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"Don't you want your own family?"

Of course I want it. Just another kind of family.

My dream is to have a house full of friends, where we can eat all together then playing cards until late in the night, laughing and singing. Or where we can have a hot chocolate and a deep conversation. A safe and welcoming space for me and my loved ones.

I want an additional bed to host those who come from afar and a big kitchen table for lunches and dinners.

I want someone to cook pies with, to travel with, to spend the Christmas holidays with.

I want to be loved and to love. That's a simple dream, really. That's my concept of family

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revisited this concept from a few years ago

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"friends don't look at each other like that" well okay you coward you do whatever you want however i WILL look at my friends like they're the most important thing in the world. i love them with my whole heart and i will hold their hand and stare at the stars not because i wanna fuck them but because they mean the world to me and i care about them. fuck you

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Bruh do y’all know how embarrassing it is to have grown up constantly saying to people “yeah I don’t want to get married” and “I’m never gonna fall in love” and have everyone telling you “oh you’ll change your mind when you’re older” only for you to discover you’re aromantic and be all smug because you proved them all wrong…only to end up in a queer platonic relationship!

Bruh I wanna marry this person. I’m gonna marry this person. But so many people aren’t gonna be allowed to know about it because I can’t be aro and still get proven wrong like this. I’m too petty for that

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How does one find a QPP? Asking for a sad aroace friend who just wants someone to go on adventures with, and talk to after a long day of work, and cuddle on the couch with, and tell stories to, and infodump with, but who very much does not want a romantic or sexual relationship. (The friend is me).

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I need to be hugged. I need to be embraced, and wrapped in warm arms, my head against their chest, listening to their heartbeat. Under the thick, soft bedsheets, my warm breath grazing their neck, and their nose buried in my hair. Making light circles on their collarbones, lifting my hand to play with their hair. I need to feel their breath on my ear, while whispering sweet, loving words to eachother, only meant for our ears. Simply drifting in the warmth and sinking into eachother, as we bask in the moment

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qpr culture is this:

(not quite sure if I should tag them on this or not seeing I got the photo off Pinterest)

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having a queer platonic crush on someone is so strange. like, no, i can't stomach the thought of anyone else kissing you, but i dont want to kiss you. i want to tuck your hair behind your ear while you focus on something else. i want to hold your hand. you're my best friend. i love you, as a friend, but also so much more. i dont want to marry you. i want to spend the rest of my life with you. i love you. i know you on such a deep level. i feel like you really know me. you say you're afraid of love, and i agree, but my heart breaks because i'm not afraid of our love. i love you, do you love me? just as friends, or as something more? i love you as a Friend. i think about the plans we made in year 7 all the time. i'm sorry i'm not the right kind of love. i love you, but i dont Love you. is that enough?

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I want to be someone's special person. Like. I wanna be the one you tell everything to. The one you think off when you see stupid cute videos. The one you talk about when people ask you about your partner.

I want an emotional connexion. Not someone to be in love with. Someone that don't drain me. Someone that put me first the way i put them first. I don't care if it's a qpr (queer platonic relationship) , a relationship or a friendship.

I don't want to be scared that you'll leave for someone you're in love with.

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Allo peeps need to understand being aromantic isn't just "Ewww, romance". It's "I will follow you to the ends of the Earth and beyond, regardless of where that would lead me." Platonically, of course."

(But please keep in mind that for some it IS "Ewww, romance" And they don't need to be treated like they're not a part of this community, btw. This is an objective fact, btw. Aros are awesome, btw)

(This post is about QPRs and my experiences being aro, I just wanted to make a silly little post about that, aplatonics are valid and real this post was about me and maybe for people who relate)

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The point of queerplatonic relationships is literally having relationships out of the common, that go against what is expected in a normal friendship or in a romantic relationship, its about breaking those society imposed rules, so guys, there is no correct way to have a qpr, or some kind of definition, you can do and have whatever you and your partner/s want always if you feel happy and comfortable!

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We're going into a difficult time of the year for many aces and aros. This isn't just spending time with people who don't think that your identity is real. It's also dealing with the questions of "when are you going to find a partner" or "when are you planning to have kids" or other invasive questions that are really no ones business.

So I just want to say, that no matter what anyone says, your identity is valid. You are valid. And you're going to get through it this year.

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every so often, i think, and it might be so selfish of me, but i crave to be someone's first choice. i want to be the person that someone sees fun things to do and their first thought is to ask me to go with them. i want someone to be willing to inconvenience themselves a little bit sometimes for me as i would do for them. i want to be looked at in a list of people and to have someone pick me out of all of them. i want to be held at the same level as a romantic partner in terms of effort and closeness. i want someone to want me as much as i want them, even though it's not in a romantic sense. i want to be important to someone.

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having a platonic crush is so awful. why am i so infatuated with you. why does this never truly fade. every single time, i will come when you call. i'd walk to the ends of the earth for you. for nearly everyone i've felt like this towards, i will do the same. i want to tell you all the little things about myself. i want to hold your hand and go on fun little "couple" dates. i want to make things for you. i want to put my art onto something for you to have, so that a piece of my soul is yours. i want to be yours in the least romantic way possible.

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does anyone want to be best friends that also live together and go on adventures together but like mundane adventures like ikea and target and also wants to lay our heads on each others shoulders when sleepy but also have separate bedrooms but also enjoy spending most of our free time together……. just me? ok

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I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.