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Stuckony Master List

*don't mind me, just reorganizing my master list*

My full Master List can be found here

Series

Inexplicably Tempting (Poly Pack A/B/O)

Second Chances (A/B/O)

Freedom (Wings AU)

Spoiled (Mafia AU)

Casually Always Yours (TPE Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

Soulmates Bodyswap AU

Daddy's Boy (Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

Two Brats are Better than One (TPE)

Belonging (A/B/O)

Captivated (Asset/Handler Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

We fit together like pieces of a puzzle (Post-CA:TWS Canon divergence)

Indulgent (Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

Princess Tony (Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

Falling In Love

Murder Family (Dark Serial Killer AU)

Classifieds Explicit Content

The Classifieds (NSAP Littles are Known AU)

Multi-chaptered

Little Stories (Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

The Secrets in the Manor (Mafia AU)

From Your Alpha Bucky (A/B/O Sugar Daddy AU)

Stark Motels (Small Town AU)

Even Sugar Daddies Need Daddies (Sugar Daddy AU)

Little Love (1990's AU)

Sensitivities (Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

In Blood We Love (Vamps AU)

Dispensable (NSAP)

Oneshots

Keep Me Warm (Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

Past Pleasures Make For Future Fun (Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

Poly Playdate (Polyvengers)

Birthday Surprise

Unexpectedly Yours (NSAP)

The Daddy Protocol (Asset/Handler Post-CA:TWS Canon Divergence)

Snippets

Just Hold Me (Subdrop snippet)

Auntie Nat is the Fun Aunt (NSAP snippet)

New Year's Surprise (New Year's snippet)

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21 for 21

In honor of my 21st birthday coming and passing, here are 21 of my favorite fanfics to ever exist (this is not an exhaustive list of my favorite works btw, there’s too many to list!):

Blackbonnet

Love & Metachrosis by multi_angxls

(My beloved Abby gifted this to me and it remains the very best ofmd fanfic to exist. I am only 3% biased in saying so, because it truly is a masterpiece.)

Frostiron

Blood on the Battlefield by STARSdidathing

(The angst in this one! I love me some good hurt!tony and the way this one utilizes that to bring maximum pain to Loki…ugh, it’s just so good. The best kind of angst in this one!)

Borrowed Heat by usedupshiver

(This is one of the very first frostiron fics I ever read, but this is the story that made me realize I had found a forever fandom in frostiron. It’s just everything.)

Entwined by STARSdidathing

(The feel-good story to end all feel-good stories, while also being enemies to friends to lovers. Incredible doesn’t begin to cover it.)

Fighting, Flyting, Flaunting, Flirting by Redring91

(I maintain this is the single best fanfiction I have ever read.)

Incarcerated by Shortsnout

(Something about this one just speaks to me. The subtleties, the emotions, the storyline…so. good!!! I’ve reread this one so many times I’ve lost count- I mean it. I’ve easily reread this over 50 times.)

Loki’s Song by NotEvenCloseToStraight

(I’m pretty sure this is the most beautiful thing I have ever read. Ever. It’s a masterclass.)

There All Along by STARSdidathing

(A/B/O is a trope I nearly never read because the dubious consent is something that triggers me to no end, but STARS creates an endlessly beautiful universe where a heat simply triggers an instinctive desire for closeness through cuddling. If it is possible for a story to be a safe space, this story is mine.).

The World At Your Fingertips by AMidnightDreary

(If I could only read five stories - no others - for the rest of my life, I’d choose this story as one of the five.)

Good Omens

So Still I Wait by HotCrossPigeon

(I read this one when I need the sort of pain that leaves you shaking. Mind-numbingly good.)

Spirk

Let’s Not Mind the Store After All by Reyka_Sivao

(This fanfic is the reason I created a folder titled “✨Best of the Best ✨” of fanfics bookmarked to read again. Truly, this is the best of the best.)

Some Kind of Love by WerewolvesAreReal

(This story just makes me feel at peace. It’s a feel-good read that soothes my soul and makes me feel warm.)

Stuckony

Cried For Love (Can’t Stand It) by Potrix

(This fanfic melts me. Every. Single. Damn. Time. It hits so hard and is just so well done!)

