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this is my take on who's who in OFMD re: winter holiday dinner parties
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One thing in the Jackie’z scene where Stede fights Zheng is really important and sometimes gets overlooked: Stede is surrounded by sycophants encouraging him to be a “Real Pirate” and that includes IZZY. Izzy is sympathizing with him, but Izzy has no emotional or psychological understanding of what Stede is actually going through or what he needs. He still thinks he knows Ed best. He still thinks that he can give advice on their relationship, that now he “gets it,” but he really doesn’t. He still thinks he can serve his captain in the same way. And he CAN’T. Izzy’s presence and advice leads to Stede fighting Zheng, in combination with everything else happening in Stede’s psyche.
Izzy is still locked in toxic masculine roles and that’s the point. Stede has no one backing him up who truly understands what he needs and who cares about his wellbeing. That’s what toxic masculinity does. Stede is burning down and Izzy is fanning the flames.
And it nearly kills him.
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Surprise surprise another ofmd post! Listen I didn’t know which version I preferred cause they both have chaotic vibes so you get both 🎶 if you like that iconic cap you can get a similar one on adhdmemetherapy ‘s shop!
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not only do we deserve season 3 of the hit tv show our flag means death we also deserve the david jenkins directors cut of season 2 and the accompanying samba schutte podcast send post
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Ed looking at Stede (or Stede stand ins), longing and in love, happy 🥰 and sad (S2)
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Ofmd Season 3 opens with a shot of the exterior of the inn, all fixed up with a garden and new rooms added on and all cute. Then a shot to the interior, where Ed is staring forlornly out the window. He’s in the depression robe, now threadbare and clearly having seen much use. Stede is nowhere in sight. SOS by ABBA starts playing. There’s a montage of Depressed Ed. He lays on the bed, staring up at the ceiling. He cradles what is clearly Stede’s shirt to his chest, occasionally smelling it and tearing up. More forlorn staring out the window. Maybe holding a cold cup of tea this time.
A shot of Ed’s back, still staring out the window. From behind the camera, we hear, “Ed, for god’s sake, I was only gone for half an hour” and the music stops in a record scratch.
Ed whips around, robe twirling magnificently, reminiscent of Stede in season 1, and the camera follows as he absolutely tackles Stede to the ground, hugs him tightly. Peppers him with kisses as Stede laughs and hugs him back.
“I missed you,” Ed’s saying, “I don’t care if you’re gone for 30 minutes or 30 seconds, I always miss you.”
Stede goes all soft, brushes some of Ed’s hair out of his face. “I always miss you too, you nut.” They kiss, and it’s like so sweet and romantic. He pulls out a small package, hands it to Ed. “I just had to pick something up. Happy anniversary, darling.”
The camera cuts away to the title screen, Our Flag Means Death spelled out with their discarded clothes. A pair of pants is thrown in from out of frame, messing up the letters, and over the opening music, we can hear giggles and indistinct voices.
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*thinking about Ed*
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this sucks so bad i need to [remembers suicide jokes only worsen my mental health] put on the best talent show this towns ever seen
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I love that Stede is deeply kind, and continues to be kind despite everything that the world has done to beat that kindness out of him. And what's more, he sees it in other people and encourages it. He calls the crew "sweet" in the very first episode, and while we see them fighting almost immediately, he's proven right. He calls Ed a "good man" within minutes of meeting him. And he's not doing it because he's getting something out of it or to protect himself, but because he actually believes it.
He even tries to be kind to people he does not like. He talks to Nigel about his ship, desperately hoping that Nigel will be kind in return. He promises to try to get along with Jack, despite being treated badly. He apologizes for misjudging Izzy the second Izzy seems to show him the slightest understanding. He even feels sorry for Chauncey.
None of it is placating or naive; he's not surprised when Nigel mocks him, nor when Jack continues to be cruel, nor when Izzy calls him names. He's also not surprised that the crew are indeed sweet people, and that Ed is indeed a good man. He continues to try to put kindness out into the world, not because it benefits him, but because he's simply Like That. And he creates a safe space for others to be Like That too.
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Thing with Ed and Stede is…I think Ed wants to be able to give up control and be vulnerable with someone whom he knows is safe. He has had to be invulnerable since he was a child, just to survive, and we see how it wears on him. He’s brilliant and strong, but that strength is exhausting to maintain. He wants to let go.
