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It's wild to me how much furry art I was marinated in as a child and yet I am still not a furry. "You can be!" No, I can't. I've tried so many times. It's never taken. I'm like those cis+ people but for furries.

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Please reblog this picture of my beautiful son.

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My tip for trying to compartmentalize your emotions or desires is to realize when you're using hyperbolic shorthand for an actually realistic desire. I know realizing even that can be difficult sometimes but let me demonstrate

"I wish I was popular" -> I want to be noticed and engaged with, and I need reassurance and the feeling of connection

"I wanna delete my blog and ghost my friends" -> I want to act out in a visible way that expresses how frustrated I am / I feel overwhelmed with connections and need time to cool off

"I wanna do something reckless/dangerous" -> I feel trapped in obligations and am buckling under stress, I need a sufficient outlet and more freedom to exist in peace

Obviously there may be different kinds of feelings or needs under your particular impulses, these are just some fairly common examples of what you could be feeling. The harder part is trying to figure out what it is that causes this impulse, and even harder might be if you don't have control over the situation, and are unable to have your needs met. It's not always your fault if you're feeling bad, but realizing where it stems from can help you seek out new paths to relieve it. This is something I've learnt working in therapy.

The toddler in your heart has valid needs. But it is a toddler and will scream and cry about it. Learn to sit by until it's done and then ask if it wants a juice box or a hug

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MANIFESTING

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Trannyfag programming San Francisco early 2000s from @sexchange.tbt on instagram

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i spent a lot of time in my teens involved in Discourse (to varying degrees) because i felt powerless* and like it was my duty to Do Something, but really i just ended up making myself extremely upset very often. it would have been a much better use of my time to simply read books, watch documentaries etc. rather than trying to make everyone in online queer spaces 'learn' the 'correct opinions'

these days i mostly stay out of stuff because the idea of arguing with somebody who's been trans for 6 months about this stuff gives me a headache

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The limestone strata on Bear Island (Bjørnøya), Svalbard, Norway, has been dramatically folded in places.

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2014-09-02

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2023-08-13

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pens in sketchbook