Small Time Boy by Just_Bill

(I love AUs like this so much, but this one is just supreme. It’s incredible in every way, 15/10. 150/10. It’s brilliant)

What Tony Stark Can’t Buy by ClarkeStetler and Goosenik

(*happy stims happy stims happy stims*)

Winteriron

1000 Paper Cranes to See You Kneel by Shi_Toyu

(When I say this one is a masterclass, I mean it. I really mean it. Emphasis on ‘mean it.’ It’s stellar.)

And Time Again by Amethystina

(This story hurts, but in the very best way possible. It is also like receiving a hug, at the same time. The very best!!)

One Winter Weather by ali_aliska

(The fluff!!! The sweetness and protectiveness and love present in every single action and conversation!! I love this one SO MUCH)

Paths Are Made by Walking by Potrix

(This one makes me grin stupidly at my phone while reading, which then makes my friends ask who I’m talking to, which then leads me to explain I’m talking to no one, I’m just reading the best fluff ever.)

Stronger by SkyShadow3246

(When I say this fanfic is devastating to read, I mean DEVASTATING. It aches, stings, and altogether wrecks me, but it also is a fanfic I revisit over and over again when I need to strong arm my way to the other side of what I’m going through.)

The Evidence by StrivingArtist

(This one just…hurts in a way that will always be deeply, deeply personal to me. The ache it leaves in my chest even days later will never not be powerful- the power of words right there. This is one of the best fanfics I’ve ever read, hands down.)

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SteveTony Weekly - February 19th

 Hey, friends!! Here’s what I’ve read this week–enjoy and be sure to leave a comment/kudo for your authors!!

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Weekend at Barton’s by scifigrl47

Finding a babysitter in New York is harder than it should be. Even if you’ve got a large extended (found) family to rope into watching your kid when you’ve got plans for a romantic weekend.

Tony’s reduced to letting Clint Barton watch his kid. He’s not overly happy about this. DJ is thrilled.

DJ’s Horrible, No-Good, Very Bad Day (Is Much Worse for Everyone Else) by scifigrl47

DJ Stark has a bad day. Everyone else suffers far more than he does. They prefer it that way.

How I Met Your Father by scifigrl47 

When the world’s falling apart, it’s hard to get reliable childcare.

For the prompt: Rhodey babysits DJ. (With bonus help from a few friends)

the bridge of the heart by hollyandvice (hiasobi_writes) 

Tony gets a lot of weird things delivered to the Tower, but an actual living, breathing human is not something he normally gets. So when Steve Rogers shows up, after an address mixup, Tony suddenly has a lot more on his plate than he’s used to.

Don’t Let Me Down (Got a Lot Going On Right Now) by sheron 

A failed chemistry experiment in the lab means Tony has to take off his gauntlet. In front of Steve. Who has never seen him without it before.

Jazz & Candles in the 21st Century by Humbuggy

Truthfully, it was the sound of jazz that pulled him in. Steve is in the most tranquil state he’s ever been in, and he wonders why it took him so long to discover this. Unfortuntly, tranquility doesn’t last long when you leave the door unlocked. In a choice between blackmail, potential ribbing and certain embarrasment - well, there’s not much of a choice at all.

Where You End by ashinan

The silence is comforting and Tony stumbles over to the stairs, thinking nothing short of a warm bed and a warm Steve and maybe some warm kissing.

Human Hands are Better by BGB

Tony hurts his back, so he invents a massaging machine.

Steve is better.

Beautiful by tinystark616

When he said genius, billionaire, playboy, philanthropist, he definitely didn’t mean the playboy part. Not anymore. Not after the arc reactor and all the shrapnel and…

And all the scars.

Three Little Words and an Appendix by Annie D (scaramouche)

Steve says “I love you” and kicks off the strangest argument he and Tony have ever had.

Hold Me (‘Til The Morning Comes) by tinystark616

The possibility of having to share a bed with Steve Rogers never actually crossed Tony’s mind.

Maybe in his fantasies, where Steve wanted him. Where Steve wasn’t angry. Where Steve loved him back.

But not in real life.

Never in real life.

Or,

Natasha forces Steve and Tony to share a bed, because she knows that their problem is actually just Unresolved Sexual Tension™

And I’m Holding On Tight to You by iam93percentstardust 

Tony would just like Steve to accept his courting gift (and maybe stop insisting he has to wear clothes) but apparently Steve thinks they have to take it slow (like glacier slow). What’s a lonely Fire Spirit to do?

Love All of Me by samptra

“I’m coming,” he mumbled as he pulled his helmet back on and replaced his gauntlets. Once more the faceless Iron Man, he turned on his heels and clunked out of the private room.

