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legit the best advice i can give you: feed your friends

any time someone is in any kind of crisis or upheaval, offer to feed them. tell them they don’t have to choose what it is if they can’t make decisions, just ask about allergies and preferences and tell them you’re just gonna make food happen at their house.

friend having a baby? delivery gift certificate to order food to the hospital after the kid shows up.

someone’s relative passes away? offer to make them dinner.

buddy gets laid off? ask if you can order them lunch.

pal stuck in a depressive episode? offer to drive them to fucking mcdonalds, if that’s what they want.

people in crisis are tired and sad and angry and the last thing most of them are doing is thinking about feeding themselves. so if you have the ability or time or money, providing that is always, always a good move.

legit i do this all the time, and it is 100% always appreciated. i have taught all my friends that when something happens, we feed each other. it makes people feel extremely cared for, and I cannot recommend it enough.

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Love local coffee shops. your “refugees are welcome here” sign goes really well with the one that says “bathrooms are for paying customers only”

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"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."

"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."

One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.

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A cis woman tells me that maybe she should transition to gain male privilege as I'm recovering from getting beaten up in the men's bathrooms.

I tell her to be my guest and give me a call when she gets her jaw broken, I always carry a first aid kit and a pepper spray.

She calls me a misogynistic asshole.

A cis man tells me that he'd sure love some T.

Gave him my prescription and best of luck with the constant shortages and getting denied.

He calls me a pussy.

I'm fighting for my life and reproductive rights. I get told to get off women's fights, that it's not about me, like I shed my womb after my first T shot.

I search for support groups for SA victims, and I'm stuck in the same “women/NBs only”. Still shooting my shot, send an application. I introduce myself. Never get a call back.

I go to a trans night. Say I go by he/him. Get told back “yeah, that's how we all start !” by a trans woman. I'm too exhausted, I get up and I leave.

I hang out with my friends, one of them drunkenly says masculinity is a prison we must learn to escape. She gets rows of applause. Back to drinking alone.

Yes I could explain it. But who'd you rather be ? A delusional girl or a man made threat ?Or it could be better, I could just not exist ! And we'd bleach my corpse and I'd become a casualty. Not an F, ot an M, a W for Wound and for Wrong.

I put a candle on a single cupcake, 2 years on HRT. I blow it in the dark. Curtains closed like casket.

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hey. hey, you. person feeling overwhelmed by The Fucking Everything Right Now: go check your library's events page. go sign up for a craft/class/bookclub. go do it. go find something positive to put on your calendar to look forward to as a touchstone of good in the immediate future.

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Super duper quick history lesson that is driving me crazy that people don’t know.

If they are debating the citizenship of Native Americans where would they deport us to?

And the original roll of Reservations not being clear. Native Americans were not considered US citizens unless they served military service until 1924, then for years after having to have permission to leave the reservation. Permission/Traveling slips of where you’re going, how long, why you’re going, and if you didn’t have one you’d be taken back to the reservation and may or may not be charged.

It is so important to be informed, especially if you are also native, most of our rights were granted by Acts(laws) and not amendments, and how easily they can be technically rescinded.

Its very possible you are the first generation of your family to technically be considered a full citizen to freely express your rights, considering we didn’t get granted religious freedom to practice until 1978 and the right to self determination in 1975. Being able to own businesses, property, money, arguably right to keep our children where all passed with laws not amendments and we are very vulnerable to having them taken away.

So if you’re wondering where would the Natives go? Reservations, and even then they have history of wanting to take those away too.

There’s a lot more fear for southern natives at moment their families more vulnerable being closer to the boarder, please stay safe! Stay strong!

Keep watching and stay informed, it’s the time to ask our elders for advice and knowledge of what they did during those hard times.

