snowseraphim

[snowseraphim]

regardless of what "side" you're on i hope we can all at least agree that degendering a transfem because you're mad at her is still shitty regardless of whether she's actually done anything bad or not

[snowseraphim]

What is transandrophobia and why is it called that? By the guy who coined it and is kind of tired of seeing it defined in the opposite of what it's meant to describe.

In it's most simple definition. Transandrophobia is the way that the fear of men impacts the material reality and mental/physical health of transgender men.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity effects transgender men’s ability to access queer and transgender spaces, sexual assault survivor resources, and reproductive health care.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity holds back transgender men from transitioning or from presenting as masculine.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the disowning of transgender men from previous found families and the isolation of transgender men in general.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity has resulted in people using their trauma as an excuse for abusing transgender men, physically, sexually, and emotionally.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men has resulted in people refusing admittance to “male identified people” to certain queer events and safe spaces.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of masculinity has led to people assuming that butches across the gender spectrum are inherently violent and hyper-sexual.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the forced feminization of transgender men in queer spaces, with the insistence that those who refuse to feminize themselves to make others more comfortable should not be allowed entrance to certain queer spaces.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men has led people to assuming that butches who were assigned female at birth, are at risk of becoming the enemy (a man) and should not be given the same amount of trust as a feminine presenting cis woman.

Transandrophobia, is when that the fear of men being in women’s spaces prevents trans men and non-binary people who present as male from accessing gynecological care, abortions, and birth control.

Transandrophobia, is when transgender men must make themselves smaller to be seen as “one of the good ones” and it is when a trans man who is loud or sexual or Black or Brown or too masculine is seen as a threat to the safety of other transgender people.

Transandrophobia, is when transgender men who speak up about how the normalized way of speaking ill about men in feminist and queer spaces has made them activity suicidal, de-transition, or prevented them from transitioning, are told to “shut up and sit down” or “good.”

Transandrophobia, is not when trans men face misogyny – that is just a trans man facing misogyny (which all trans men face, because misogyny and sexism effects everyone, not just women). However, transandrophobia is when someone says that trans men don’t face misogyny because they are men, make claims that trans men benefit from misogyny since they are men, or insist that trans men’s experiences with misogyny aren’t as valid or as bad as when a woman or non-male person faces misogyny.

Transandrophobia, is when trans men’s struggles are dismissed as being less important, because men don’t need help or men already have help or men don't face real struggles.

Transandrophobia, is when people refuse to acknowledge that the patriarchy see’s transgender men as failed women and not men, which is why transgender men do bot benefit from the patriarchy but are instead violently and systematically punished by it.

Transandrophobia is that and a whole lot more, I would need a book to describe the entirety of the issue, I have been writing a book on it for over six years and re-writing it over and over because if I say it wrong, or say it with too much emotion, or not enough emotion, or with too many numbers, or not enough numbers, and publish it without using perfect wording, trans men might not get another chance to speak up for a long ass time and we will once again have to find new words to say "Pretty please treat me like a human being and let me have access to the things I need in order to survive." and "Pretty please consider that if a large group of people from a minority are telling you they are being oppressed by these actions and fears, then maybe you should believe them or at least the material statistical evidence of that oppression, since you probably trust journals more than us describing our reality and lived experiences."

[snowseraphim]

thinking about my complicated experiences with gender as a trans guy:

so, currently i present masc and even pass occasionally despite being pre-t. i have short hair, wear a binder, dress very masculine, the whole nine yards. but! i also love presenting feminine. long hair, dresses, heels, etc. i can't dress that way right now because of dysphoria relating to my body.

when i get top surgery and start passing consistently, i'll grow out my hair and on occasion dress fem again. this isn't because i'm 'clinging' to femininity or because i'm a trender or faking being trans. the easiest way to explain it is that i was meant to be a man who likes crossdressing, and god got confused and intially made me a girl.

i do worry about being even lonelier than i am now when i get further into my transition. most cis people would find me confusing and i've even seen fellow trans people being transphobic to unconventional trans people like fem trans guys and masc trans girls.

i haven't been very vocal about my experience, because i'd face a lot of hate and doubt. i doubt myself enough as it is. but i wanted to write a little post to sort out my thoughts. i haven't ever really seen anyone like me so i hope someone out there might read this and relate.