Yes, Tony Stark was a man of many secrets. And this was his biggest – he was Iron Man.

You Never Forget Your First by aven_garde

Three years ago, Steve had an unforgettable first night with his long- time crush, Tony Stark. Expecting to never see him again, Steve joins the Army, buffs up, and heads off to college to finish his education. Unfortunately, things get turned around when Steve finds himself a part of Tony’s group after their friends start hooking up. Even more unfortunate is that Tony seems to have no memory of their night together.

And all this before they become fuck buddies.

Steve’s life is really a mess.

Fairy Tales and Clockwork Hearts by scifigrl47

DJ was raised by Tony Stark, Steve Rogers, and the rest of the Avengers, with occasional help from the rest of New York’s hero population, and SHIELD. Everything he knows about love and human relationships come from people who aren’t really known for their safe and sane life choices.

It’s pretty clear he’s going to be utterly lousy at flirting. Luckily for him, he’s cute.

Pythagorean Expectation by trickdaggers

Steve turns, feeling his heart fall out of his chest at the figure walking towards them. This has to be a dream. A nightmare— one that Steve has definitely had before.

Tony Stark walking towards them does not compute. Even with his eyes shrouded by orange-tinted spectacles, there is no mistaking that lopsided grin and casual strut onto the field even from a distance. Steve’s head is swimming with questions. Tony holds so much notoriety right now that it would be near impossible to keep him transferring teams a secret, especially considering the team he would be leaving is owned by his own family.

(Aka, the fic in which Steve and Tony are rivals both off and on the baseball field— until they aren’t. And it’s also in the 90s, because why the hell not.)

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This might get 🏴‍☠️ (?) but anyways: happy 2021 everyone!

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outsiders and boring normal people and fandom newbies always think that buckwild kinky porn fanfiction is the strangest fandom hobby but they are wrong.

the strangest fandom hobby is plotty fanfiction, the kind that requires research, because engaging in this hobby makes no goddamned sense.

it doesn’t even give anybody masturbation material, which is at least a logical and admirable goal that contributes to the betterment of society, or at least society’s solitary orgasms.

in other news i hope the cia spyware monitoring my internet usage understands that i’m googling information about smuggling drugs in thailand because i want the details to be right in a single paragraph in a 10,000 word story about a gay mafia guys.

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Bartender Tony AU

Just:

Tony being the new bartender in Fury's bar and he's an instant hit. People lining up to see his "tricks", specially the ones with fire. There's no ring on his finger. No hint of a love life. Sam Wilson flirts with him. Bucky Barnes flirts with him. Natasha winks and laughs, clings to him—she wants to know him. And Tony being Tony, flirts back. But he never goes with any one of them and sometimes, he would tug at the chain peeking out around his collar.

The secret is the quiet, stoic bouncer at the gates, Steve Rogers, who Tony has been married to for four years.

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Tony, the futurist

Buckle in folks, I've had some thoughts and I'm about to make it ✨everyone's✨ problem.

Been thinking about Tony Stark, the futurist who saw the end of the world.

Tony, who in IM1 escapes kidnapping and torture and says, "I shouldn't be alive. Unless if was for a reason."

who, in The Avengers, has this exchange with Bruce Banner:

Tony: You know, I've got a cluster of shrapnel, trying every second to crawl its way into my heart. This stops it. This little circle of light. It's part of me now, not just armor. It's a… terrible privilege. Bruce: But you can control it. Tony: Because I learned how. Bruce: It's different. Tony: Hey, I've read all about your accident. That much gamma exposure should've killed you. Bruce: So you're saying that the Hulk… the other guy… saved my life? That's nice. It's a nice sentiment. Saved it for what? Tony: I guess we'll find out. Bruce: You might not like that. Tony: You just might.

Right after this, Cap tells Tony, "You're not the guy to make the sacrifice play, to lay down on a wire and let the other guy crawl over you."

And then Tony flies a nuke into a wormhole, tries to call his girlfriend because he thinks these are his last moments, did not go in there expecting to survive.

Although he survives, he witnesses an alien army so terrifying, so unbeatable, it gives him crippling PTSD nightmares and panic attacks, knowing they are not prepared to defend the earth.

I'm thinking about Tony who, in AOU, gets manipulated by Wanda into witnessing his worst nightmare.