And Stede wants to protect. He wants to be Ed’s safe space. He has lived a life where he’s felt inadequate to all the roles of masculinity, including the positive ones: being a caregiver, a protector. He wants to stand up against the bullies of the world and keep others safe. Ed trusts him to be that.
But Stede also needs to be vulnerable. He’s also been told his vulnerability is a weakness; that his gentleness is unmanly. He needs to see it as a strength, something lovable; that there is someone who will wrap him up and protect him and that’s not shameful.
And Ed needs to know that his strength is not monstrous. He’s not a caricature of masculinity but a human being with depths of love who can use the facets of masculinity to express love. Who can hold Stede and keep him safe. Who can be STEDE’S safe space.
What I love is that neither Ed nor Stede fall into a binary. Their masculinity and femininity are not failings, and one doesn’t dominate the other. They’re full human beings who see themselves in each other. The more they love each other, the more they love themselves.
It’s really beautiful.
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Today I want to talk about intentions. A while ago I made a post about why Izzy's toxic masculinity and internalized homophobia doesn't give him a free pass to treat other people like shit and then not try to atone for that. A lot of the Izzy apologists I see seem to be of that opinion: that because we take into consideration Ed's past trauma when thinking how his actions have hurt the people we care about, we should give Izzy the same grace.
Well, I don't actually think we should, and I'm going to tell you why.
First, though, I want to say that this isn't about attacking people who enjoy characters who are pieces of shit. Please, by all means, enjoy your grubby little shitstain characters (I absolutely have some of my own that I love). This is about discussing why it's problematic to twist the canonical narrative to label Ed as abusive and Izzy as a victim.
And, in my opinion, it comes down to intentions.
"But dimplyowl," you say, "someone's intentions don't matter when the result is harmful to the people around them!" And I think, to a point, yes, that's true. People who hurt others through careless or reckless behavior need to bear the responsibility of their actions and own up to it (something that imo Izzy does not do). But I think there's also a distinction that needs to be made between people who hurt and control others because they take pleasure in feeling powerful over them, and those who don't.
If we take a look at Izzy's actions in season one and compare them to Ed's actions in season two, in my personal opinion, it becomes clear that one of these men is someone who has repeatedly taken pleasure in mistreating the people around him, both insubordinates and people that he claims to "have love for." And that man isn't the dread pyrate Blackbeard.
Does Ed enact violence on other people? Yes. Does he "love a good maim?" Also yes. Does he enjoy hurting people? Mm, debatable. The thing about Ed is that he has a complicated relationship with violence. To him, it's a tool to be utilized when necessary. I think he certainly gets a sense of vindictive pleasure when instructing Fang to skin the French captain or when the people at the French party descend into chaos and set themselves on fire. But, importantly, it's because those are people who wronged him. Those are people who hurt him, who dug at his race and his background and took pleasure in using those things to hurt him.
But Ed doesn't enjoy violence for violence's sake. There's always a reason, whether it's in reaction to being insulted, belittled, or threatened, or whether it's because it's literally just in the job description, he has a reason.
In season two, his reason for mistreating the crew is that he's trying to provoke them into mutinying on him. And, like, honestly, he does a pretty shitty job of it. Up until we rejoin them, his big crime is overworking them. The crew is tired emotionally and physically, but for the most part they're unharmed. They lost Ivan on a raid, but any one of them could die on a raid at any time, because it's literally just a hazard of the job. Not a single one of them is even considering mutiny at this point.
Ed hits his breaking point when Izzy suggests that they try and "talk it through," and imo completely understandably. It's his fault that the morale on the ship is low, is it? It's his fault because he was sad and heartbroken and vulnerable? It's his fault because he was healing in his own way, but that wasn't acceptable to Izzy at the time, but now because the ship isn't fun for Izzy anymore, because Izzy is on the verge of losing his position of power as Blackbeard's first mate, now is when Izzy decides that maybe talking it through might actually be helpful? Yeah, if I were Ed, I would fucking shoot him too.
But not once do we get any evidence that Ed is taking any pleasure in wearing down the crew. When he hits his breaking point, he is very clearly not having a good time. He realizes that if he wants this to end, he needs to up the ante. He hands Izzy a loaded gun and offers himself up as an easy target. Izzy laughs at his suicidal boss, friend, someone that he "has love for", and tells him to do it himself. He prolongs Ed's suffering. He puts the crew in even more danger. And even as Ed is trying to make the crew kill him, he doesn't touch them. By this point, we've seen this crew turn to mutiny twice, once because of Stede's ineptitude and once because of Izzy's abuse when he took over as captain. It shouldn't take much to get them to act, and yet it takes Ed threatening to get them all killed in a storm for them to finally act. Because up until that point, he's been unstable, he's been clearly going through a crisis, but he hasn't hurt them, he hasn't been abusive. He's clearly not enjoying any of this, he's going through some shit, he's hurting, and they love him, and until their lives are imminent danger, they're discussing how to help him.