(my asks and dms are open if anyone wants to chat <3)

[snowseraphim]

nsfw alphabet with lamb (oc)

MINORS DNI !

some fun nsfw brainstorming about my character lamb! i also posted some art of them just before this, go look!

tw: general stuff regarding sex, mentions of shibari, mentions of pain play and choking, insecurities, bodily fluids, degradation

To preface this, Lamb is exclusively a sub. They will top/penetrate if their partner wants it, but prefers to keep the submissive role. The answers to the prompts are written with this in mind.

Aftercare: They enjoy whatever kind of aftercare you are willing to give them. Cuddles and taking a nap after the deed is their favourite though. If they’re in a situation where you're the one who wants/needs aftercare, they’ll be a little lost but will try their best. Lamb would probably bring you water and a snack, then offer to talk about it.

Body part: Their favourite body part on themselves is their back because they love their back tattoo. On you, Lamb especially loves your hands… which is why one of their go-to flirting tactics is comparing hands. They would never call their fascination with hands a kink… but it definitely is.

Cum: They tend to have dry orgasms, but when there is cum, there’s very little of it. Lamb is grossed out by all bodily fluids and hates it when cum gets on them or the on the sheets.

Dirty secret: It’s not much of a secret, but Lamb’s biggest fantasy is being tied up with pretty ribbons. To them it’s less about being restricted and more about the artistic nature of shibari.

Experience: A little bit of experience. Lamb isn’t a virgin before they meet you, but their experience is limited to a few drunken one night stands. They aren’t totally lost but they also aren’t confident in their skills which is part of why they like to let you take the lead.

Favourite position: Doggy. No questions asked. Loves to show off their back tattoo, loves the deep angle, loves having their hair gently pulled. In the situation where they’re the one penetrating, likes cowgirl the most because they like to stare at your pretty face.

Goofy: Not one bit. If you laugh at something during the deed, Lamb will interpret it as you laughing at them. They’ll call for a time out to figure out why you were laughing at them… and upon finding out that their lover indeed was not laughing at them, Lamb will get embarrassed and a little grumpy. They’re just too insecure for silliness in the bedroom. 

Hair: Lamb’s body hair is blonde and not very visible. They keep it trimmed down there, but don’t like to shave because it itches when growing back out. Doesn’t have a preference about your body hair.

Intimacy: Lamb enjoys both romantic and non-romantic sex. Physical pleasure is the most important thing to them, but likes it lovey-dovey too. They usually go based off how you both are feeling in the moment.

Jack off: Lamb likes to touch themselves, sometimes even prefers it to sex. It’s a way of relieving stress and showing themselves love. It’s even more fun to do it with their partner. This way they have full control over their own pleasure while still being affectionate with their lover.

Kink: They aren’t a very kinky person in general, but they have a few fantasies… most notably shibari. Lamb is also interested in petplay, but they consider that a bit too embarrassing to admit. They also want to ask you to overstimulate them some time, but they’re too nervous to ask.

Location: At home! Bent over a desk, on the floor, in the shower… it doesn’t matter to them, but they won’t do it anywhere people might walk in on you guys doing the deed. To Lamb, that’s just stressful.

Motivation: They are very easily turned on. They’re a playful and teasing person, but love being teased back too. When they were still sleeping with strangers, it was mostly hot physical features that got them going. Now that they have a partner, it’s mostly your dirty words that turns them on.

No: Any kind of pain is a huge no for Lamb. Especially being choked. Pain just isn’t enjoyable for them. They also hate being degraded, simply because they would always think that you meant some part of what you said. No amount of reassurance during aftercare could get rid of that mean little voice in the back of their mind saying that their partner finds them disgusting/whorish. :( 

Oral: Lamb prefers receiving over giving, but is down for both. They like oral, but they much prefer using their hands and penetration. When giving head/going down on their partner, Lamb will spit out the cum or wipe their mouth afterwards. They just can’t get over that aversion to bodily fluids.

Pace: Lamb likes it slow and sensual in theory, but in reality they often find themselves frustrated. They’re very impatient in bed, and often end up begging to just be pounded into the mattress.

Quickie: YES! A quickie before work is among Lamb’s favourite things sexually. As long as there’s enough time for some aftercare cuddles, they’re down.

