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challenge yourself to dedicate this summer to putting yourself first.

putting self-care, self- compassion and self-improvement ahead of anything else will make you realise how worthy you are of love and joy! just take it one habit and one day at a time and see where you are by this autumn ·˚ ༘

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the best thing you can do for yourself is to stick to your routine and not your feelings

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academic princess ୭ 🧷 ✧ ˚. ᵎᵎ 🎀

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„she’s all that.”

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Since the beginning of evolution, men have worked to impress women with security and assets. Women have, for generations, chosen the best man available to them, who loves them and can provide. Men chose the women with the strongest genetics which was portrayed by physical beauty, health and intelligence.

Men at age 18-30, speaking generally cannot offer anything. They are financially just starting out, and barely have enough for themselves let alone a woman.

Men under 30, and even some under 40, are just looking for casual fun and to see what’s out there. They don’t want to commit to one woman for fear that he‘ll miss out on the other options and regret it. But men don’t do this for 1 year or even 2. They seem to do the same thing over and over for 10 or 15 years. 

This is the reason modern men do not want to invest in a woman, and the reason behind the 50/50 dating style. If he doesn’t buy anything for you, or support you in any way financially, he has no responsibility in the relationship and can leave at any time. There is a reason why many cultures ask for a bride price at the time of marriage. It’s to show the man’s sincerity, seriousness and devotion to the woman and their relationship. If a man invests 10-30k in you, do you think he will just leave? He will see it as a long term investment.

However most men don’t want to do this on their own. Some men will, of course they will offer. But a majority of men would rather have you not knowing your own worth and downplaying it, so they don’t have to put in any effort or be responsible. They want to keep their options open. This is why dating and seduction tips are necessary. I don’t believe it is manipulation because there is no negative psychological damage done or any abuse. The man is not forced to do anything dangerous or bad for himself. But rather his mind is opened on how to treat a woman better, he might be clueless on what you want. He can always say no and you can always move on.

We have to be realistic about men, of course we have to ask and suggest the things we want to them. What man can just know that we want that Chanel classic flap in medium in caviar leather that we saw on instagram one time. Do you think he’s a mind reader? Or gay? Some men are generous and want to be, but they don’t know how, and they rather not risk buying the wrong thing. Some men will try to withhold their money if you don’t ask them and push them a bit. You have to know your worth and don’t settle when they try to cheap out. Why is it seen as extortionate and golddigging for a woman to want a house and gold investments upon MARRIAGE, but simply normal for a man to expect a young and beautiful women at the prime of her life to be happy with a Netflix and chill offer. Men’s lust and desire for women’s bodies (after all the standards they place on women) for free is normalized but women having any standard at all for a man is demonized.

This is why men say women over 30 are expired or not valuable. Most women over 30 still look 25. A woman at 30 may finally have realised her intrinsic value as a woman. They no longer feel impressed by being “flown out” or a primark haul worth £200. They realize that if a man asks them on holiday, he needs to pay for her flights, a separate room, a spending allowance and however much money she is losing by taking time off of work. But a 21 year old who doesn’t know her value might only ask for the flight ticket and think he’s doing so much for her. This is how young girls end up in compromising situations with no way home. You have to be brave enough to ask for what you want, and how you want it.

When looking for a man women need to forget sex. Sex does not benefit women the way it benefits men. If you are a woman who is getting in the bed all the time the man won’t take you seriously and will never spend money on you. You need to know the value of sex and how to use it in the beginning stages. You shouldn’t be sleeping with a man until there is a significant investment made and a clear title with marriage on the table. But you should put sex in their head often through behavior, style, speech and even telling them you are looking for fun. This will drive them crazy and get them to do things for you. Just like how dogs are on their best behavior before they get a treat.

Women also need to forget men’s looks. We have all met men with crazy egos who think they are gods gift to the earth. Men will put absolutely no effort into their looks or personality or how they treat you and yet they think you should be grateful to even be around him. Ugly, Old and Fat. These are the three characteristics you need to pick 2 of. If you don’t want an old man you have to look for ugly and fat, if you don’t like fat you need to look for ugly and old etc. These men will really surprise you with their egos still. They will be super confident and entitled. Let’s be real, a man’s looks don’t pay the bills but a woman’s looks does. If the man looks better than you it will not work in your favour. He will age better than you, and when he’s 40 he’ll look 30, when you’re 40 you’ll look 50 beside him. This is the same reason I say date older, men with money age slower and better.

Any woman can date older and golddig. We have makeup and wigs, eyelash extensions, heels and dresses. We have everything we need to be glamorous and beautiful. Men do not see individual women but they see the “type” of woman. What they see on first glance is what they’ll remember you as. Were you sexy? Cute? Elegant? They don’t see that your nose is crooked and your hairline is uneven and they don’t even care. So forget insecurity and remember your true value as a woman. The ugliest woman still has a higher value than the best man in the dating market, just by being a woman.

Some women worry they will miss out on experiences with young men if they date older from a young age. But what will you miss? Drinking in a field in a mini dress? Being cheated on by a gym bro? Staying in hostels when you travel?

Lets be real, it’s better to be an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave.