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here have a gifset of emmanuel being unable to stop touching justin

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Saint Isaac’s Cathedral, Saint-Petersburg, Russia

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this pandemic will end and you’ll claim the window seat in your favorite cafe, stand in a crowd at a concert, visit a museum and make crappy art in the park. sometimes things feel like they’ll go on forever, sometimes bad things feel heavier than good things, sometimes life feels like it’s slowing down and all you’re doing is waiting for the full stop— but just because this hopelessness is all that you’re feeling right now, doesn’t mean that it’s all there is. there’s always more and you will experience that, and you will feel alive again.

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do ya ever bring your pet up to a mirror and ur like “that you”

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happy valentines day to myself i love u 

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No but honestly this "me, myself and I" thing is getting so boring - can we please move on and start prioritizing and investing in healthy connections with other people instead of romanticizing the idea of not needing anyone ever?

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he’s a maniac

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they’re talking to each other omg (‘:

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Good Omens (2019)

(for @lazynbored)

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someone out there feels better because you exist

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it’s okay to miss people you no longer need or want in your life. it’s okay to miss the good moments, the laughter and the support you’ve received from them, even if they weren’t a completely healthy influence in your life, you can cherish the happiness you felt without wanting or accepting these people back. 

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Reasons an FP/anyone may not have replied to you yet

I know that a lot of us with BPD- and other disorders such as anxiety, DPD, paranoia etc- can get really worried when those we care about don’t reply- or anyone! We worry they hate us, are angry, are leaving us, are hurt. So, here’s a list of possible reasons why they may not be replying that aren’t those! 

They’re asleep. This is kinda subjective to the time they’re in, but this included naps! Sometimes people fall asleep suddenly, or fall asleep before your reply

They’re busy. They made need to focus on something, or not be allowed on their phone. Or, they want to save their reply to you for when they can put their full attention on you and give a proper reply

They’re unsure how to reply yet. sometimes people need time to think of how to reply, and want to give a proper one

They don’t feel like talking to anyone right now. It’s not that they don’t wanna talk to you specifically- they may just be socially drained or want to focus on themselves! 

They’re not in a mental place where they can reply to you. This includes perhaps they’re dissociating, or can’t think straight to reply 

Their phone is dead. Plain and simple

Their wifi dropped. Same again 

They’re taking pleasure time. Video games, reading anything. Sometimes people need time to relax- it doesn’t mean that they don’t enjoy talking to you, they just wanna fully immerse themselves in their activity.

They’re interacting with someone/in a situation where it’s not appropriate to use their phone. Maybe at dinner, church, a lesson, anything

They suddenly have to deal with something urgent.

They forgot. I know this one is scary/hurts- but it doesn’t mean you’re not important to them! Maybe they saw your message whilst busy, thought they need to reply later, then forgot. Some people also have memory issues that mean they forget to reply to things.

They’re not logged into what you talk in. This goes esp for facebook/tumblr

They havn’t got your message. This can be for lots of reasons! Bad connection, app is broken, phone is slow, anything like that

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ITALY. Venice. 2003 Gueorgui Pinkhassov

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A mother loves her children

(via)

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What is important to you both when acting as LGBTQ characters? 

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Don’t believe everything you think.