Which, by the way, involves losing all of his newfound friends.

Later, he has this exchange with Nick Fury:

Tony: And I'm the man who killed the Avengers. I saw it. I didn't tell the team, how could I? I saw them all dead, Nick. I felt it. The whole world, too. It's because of me. I wasn't ready. I didn't do all I could. Fury: The Maximoff girl, she's working you, Stark. Playing on your fear. Tony: I wasn't tricked, I was shown. It wasn't a nightmare, it was my legacy. The end of the path I started us on. Fury: You've come up with some pretty impressive inventions, Tony. War isn't one of them. Tony: I watched my friends die. You'd think that'd be as bad as it gets, right? Nope. Wasn't the worst part. Fury: The worst part is that you didn't.

Tony's worst fear is to survive in a world he's failed to save. He has to "do all [he] could" or else the future he's terrified of will happen and it will be his fault.

(Not to put too fine a point on it, but there's a reason why Tony and Peter are so compatible as mentor and mentee.)

Tony's seen what's coming, and he's willing to do whatever it takes.

Here's the thing, though:

Tony doesn't actually want to die.

In AOU, when they're arguing about why he created Ultron, Tony says this to Cap:

"Isn't that the mission? Isn't that the 'why we fight'? So we get to go home?"

He tells Bruce that the reason they should create Ultron is to have "peace in our time."

He tells Pepper that his constant tinkering, his inability to ever, ever rest is because he needs to keep her safe from the oncoming threat.

Tony has a life he wants to protect, people he wants to keep safe. And, unlike the other Avengers, he knows exactly how impossible this will be to achieve.

Tony is the only Avenger who understands how severely outmatched they are. Maybe Thor understands the threat, but he has no ability to imagine losing.

Tony tries to get them to understand:

Tony: Recall that? A hostile alien army came charging through a hole in space. We're standing three hundred feet below it. We're the Avengers. We can bust arms dealers all the live long day, but, that up there? That's… that's the end game. How were you guys planning on beating that? Steve: Together. Tony: We'll lose. Steve: Then we'll do that together, too.

Well, they do lose. And they don't do it together.

And it turns out Tony was right about everything.

He was right that he would survive to face his world that he'd failed to save.

He was right that the Avengers would not be enough.

He was right that Bruce's powers would be worthwhile someday.

And, apparently,

some people think he was right that he was only alive for this reason.

Because, obviously, the only "reason" for someone like Tony Stark to be alive is to eventually sacrifice himself, right?

A character so traumatized can only find peace in death.

Right?

No.

Stop that.

Tony Stark may have been willing to risk his life for his family, but that doesn't mean he wanted that to be his end.

Remember when this happened?

Bruce: Saved it for what? Tony: I guess we'll find out. Bruce: You might not like that. Tony: You just might.

Bruce gets to live long enough to like his ending.

Remember when this happened?

All Tony ever wanted to do was make the world a better place.

And, what about this?

You're telling me that Yinsen didn't value family above all else?

That he thought Tony should die and leave them behind?

No.

Tony Stark is a futurist.

He is the Cassandra of the MCU. He warns the others constantly of the oncoming threat that only he, apparently, can see. (Even Thanos calls him "cursed with knowledge.")

No one believes him. Alone, he tries to prepare for the threat that he has witnessed. He sits with his nightmares and tries to find a way around them, constantly.

He builds a life worth living, finds people worth protecting, just like Yinsen told him to.

To protect the future, he does all he possibly can.

Tony deserved to be part of the future too.

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⚠️sexy times⚠️🔞🔞🔞

the next morn'

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theappleppielifestyle stevetony fic archive

Hey everyone! Some of you may know that theappleppielifestyle recently chose to anonymize all of her AO3 fics.

Here is the link to an archive that contains 100+ theappleppielifestyle Marvel fics (mostly SteveTony) that were posted on AO3, compiled by @ishipallthings. Again, most of the fics in the archive are still up on AO3 but anonymized, so the links to those fics still work!

Archive link: https://t.co/Co4dDBE9Y0    

This archive was created with the author’s permission. Thank you to theappleppielifestyle for the beautiful writing and for allowing us to create and share this archive. Thank you to @ishipallthings for compiling all of the fics and creating the archive.

Enjoy!

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what are your top 5 favorite stevetony fics that you've written? :D

i'd forgotten just how many fics i've written until i looked at them all for this lol. these are sort of in order? mostly?