Please read more info on tribal acts here.>>

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My therapist getting uncomfortable with my it/its pronouns and then getting visibly upset when I counter with, "And in the beginning, God made the Earth, and said it was good." "The ultimate commandment was given - love thy neighbor as you love thyself - and it is the foundation of the world." And then when told not to use religion to justify decisions I'm uncomfortable with (ma'am I am very comfortable with this), my literature-major ass shot back, "Love endures. Time may erase records of it, but the heart remembers everything. It happened, therefore it mattered." "Justice is not a concept, it is a verb that comes alive in your actions. If it is present in your heart, it will be reflected in your conduct."

And then she told me I was being difficult, misgendered me, and ultimately sent me an email after the session today saying I need to find a new therapist who "is willing to enable" me.

All because my pronouns are uncomfortable to her even though I tie them, in my mind, to creation, to love, to justice, and to the planet Earth. Dehumanizing myself is unhealthy, I'm told. Apparently viewing my pronouns in terms of ideals that drive me forward and the planet I live on is unhealthy. I should instead be using they/them, pronouns that remind me of side characters in stories, of people in hypotheticals, of things that make me uncomfortable, because other people's comfort should be my priority. In fact, giving up on advocating for myself and instead prioritizing literally anyone except myself is, I am given to understand, the "healthy" way to act.

Compromise is a virtue - to a point. The dosage makes the poison. Compromise where I cut myself down so no one else has to be made uneasy by my standing tall is not healthy. That is also not what I deserve. If I were to turn to her and say, "I'm sorry, I think she/her is dehumanizing", I don't think there's a soul out there who would defend that.

I sent her back an email saying I was sorry that I was not able to convey my points clearly, but that I was glad she understood she's a bad fit for me. I don't need someone who makes my therapy sessions about herself. That's unprofessional, emotionally needy and childish, and I will not enable that.

this is exorsexism.

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Btw, privatization is stealing from *you.* You are the public in "publicly owned." Oligarchs are coming in to take the things we all share ownership of as Americans, like Medicare, Social Security, National Parks, PBS and scrapping them for parts they find profitable.

The right is planning to rob us and quite literally want us to thank them for the privilege by calling it "government efficiency."

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i may not have the magic words to fully express how i feel, but the world is better with trans women in it. my life is better with trans women in it. you are a warm light in the dark and your existence brings me and many others joy. you are my sisters and my dear friends. i love you and i'm glad you're here.

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local tribes are sending notices to members that folks should start carrying their CDIB and tribal IDs. some dine folks have been detained by ICE down south. so, it might be something worth doin' if it keeps yall safe.

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So, now the government has removed videos and banned teaching Air Force recruits about women who were pilots during WW2 as well as Tuskegee Airmen aka America's first black aviators. They're erasing history just to repeat the same mistakes.

Hopefully, this is a wake-up call because in case you weren't taught in school or you just forgot about it, this is a step by step nazi propaganda of the 1930s that gave Hitler and Mussolini power.

I'd like to add that there are protests happening GLOBALLY about this and many Americans have said that their algorithms are getting filtered and that they have no idea.

You're not alone. The entire world stands together to show nazis what our ancestors used to do to them in public squares.

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So the lemkin institute posted this

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im so tired so here's a recap of what trump did today summarized and probably incomplete because we are in super hell:

End birthright citizenship (a.k.a the 14th amendment)

Remove the legal existence of non-binary people

Withdraw from the world health organization

pardon jan 6 people

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Way, way too real (source)

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A reminder to anyone reading this that so-called Australia is stolen Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander lands, that we never ceded sovereignty to our colonizers. So called Australia is the only "Commonwealth" country that has never had a treaty with First Nations peoples. Only two years ago the government held a referendum to determine whether we, the sovereign peoples of this land, should have an advisory body in government and the nation voted no. So called Australia is the only nation that celebrates on January 26, the anniversary of the beginning of the attempted colonisation and genocide of its First Nations peoples. If you are not Aboriginal or Torres Strait Islander and you're living in so called Australia, you benefit directly from our colonisation and it's your duty to stand with us. Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people are the most incarcerated people by percentage on Earth. We are also the oldest living, continuous culture known to humankind. For 100s of 1000s of years our Mob stood beautiful, Blak and deadly and we will continue to do so because this always was and always will be our lands. We are still here.