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“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”

— Laurell K. Hamilton

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“I just need someone to hug me and tell me I’m not as worthless as I think I am.”

— Unknown

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How to Start a Conversation when you have Nothing to Talk About

Starting a conversation to get to know someone or breaking an awkward silence can be very stressful. To start a conversation when you have nothing to talk about, use these guidelines.

1. Introduce yourself if necessary. If you don’t know the person, breaking the ice is very simple: look approachable, tell the new person your name, offer your hand to shake, and smile.

2. Comment on the location or occasion. Look around and see if there is anything worth pointing out. Examples of location or occasion comments include: “This is a gorgeous room!”, or “Great dog!”

3. Ask an open-ended question. Most people love to talk about themselves, and open questions can help with this. These require an explanation for an answer rather than just a simple yes or no. Open questions tend to begin with who, when, what, why, where, and how.

4. Keep the conversation going with small talk. This keeps the conversation light and simple, and helps to establish similarities.

5. Synchronize. Once the other person has started talking, follow his or her cues to keep the conversation going smoothly. Use active listening to reflect what they’re saying and, perhaps, feeling.

6. Helpful techniques and cues to convey your interest include: Say the other person’s name from time to time; give encouraging feedback (by nodding, saying “ah-ha”, “wow’, “oh” “That’s amazing!”, etc.); keep your body language open and welcoming; and make comfortable, genuine eye contact with the person.

7. Be aware of your internal monologue. When you suddenly feel that you’re not able to engage in conversation with someone else, it’s likely that you’re saying negative things to yourself. For example, you may be worrying that you’re boring, not good enough, too unimportant, intruding, wasting their time, and so on. Try to keep in mind that everyone has these self-doubts from time to time.

8. Respond thoughtfully to someone who remains awkward or uncomfortable. If he or she appears withdrawn and uninterested, don’t persist for too long. Try a bit more, and then make the decision to move on and talk to somebody else. Also, be careful not to ask too many questions as they may feel shy discussing themselves.

Source: http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About (Adapted)

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gentle reminder

if you feel like you’re relapsing, that’s okay - it’s a terrible fight, and i’m so sorry that you might be falling again, but please don’t take that as a sign to stop trying to get better; keep fighting through every day, please: things aren’t hopeless

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#SuccessfulSaturdays

10 Things You Need To Have In Your Life To Be Successful

1. Vision - knowing where we’re going. We need to have a clear of what being successful looks like for us - once we’ve got a detailed mental picture of the reality we want to create we can start mapping our actions to this goal.

2. Mindset - how we keep moving forward. Success in any area of our lives requires us to be committed to the cause, if we take the half-assed approach we will get half-assed results - we need to use our whole ass.

3. Work - the dream won’t work unless we do. Regardless of the results we’re seeking they won’t materialise unless we work for them - we must align our actions with our goals or else we’ll never achieve them.

4. Purpose - why we do what we do. Doing anything without having a strong reason why will inevitably result in quitting - which is the only true form of failure. There will be times when we want to quit - having a strong why is how we push through the hard times.

5. Love - enjoying what we do. The only way to do great things is to love what we do, if we don’t love the process of creating success we will surely give up before we reach the goal.

6. Patience - the marathon mentality. Our road to success is long and this is why we must adopt the marathon mentality - moving at a consistent pace. Trying to sprint to the finish will result in having to take long breaks to recuperate and this wastes time. 

7. Meditation - staying focused. Making time to be present with ourselves each day can allow us an insight into our thought processes - this is vital for cultivating a strong mindset and ridding ourselves of limiting beliefs.

8. Mindfulness - having perspective. Tuning into the present moment is the key to taking action and putting a stop to negative thought patterns that distract us from our path such as comparing ourselves to others.

9. Exercise - working out the stress. We accumulate stress throughout each day, the key to creating success is having a healthy outlet to express these emotions - running, swimming, martial arts and yoga can all help us to work out our emotions and stop them from distracting us from our path.

10. Rest - recharging our batteries. A common misconception is that those who are successful don’t sleep and this couldn’t be further from the truth - they are successful because they are allowing their bodies to rest which allows them to make the most of the time they’re awake.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint - be patient, greatness takes time.

Peace & positive vibes.

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BLOSSOM

BUBBLES

AND BUTTERCUP

HAVE DEDICATED THEIR LIVES TO FIGHTING CRIME 

AND THE

FORCES

OF

EVIL

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Take this with you

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This is important.

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Pentatonix Singer Mitch Grassi: Pop’s Unlikely Radical

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Don’t say maybe if you want to say no

Paulo Coelho (via glassbonespaperskin)

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When Hayley Kiyoko releases the gayest album known to man.

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legendary leiomy displaying the 5 elements of vogue fem performance oxygen interview, ‘leiomy maldonado is the wonder woman of vogue’

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this just blew me away. holy FUCK.