1. to the moon and to saturn

2. dust off your highest hopes

3. your ivy grows

4. take me away to you

5. and that's how it works

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After a fight

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stevebucky + romance tropes

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Kinktober 2022 - Prompt List

I decided to create a prompt list for Kinktober 2022 with a Seven Deadly Sins theme. Feel free to interpret them however you like and even use them for non-sexual prompts if anything catches your fancy.

Transcript found beneath the cut

LUST ( 1st - 4th October )

ENVY ( 5th - 8th October )

Desire — stripteases / lapdances / lingerie / sending

or receiving suggestive imagery / seduction / dirty talk / dancing

WRATH ( 9th - 12th October )

Possession — marking territory / caught in the act / infidelity /

cuckoldry / making someone jealous

GREED ( 13th - 17th October )

Conflict — hate sex / angry sex / break-up sex / sparring / using

weapons / orgasm denial / restraints

SLOTH ( 18th - 22nd October )

Satiation — multiple orgasms / overstimulation / threesome or moresome

/ pampering / servicing

GLUTTONY ( 23rd - 27th October )

Comfort — morning sex / clothes on / lovemaking / erotic massage /

solo sex / mutual masturbation / baths or showers / keeping quiet

PRIDE ( 28th - 31st October )

Intoxication — food / blood-drinking / oral sex / drunk or high sex /

multiple rounds

Vanity — mirror sex / exhibitionism / public sex / getting loud /

costumes or masks

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Genius, billionaire, playboy, philanthropist. THE AVENGERS (2012)

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SEBASTIAN STAN in THE FALCON AND THE WINTER SOLIDER (2021)

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I recently came across a discussion on Tony Stark as a queer-coded character in the comics (which I’m not going to link to because many of the threads were already deleted, ergo I’m assuming that the participants didn’t want the conversation to be spread), and I found it very interesting. For years I have read Tony Stark as subtextually bisexual in the comics, which hasn’t really translated to the films – at least not to the extent that the character of Captain America has been coded as bisexual in them. There has always been a borderline homoerotic relationship between Tony and his armor especially. But adjacent to this conversation, there was also an interesting thread in which Tony Stark as the most female-coded superhero was discussed that I found fascinating.

Someone commented on the concept stating that while it may be true for the comics, movie-verse Tony Stark is certainly not female-coded.

But isn’t he, though?

We’ve discussed before how hypermasculinity sometimes seems to go so over-the-top that it does a full 360, coming out the other side seeming rather feminized, the hypermasculine male presented as a sexual object with assets on display (slim waist, thick thighs, full chest) for the consumption of the male gaze. But that’s not the case with Tony Stark; it isn’t his hypermasculinity that makes him seem female-coded, it’s the question of agency.

Tony does seem to possess many traits that we consider culturally feminine, female cliches, such as talking a lot and talking fast, using a rich vocabulary, a short and petite stature as compared to other superheroes, the narrative passing jugement on his promiscuity, the narrative passing judgement on his desire for junk-food, his passive demeanor, his self-consciousness about his body and having to wear underarmor in public to manage his chest, his avoidance of interpersonal conflict, looking for daddy’s love and approval, the way in which he conceals much of his intelligence because he knows that if people saw him for how he really is, they would be off-put by it ie. giving the appearance of being smart-but-not-too-smart, the eroticizing of his appearance in the narrative, the focus on what he’s wearing, his obsessive-compulsive behavior, meticulous grooming habits, delicate features, dressing to impress professionally, carrying conversations, his weakness being his heart, the fact that he has to dress into a suit that conceals his identity, his true self, to interact with the world, a hard outer shell that conceals his soft inside. There are aspects to Tony Stark in the films that are female-coded.

I think that some people might find these aspects difficult to see because there are three distinct personas to the character: there’s the Tony Stark that he projects to the outside world to hide who he really is that is his true armor, there’s Iron Man that is a prosthetic, an armor that shields him and allows him the protection of being who he really is, and then there’s Tony Stark, the person he is in his heart of hearts that we see only when’s alone with the artificial intelligences he created for himself, as his friends, the only friends that really, truly get to see him, because he knows that they won’t judge him (outside of him being alone, we see glimpses of the ‘real’ Tony Stark in Afganistan, in his interactions with Natasha and in two scenes with Steve: while they’re cutting wood and Tony asking Steve whether he knew).