If Ed wanted to hurt them, if he wanted to push them into mutiny sooner, there are so many things he could have done to terrorize them. Instead until the point he decides he can't live anymore, his only hope is that either he'll get killed in a raid, or he'll overwork them enough that they'll kill him themselves. This is not about abusing his crew, this is about abusing himself.
In contrast, when we look at Izzy's behavior throughout season one, we see someone who very clearly enjoys his position of power over other people, and who gets pleasure out of abusing that power. In 1x2, he sows distrust and uncertainty in Ivan and Fang about Ed's decision-making, telling them that he's half-mad, keeping Ed separate from the crew, and discouraging any questions by asserting himself physically over Fang. (He then claims in 1x4 to have reassured the crew when they've doubted Ed's leadership, when in fact he seems to be the cause of that doubt). In 1x3 he blatantly lies to Ed about having "explicitly" (his word) told Stede that "Blackbeard wants a word with him." He is practically gleeful when he passes on Stede's message to go suck eggs in hell, clearly expecting that to get a rise out of Ed, certainly to get him to drop his fascination with the Gentleman Pirate, and probably intending for Ed to attack Stede himself for disrespecting him.
In 1x4, he flip flops between caring that some of their crew died while fighting the Spanish to get Stede and his crew, and telling Ivan and Fang to kill anyone who refuses to fight the Spanish. Intending to fight the Spanish warships that have caught up with him is absolutely going to get everyone slaughtered, when there are other options. Ed actually advises anyone who can to leave, knowing that that's their only chance for survival, and similarly he tells the Revenge crew to surrender when cornered by the British. In 1x4, he clearly considers every death that would occur to be his responsibility when he tells Stede that being Blackbeard means that everyone's going to die, and it's going to be all his fault. Who's the one who actually cares about what happens to his crew here?
In 1x5 Izzy attempts to exert control over Lucius and punish him for, apparently, not working on his day off? Never mind that there are two other people in that room who are slacking off. Izzy targets Lucius, who is an effeminate unapologetically gay man, who Izzy clearly believes will be an easy target. He attempts to mock his sexuality (which actually winds up being more telling on himself), decides that it's his right to tell someone else's crew what to do at all, and attempts to use Lucius as an example to show the rest of Stede's crew that their "days of doing fuck-all are over", but then doesn't give jobs to the rest of the crew? He catches one of his own crew members fucking off with Lucius, and from what we can extrapolate, decides to only punish Lucius, because clearly Lucius as the "seductress" is to blame. He threatens to blackmail Lucius into obeying him, is visibly enjoying threatening him and manipulating him, and leaves like a pissy toddler when he doesn't get his way. And by "get his way", I mean successfully gains control over someone through threats and manipulation.
In 1x6, he once again decides that an effeminate gay man needs to be punished for his existence, but this time it's Stede he sets his sights on. He decides that he needs to take action only after hearing Ivan say that he's never seen Ed so open and available. Izzy can't have that, because he needs Ed to be dependent on Izzy, so that Izzy can continue to isolate Ed from the rest of the crew, can remain the only source of contact between Ed and the crew, and thereby easily control and manipulate both parties. He pressures Ed into finally acting on what he said he would do, belittling Stede and Ed's connection to Stede by referring to Stede as Ed's pet. (It is not an accidental choice that the writers will later have another antagonist refer to Stede as Ed's pet; it's deliberate mirroring to Izzy as an antagonist). He uses Stede's ego to manipulate him into insisting on putting on the fuckery so that they can get rid of Stede today--almost as if he knows that putting immediate pressure on Ed to act won't give him time to reconsider, to rethink, to back out, to maybe consider why Izzy is so adamant about this--and then uses Stede and Ed's relationship to further manipulate Stede into doubling down on doing the fuckery when he's doubting himself. And doing it in possibly the creepiest way possible?? Stede literally puts up a physical barrier between them, and Izzy pushes against that, actually literally pushes up against the curtain to push against the boundary that Stede has put up.