Risk: Will try most things once. If you want to try something, they’ll try it. But if it ends up not being their thing, they’ll express it clearly. Lamb is very picky with the things they enjoy sexually, and usually likes to stick to what they know they’ll love.

Stamina: They can comfortably go for two rounds… anything beyond that steps into overstimulation territory… which they definitely couldn’t handle… definitely not… Unfortunately, you're too caring to push them without Lamb asking for it.

Toys: Lamb owns a dildo which they bought back when they were single. It doesn’t see much use these days, as they prefer to either please themselves with their hand or ask for the assistance of their partner.

Unfair: Loves to tease their partner… well, until their partner starts teasing back. Lamb can dish it out but can’t take it. The brattiness ends when they’re impatient and needy, begging for your touch.

Volume: Lamb starts out quiet, biting back any moans. They’re self-conscious of the noises that threaten to escape them. But they can never keep it up for long, and they eventually forget why they were holding back to begin with. They whine and whimper, always desperate for more.

Wild card: Lamb loves to act like they’re above it all. They act like their feelings can’t be hurt, like they don’t care about or want relationships. That’s because they’re so insanely afraid of being vulnerable. Even in bed with their loving partner, Lamb can’t truly express what they want and need. What if you think that what they really want is gross or boring or even worse, cringeworthy? Sex makes Lamb feel vulnerable and dirty, but also loved. They crave it, but deep down despise themselves for not being able to maintain their detached façade.

X-ray: Moving on from that… Lamb was assigned male at birth and they’re quite content with the way their body is now. Their dick is average in length, around five inches hard. It’s a little bit thicker than average with a prominent vein going down the left side. No noticeable curve.

Yearning: They’re pretty horny. Lamb could happily do it every single day of the week, but they adapt easily to their partner’s needs. They don’t mind dealing with any pent up frustration on their own.

Zzz: Lamb loves to nap after fun times, and is out like a light as soon as possible. Which is usually after a bath, because they hate feeling sweaty and covered in cum. :/

(psst... if u made it all the way here, i love you <3)

[snowseraphim]

posting some art of my bb while i'm still inspired enough to work on a visual novel project involving them <3

[snowseraphim]

one of those nights

angel dust x male reader

hurt/comfort, fluff, brief mention of valentino, established relationship

[this is my first attempt at writing a fanfic! i just love my boy angel dust and had to write a lil' something for him :) also please excuse any grammar mistakes as english is not my first language <3]

wc: 425

︵‿︵‿୨♡୧‿︵‿︵

angel stumbles in through the hotel doors in the small hours of the morning, as usual. but unlike usually, husk's bar isn't the place he seeks out first. tonight's shoot was just... too much, even for angel. it isn't often that his job manages to crack through his dissociation, but it happens. especially when valentino just keeps pushing him further, keeps crossing his hard boundaries, keeps making things personal. it's too much to think about, let alone talk about.

on nights like these, the only place angel can feel safe is in your room. being in your soft bed, your strong arms around his waist, his head resting on your chest was all he could think of. so his aching, bruised legs manage to carry his body home. quietly, he opens the door and tries to sneak into bed next to you without waking you. he would have succeeded too, if it wasn't for fat nuggets getting excited about his dad showing up. the little pig's oinks make you stir in your sleep and your foggy mind clears quickly when you recognize angel's silhouette in the dark of the room.

"baby?" you mumble, rubbing the sleep from your tired eyes. poor angel is like a deer caught in the headlights, but once it's clear that you won't be falling back asleep any time soon, he just sighs and joins you under the blankets. "hey, sweetheart. sorry i woke you." he whispers, all four of his arms wrapping around your middle to hold you close. you pull him close too, one hand settling on the small of his back and the other one tangles in his soft hair. there's a beat of silence, and you plant a gentle kiss to his forehead. "rough night?" you ask, tone soft. it's easy to see that angel isn't okay. his hands are shaky, dark circles under his eyes... he never clings onto you this tightly. "don't wanna talk about it." angel mumbles against your chest, and that's just fine by you.

your job is to cling onto him just as tightly as he clings to you, to stroke his hair gently, to quietly hum a familiar tune to help him fall asleep. your job is to be his safe haven in a world where everyone seems to be out to use him, and if that brings him even an ounce of comfort, then your job is done. as the spider boy grows sleepy in your embrace and his breathing steadies, you know that there's nowhere else you'd rather be.