These are the three sides to Tony Stark, and I see a lot of fans confuse his Tony Stark armor, his protective persona, with who he is because that is, by design, the loudest, most visible side to him.

There are many sides to him that are female-coded, but it’s the limited agency that he is given in the narrative that is the most telling. Most of his stories seem to revolve around the stripping of his agency and his struggle to regain it. This character – a genius, billionaire, playboy, philantropist – who ought to be the ultimate male power fantasy has all of his stories constructed around his lack of agency and his need of a prosthetic to claim agency for himself. It’s easy to assume that an able-bodied, rich, good-looking, well-educated, white CEO of the American upper crust has all the power and control in the world, but the narrative begins disabusing the viewer of this notion right off the bat. The narrative deconstructs his agency.

What I appreciated about the Iron Man films was how they subverted the role of the damsel in distress in Pepper Potts. Especially the end of the first film in which Pepper marched through broken glass in her stiletto shoes to save Tony Stark was something that made me stop and think for days afterwards. The third film basically recreated this subversion of the trope louder for those in the back that hadn’t caught it the first time. It was Pepper Potts that was the knight in shining armor, not the title character.

And it is Tony that we see as the damsel in distress, particularly again in the first and the third films. The first film contains the iconic scene of Obadiah Stane literally removing Tony’s agency in a scene that is filmed like a sexual violation, a none-too-subtle air of erotic violence in the air as he uses his date rape technology to incapacitate Tony. This is a turning point in the film. The third film contains a scene in which Tony Stark is zip-tied to a bed frame with the villain taunting him. It is implied that Tony is similarly submissive in bed. The main villain in the scene acts like a spurned lover, a definite air of seduction to his conduct toward the tied-up hero.

That is two cases of villains making eroticized advances toward a physically incapacitated Tony Stark. And it isn’t the violence or the incapacitation that makes the scenes female-coded, it is the eroticization of it. It is female characters that are subject to eroticized violence, generally speaking. The second film does not follow the pattern, but it could be interepreted as an obsessive, spurned man making unwanted advances toward our hero.

I wrote about the interaction between Natasha and Tony previously, on how she allows us to see a side of him that we usually don’t get to see. Some people have described Tony’s hiring of her as sexist, undoubtedly influenced by Pepper’s interpretation of his behaviour as he tried to figure her out (“And she is potentially a very expensive sexual harassment lawsuit if you keep ogling her like that.”), but his interest in her was never that kind of interest. His eyes don’t track her sexual assets. Tony saw something of himself in her, especially in the way she was playing a role, but even more than that, I think Tony saw in Natasha Romanoff something that he wanted desperately to be. In control.  

Natasha Romanoff gives the air of being in control even when she gives up control, and in this she is the opposite of Tony Stark.

With this in mind, and I don’t remember whether I wrote about this before, I was quite disturbed by the way the climax of Civil War was shot not unlike a pornographic sex scene, Tony Stark being double-teamed by the super soldiers. The ending of the scene especially, with Steve straddling Tony, pounding on him, grunting, finishing it off with breathing heavily as he falls off Tony having penetrated his arc reactor with his shield, having incapacitated Tony’s prosthetic. Tony spits out blood as the super soldiers walk away from him. It’s rather symbolic, the implications of the scene very uncomfortable.

While Bucky Barnes is another character whose storyline heavily features the stripping down of agency, the female-coding of the strong, stoic silent-type is largely absent. Bucky Barnes and Tony Stark share similarities, and in this he offers a contrast to Tony.

So, yes. I do see Tony Stark of the movie-verse as a female-coded superhero because his story revolves around desperately grasping for agency. Among these hypermasculine heroes, the genius-billionaire-playboy-philantropist is at a disadvantage, so Tony Stark invented, constructed, and put on a suit that hides his true identity in order to have a measure of agency in a hypermasculine world, that allows him to assert himself. And in Civil War he was willing to sign off on his self-created agency because the establishment had managed to convince him that as a person with near unlimited resources, he was a danger to the world that he had risked his life and the lives of his loved ones to protect.

I think one of the most telling aspects of his character vis-à-vis Civil War is that, convinced that it is too dangerous for him to attempt to influence the outside world and other people in it, Tony Stark instead turned within and attempted to modify his own internal world, to (literally) influence his own internal state instead – to accept what he can’t change. This is a classic strategy of the disenfranchised.

Tony Stark is the most female-coded of the male superheroes.