And then when it's clear Ed isn't going to kill Stede, Izzy decides that he's going to take that decision out of Ed's hands. He decides he knows better than Ed what's best for him, places more value in his own decisions than Ed's, essentially mutinies on Ed by disobeying him, and on Stede by challenging him to a duel. He clearly believes he's going to win, and easily, in the process forcing someone he again claims to "have love for" to watch as he destroys the only thing that's brought hope and life and light and enjoyment back into Ed's life. He's embarrassingly easily goaded into losing his temper, relishes the moment he thinks he's won, the moment he stabs Stede, loses his temper again when his sword is stuck. Canyonites love to talk about Ed having anger problems, but this episode clearly demonstrates who actually has the anger problem. He looks to Ed when he realizes he's lost, as if Ed is going to forgive him, let him stay, when he just tried to kill Ed's friend and (only in Izzy's mind at that point) lover.
Izzy then turns to the fucking cops to turn Stede in. He reinforces his belief that Ed isn't capable of making his own decisions when he refers to Stede as having "done something" to Ed's brain, as if Ed is a weak-willed, easily manipulated child. He sends Jack in because he knows that Jack will put a wedge between Ed and Stede, and hopefully to get Ed out of there before the navy shows up. He apparently doesn't consider the fact that Ed is the most wanted pirate in the world, and if Jack doesn't succeed, will be in life-threatening danger. But maybe he doesn't care about that, considering what he tells Ed later.
He arranges for Ed to be put into his custody. Like, I shouldn't have to say anything about that, because it's fucking disgusting. Like Ed is property to be handed over to Izzy. He tries to convince Ed that Stede's execution is actually a kindness, despite knowing what it will do to Ed. When that fails, he tries to convince Ed not to take the Act and sign the contract, but...isn't that what Izzy himself just did?
In 1x9 we get more of his control and manipulation over the crew. Taking away a week of Wee John's rations for making a comment about Izzy's terrible name for his ship, as he is actively eating in front of him. Making Ivan and Fang serve him, telling them his food needs more salt, and then not even eating more of it when they salt it? Fucking gross. That move is all about control.
And then 1x10, which I shouldn't even have to talk about, but the fucking horrible way he treats Ed apparently is still something that goes over some peoples' heads. Once again keeping him secluded from the crew, refusing to give them answers about what's going on, keeping them busy by literally spitting on their clean deck, when he could have just dumped the coffee out on it. Watching Ed grieve and bond with the crew, once again deciding for Ed that he knows what's best for him, interrupting his grieving process, telling him that what he's become is worse than death. Threatening him that if he doesn't return to the very specific image that Izzy says Blackbeard is, that Izzy will kill him. Later on his deathbed apology admitting that he knew that being Blackbeard was harmful to Ed, but that he kept pressing because Izzy needed him, needed Blackbeard in order to feel powerful, to keep the level of respect and fear that other people had for him.
All of this paints a picture of a person who enjoys feeling powerful, who enjoys using that power to hurt and abuse and control the people around him, who will do anything, even at the detriment of someone that he has "love for", to keep that power for himself. A person who takes pleasure in hurting people, physically and emotionally.
I see a lot of people trying to say that what Ed did was worse than what Izzy did. I personally don't think it was, when you add up the consistent way that Izzy mistreats every person around him. But I think that what's even more important in this discussion are the intentions behind the hurt.
Ed did everything he could not to harm his crew until it became evident that the only way he could be successful in getting them to kill him would be by giving them a very present, very real threat. And even then, the way he went about doing it was very distant. Making Jim and Archie fight each other. Sailing directly into a storm. Damaging the ship to make an already dangerous situation even more dangerous.
Izzy repeatedly enjoyed exerting his control and physical and emotional violence on other people. He displayed a pattern of believing himself to be the only person capable of making the right choices, of removing the agency from the people around him, specifically of removing Ed, a person of color's, agency. He hurt every single person around him, all for his own benefit, for his own gain.
Maybe it comes down to value systems, maybe intentions behind someone's behavior really don't matter to you, but I know that I am much more forgiving of someone who hurt me as a byproduct of hurting themselves than I am someone who knowingly, repeatedly hurts people because they enjoy it.
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Stede when people say his boyfriend is a psycho:
~has a whole elaborate excuse explaining why Ed has the right to do unspeakable things~
Ed when people say his boyfriend is a psycho:
“I know right? Fucking hot.”
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