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So I’ve really been thinking and it’s great that I’m feeling much happier and confident in my skin. This is a new experience for me and I’m really loving it. I bring this up because the other day someone close to me commented that ‘oh you look so happy. I’m sure your ex is shaking in his boots’; meaning he must be regretting his decision. Honestly I didn’t really say much to that comment and kinda just laughed it off but it got me thinking that as much as I’m living life and moving on I’d always want that for him too. Why must people wish that I move on but neither does he. To have the mentality that you will do whatever you want and not care what other people think or say is truly amazing. This must be felt by everyone really. Tbh I’m not trying to show anybody but myself that I should live out loud and stop thinking that my happiness does not come first. Maybe that experience pushed me towards it or maybe I was already on my way there who knows. However I do know we reach this space at our own pace and we need such happenings in our life to finally get there.

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Personal growth isn’t about becoming a different person, it’s about fundamentally changing how you interact with who you already are.

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2018

My year of:

Choosing myself over and over, and not feeling guilty for doing so.

Saying goodbye to forced friendships, toxic friendships, one-sided friendships, tiring friendships, etc.

Never ever ever again settling for partners who work overtime to make me believe I’m hard to love. Never ever again. Even when I’m loneliest.

Staying focused on the things that matter.

Seeking help when l need it.

Accepting help when it is offered.

Accepting love when it is given.

Being more loving.

Being more forgiving.

Protecting my space.

Taking more risks (academically, career-wise, etc.)

Remembering to focus on my own journey and not compare myself to others (especially important this year).

Celebrating the victories (no matter how small).

And, above all, being more spiritual and being able to listen to (and obey) God amidst all the noise.

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SAME ENERGY THIS SEMESTER 🗣

I made the decision last week that I was going to make myself proud this semester. It was weird it just dawned on me that it was something I had to do for myself

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Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you. Even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect – do not hold them to this standard. Find someone who is patient, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important.

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I got my heart broken and I survived, I failed 3 courses in university and graduated, I got rejected in the very first job I applied for and got promoted yesterday, I went through hard times with my family but then two years later, we laughed our hearts out over lunch, The closest friends disappointed me several times but I made new friends and loved them with all my heart. I did it once, I can do it again.

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I think my butt is slowly coming back guysss😬 💃🏾🎉

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Love falling asleep to rain falling 😊

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Miss this look tbh

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Haven’t posted anything in a while and I like these so yeahh

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I made the decision last week that I was going to make myself proud this semester. It was weird it just dawned on me that it was something I had to do for myself

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understanding yourself is power.

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I get tired of reaching out to people. Tired of texting first. Tired of checking up. Tired of biting my pride. But it’s The God in me that keeps pushing me.

Keep reaching out. Keep checking up on people. Keeping humbling yourself. “Keep showing that undeserving love”, He says, “because it’s the same underserving love that you’re drowning in.

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who cares, do better, move on

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I am about to walk into a new season of my life filled with

abundance. financial security. new career. + benefits + salary increase joy. love. peace. confidence. purpose. spiritual growth. change. new opportunities. traveling. knowledge. reciprocity. creativity. passion.

Claiming it as if it’s already mine.