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"immortality sucks because all your friends die" all your friends die anyway. those we do not mourn are those who mourn us.

"immortality sucks because you forget who you are" we always forget who we are. do you remember who you were at four years of age? who you were at fourteen? "who i am" is a shadow cast on the wall.

"immortality sucks because" skill issue. skill issue. skill issue. give me your liver

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The 20 year old child in me pleads “Protect me, please. Make me feel safe. I just want to be worthy of empathy, kindness and protection.”

The 11 year old adult in me explains “We can only depend on ourselves for protection & safety. Others are not to be trusted. The way to survive in this world is to be self-reliant.”

We have not found a compromise yet.

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Something that was crucial to me being able to foster healthy relationships (platonic and romantic) was learning those around me aren’t mind readers.

Communicating honestly and effectively can allow people to be there for you. It can also allow you to work out conflicts in order to maintain long term relationships.

It might seem “wrong” to ask for your needs to be met. But it isn’t. In fact, usually our loved ones prefer us to be up front with our needs rather than hinting at them. (Hinting is exhausting for both parties and easily missed.)

Communicate your boundaries. “When you tease me about —-, it really upsets me. Please don’t do that anymore.”

Communicate what is working for you. “When you reach out to check in when I’m having a hard time, it really helps and makes me feel supported.”

Communicate what you need. “Things are really hard right now. I could use the company of a friend. Can I call you?”

A lack of communication can lead to relationships breaking. Resentment builds. Misunderstandings happen. Feelings get hurt.

If you don’t tell your loved ones what you need, then it’s unfair to us and them to be upset at them for not reading your mind.

You are allowed to have needs and wants. And you are allowed to express them.

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Doing your best doesn't mean working so hard that it's unsustainable because it's harming your mental and/or physical health to keep it up.

Doing your best means putting the amount of effort into something that you're able to give that day without harming your mental or physical health in the process.

So doing your best doesn't always mean "doing it well" or even just "doing it" and that's perfectly okay. Sometimes your best is a break.

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every time you google a female specific health issue you get results like "it's estimated between 9-34% of women suffer from this condition. its causes are unknown and treatment is either birth control or just fucking raw dogging it. diagnosis takes an average of 12 years because only 8 different doctors are informed about it and every other one will tell you you're making it up"

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They’re distracting a nervous dog during a blood draw.

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I'm sure she's fine

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use, and i cannot stress this enough, thriftbooks

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Nothing Doing no. 20

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Here's uBlock Origin's official guide to bypassing youtube's anti-adblock popups, updated weekly. Please share widely. Don't reward google for their predatory anti-consumer bullshit

To summarize: 1. Get uBlock Origin and make sure it's updated to the latest version. 2. Click on the gear icon to get to the dashboard, go to "Filter lists", and make sure that "uBlock filters - Quick fixes" is up to date

Repeat those steps any time you get another popup (google and uBlock are having an arms race right now so it might stop working at any moment), and if you have any more problems, read the reddit thread for troubleshooting advice

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queerness under apartheid

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i blog for girls who were deeply lonely in elementary school and stayed that way

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