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Gendered parenting is so weird. As a little kid I was a total daddy's girl, I was told I would always try to sneak into the garage, I was always very interested in everything he was doing and would follow him around while he was working, but while my family was never the type to outright say "you can't do that because you're a girl", they simply didn't entertain the idea that I could possibly be interested in cars. Then when my little brother was born, it was just assumed he would become a mechanic like our dad because he was a boy. Even though he, unlike me, didn't like being in the garage much and wasn't all that interested in what dad was doing. Once he got to a certain age, dad started making him help and would drag him away from his actual interests for it, which lead to a lot of arguing and not much actual learning.

Gendered expectations sort of create doubles of children. There's the real child with their actual personality, interests and behaviors, and then there's the Gender Child.

My real brother hated soccer and team sports. The Gender Child that existed only the minds of the adults in his life needed to play soccer because that's what a Boy Child does.

Growing up, I always felt like adults didn't actually know me as a person and they weren't interested in getting to know me. Because they felt they'd already learned everything there was to know about me when they were told "it's a girl".

When I talk about how I never got gifts I actually liked from my relatives (to this day I still don't like getting gifts that aren't something I picked out myself), it isn't actually about the gifts themselves. I don't even remember them. What I do remember is the feeling of being given gifts that were seemingly not bought with the real me in mind. They were for the Girl Child™️ version of me. The me that adults wanted me to be, not who I actually was.

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@fabcreature

(this is available on my RedBubble)

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healed tattoo of Moder, the monster from The Ritual

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in small fandoms you need to be grateful to the person who only accidentally hit you twice with a frying pan while trying to make you breakfast. in big fandoms you can block people for wearing a shirt you don’t like

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idk who needs to hear this but if you signed up for a free trial for some subscription you don’t plan to keep bc you needed short-term access, go cancel it rn before you get charged

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your life is not an optimization problem

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Are fedoras really that bad?

YES YES THEY ARE

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Reblog if you've ever cried over the death of a fictional character

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it never stops striking me how deeply fucking evil and yet entirely commonplace it is for people to film others when they're distressed and exhibiting symptoms of psychosis in public to try and "go viral." the next time you see one of these videos going around i need you to remember one of the most frightening and dark times in your life and then i need you to imagine having it not in a safe or private place (which you may not even have access to at all), but out in the open with a snot-nosed fucking tiktoker shoving a camera in your face for the duration of it and then uploading it to millions of jeering strangers

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some people actually ENJOY reading about something they DON'T EXPERIENCE??? how dare they. jail for everyone. btw any fantasy and sci-fi books are now banned, because as someone living in the REAL WORLD, i can't enjoy reading about all these silly people with their made-up magic and technology. anyone who lives in the real world is stupid for reading those books and should be ashamed. i only like to read things that exactly align with my own personal experiences

cannot imagine wanting to explore the interiority of someone different than myself personally sounds yucky

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what's happening to luigi should scare everyone. beyond the whole the nypd and feds can make anyone a patsy thing, the entire country has spent months investigating every aspect of dude's online presence. all his secrets are out in the open (or are opening.) it's THAT EASY for your life to be laid bare.

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People on twitter are always like 'there's still people on tumblr?'... As if Twitter wasn't full of stolen text posts, gifs and art originally posted here

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ladies and gentlemen, the american education system