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they should invent a sunday that doesn’t make you feel completely crushed by the passage of time

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Reminder that the label NSFW (or versions like nsft) is not a moral judgment. "Not safe for work" literally means "if your boss glanced over and saw this on your phone or computer screen, you could get penalized or fired." That's why nudity is labeled as NSFW because even if nude bodies aren't inherently sexual, your boss probably still wouldn't be thrilled to see naked people on your screen.

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the curse of adhd:

i will remember with absolute clarity, when the thought strikes me that i have a text to send someone, that this is the fourth time in three days i've attempted to send this specific text

i will forget, in the time it takes me to pick up my phone, that i picked it up intending to send a text

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wow! that was a fun accidental 2 hour session of video's game. now to go to the kitchen to check on my pet Pot Of Boiling Water...

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you naturally grow out of a lot of unhealthy habits and I think that something that seeing obsessive self improvement culture in the early twenties crowd makes me sad about like. you will start to drink less as your world changes, you will get better at habits as your world stabilizes. your sense of self will solidify as you make mistakes waste time and figure out what works for you and what does not thru your own bodies rejection of it. you’ll be called to sleep earlier and wake sooner and to move your body bc it won’t bounce back with out stretching it out first like there are reasons older people are more regimented bc they don’t need to experiment as much anymore to find out what’s functional. It’s not 1 size fits all

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it's the start of the week, there's still time!

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i think if you’re feeling a certain kind of way and you know why you’re feeling it & you’ve done everything you can about the problem causing the feeling for the time being you should be able to go to your guardian angel and smile beatifically and say “i’ve done my feelings homework” and they smile beatifically back at you and say “alright my child” and they tap you on the head and you feel an immense sense of peace that washes through you and escapes as light from your fingertips and then you feel normal again

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Hate how lighting a candle does wonders to my mood. Like wowwww. Grug like fire? Grug not sad anymore because Fire in Cave? Wow. Real predictable of Grug.

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no such thing as wasting your 20s your 20s are for recovering from whatever the fuck happened to you as a kid so that youre ready to get weird with it in your 30s

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Literally every single Neuroscience guy I listen to on audiobooks and podcasts: Multitasking is a lie. You are not more efficient. You're just rapidly switching between tasks and doing all of them slower but your brain is tricking itself into thinking it's more efficient because you get a little dopamine reward when you activate the 'change task' neurons. And you're burning up way more glucose in the process, leaving you more tired with less done. STOP MULTITASKING. JUST DO ONE THING. PLEASE IT'S ONLY WORSENING YOUR ATTENTION SPAN. WE'RE BEGGING YOU, PLEA--

My ADHD: Don't listen to them, babydoll. You are sooooooo efficient and attractive. Whoop. You got an email. Whoop you got a text. Whoop you got a blog ask. WOW look at all the tabs open on this window. Do you even remember what they're all for? Better look through them and close the ones you're not using because you're soooo sexy and efficient. Whoop, email again.

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Very annoy when this happens

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the thing about disability is it really does sometimes boil down to "wow i wish i could do that" and then you can't. and it sucks.

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An autistic child in their natural state will most likely be bullied on a regular basis.

They often have to actively suppress anything that makes them stand out.

Some are able to succeed at this, and people stop bullying them.

But they're then invisible. They still have no friends. They still miss out on any experiences that require friends.

When they ask how to make friends, everyone assumes that they're not even trying. Everyone assumes that they're doing nothing even though they're burning themself out just to be invisible. They're told "talk to people" or "just be yourself".

But that's what they were bullied for. They never had a chance to learn how to "talk to people" or what "just be yourself" even means.

So then, every once in a while, they take a wild guess at how to interact with others. And they get bullied again.

Then they stop doing the wild guess that caused them to be bullied. And they're back to being invisible.