way to take the edge off when you’re not feeling well. It doesn’t matter what kind of pet you have, just take some time to interact with them. Pet your cat, take your dog outside, feed your fish, hug your lizard…

23 - Take half an hour and do whatever you want to do right now.

This can be anything: crafts, watching TV, laying on the couch, taking a walk, playing Farmville… your choices are literally endless!

Obviously, don’t do anything that’s bad for you, like feeding addictions or harming yourself or others

24 - It’s time to reassess.

Maybe now that you’ve done all this self care, you feel better– great! Maybe you don’t, and that’s okay too. But hopefully you’ve cleared things up and you know what to do next to take care of yourself.

You deserve self care, so even if it’s hard, do your best!

Good luck!

source: Jace Harr - Please do not remove the source

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Different Kisses with Hakyeon / N

Thanks so much for this request and your patience! Hakyeon is one of the most hardworking leaders in kpop and I have so much respect for this beautiful human, so it’s going to be fun writing kisses for him! I hope you enjoy!

Kissing Hakyeon is fairytale inducing – he makes you feel like you’ll float away into another plane of pure happiness with every touch of his lips.

Keep reading

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Reblog if you have read fan fiction better than some published books

Help me prove a point

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Happy Birthday Hongbin

 A few facts about the bean.

- He is the visual of the group and well known for his looks

- He is sooo much more than just his looks

- He has a beautiful low voice that can send shivers down your spine

- Is the kind of sass and snark

- Also a Vixx rapper, but we rarely hear him 

- He is a fruit bat (fight me on this I dare you)

- Known to be the one to clean the dorm and manage the daily group expenses

- Awkward and scared to talk to attractive people

- Blood type B

- He is energetic and actually quite good at dance

- Also an actor and we are proud of him for it

- Overwatch is life to him

- Very fit boy… danm 

- Also very intelligent and witty

- Typical Libra 

- Has two older sisters 

- When he was younger he was raised by his grandmother in a buddhist temple

- He really loves his grandmother 

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930929 Happy Birthday Lee Hongbin!

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hwan and hyangsook in episode 11

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Big Issue / Naver

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Idols are human beings too

How would you feel if I came up to you every day and screamed at you and insulted you for wanting to be in love? For your weight and appearance? What if I treated you like garbage and still expected you to do everything for me and make me feel good, but obviously I wouldn’t let you be happy because apparently I can control your life. You call yourselves “fans” yet will only support whenever your idol is single or doing what only you want. Treat people how you want to be treated: it goes for idols and celebrities too.

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Leo 1st Win & Just Because Event!

I wanted to do an event, and here we are right after rookie solo singer Jung Taekwoon AKA Leo’s 1st win! This is to thank all the lovely Starlights who follow me and support VIXX. Depending on how this goes, I expect to choose one winner here and one from Twitter (@TranslatedVIXX). The prize is I will translate your letter from English to Korean to the best of my ability to the member of your choice (to VIXX is fine too). I will then send said letter to the company for you if you choose. (End date: probably August 24th)

How to enter:

1. Be a Starlight 2. Reblog this

Feel free to buy me a coffee: ko-fi.com/translatedvixx Order Leo’s Album: goo.gl/forms/63n7LXNTPBPzq2z12

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i never talk about these things but i can’t remain silent.

i know tumblr doesn’t give a SHIT when things happen in countries outside the “most popular ones” (such as the usa & england). it’s true, don’t lie to me. y’all don’t give A FUCK. not every issue and problem in said countries gets the appropriate exposure but in general shit shows up on the news WORLD FREAKING  WIDE. you set up donations, you help out, your spread the word, you say “pray for x”……

southern europe is burning. 

my country is burning.

people are dying - at home, on the road, trying to run away, in their cars.

yesterday my country had 300 active fires.

people are losing EVERYTHING they own.

i have a friend that is on a train right now passing through places that have been burnt to the ground and she says the smoke is so intense it’s getting inside the train and she can barely breathe.

and yet, even though several people (myself included) have been trying to bring awareness to what has been happening in southern europe… what we get from most of you, those not part of the countries suffering, is silence. we don’t ask for money, we don’t ask for shit other than a reblog to spread awareness… something you can delete in 24/48hrs if you wish. 

i don’t know what to tell you. i’m angry. i’m frustrated. i’m disappointed. i feel like i’m screaming into the void. “a reblog does nothing” - you know that’s a damn lie, you know exposure always helps, you know people start paying attention when posts on social media become popular. my country in particular is a small one, we get ZERO exposure. y’all are only starting to figure out we even fucking exist bc of the shit we’ve been winning lately. 

but hell, if the EU doesn’t give a shit, why should some user on tumblr dot com?

again, i don’t know what to tell you so i’ll let the images speak for themselves: 

An image captured by a Nasa satellite shows a thick plume of smoke blowing southward from the Greek island of Chios over the island of Crete

Torneros de Jamuz, Spain

Duca, Croatia

A helicopter from Italy’s civil protection service drops water on a fire near the railway between Venice and Trieste

Residents take refuge on the beach as a wildfire burns on the mountain next to the village of Lithi, on the Greek island of Chios

Men gather cattle during a forest fire in Vieira de Leiria, Marinha Grande, Portugal.

Charred trees are seen on the hills above the Cloister of Thivaidas on Mount Athos, a World Heritage Site in Greece

Portugal