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Writing Autistic - Greatest Hits
Here’s a selection of all of my most helpful Writing Autistic posts:
Words and Phrases You Need to Know
Reading Critically
Special Episodes
The Insufferable Genius
Minority Issues vs Tokenism
Tropes - Neurodiversity is Supernatural
Autistics, Introverts, Socially Anxious, and People Who Hate People – What’s the Difference?
Diversity on the Spectrum - Women
Tropes - Hollywood Autism and Ambiguous Disorder
Baiting, Coding, and the Importance of Being Explicit
Autism is Not a Character Flaw
The Problem With Empathy (Note: This post was written before I knew the words “cognitive” and “affective” empathy. The post covers cognitive empathy, but not affective empathy, apart from a small section on hyper empathy.)
Disability as Metaphor
Happy Endings
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Masterpost: Autism and Vocabulary
As a writer, we’re sure you are aware that words are important. You can’t always substitute one for another because they all have their own depth of meaning and their own subtleties. So if you want to write an autistic character, you’ll have to refer to autism using the right words. This post will help you do just that!
Autistic person? Person who has autism? Which one should I use?
This is a highly debated question. You might have heard “You have to say “person with autism” because you’re talking about a person first; the person is not defined by their disability!”. While this is a nice thought, it is largely misguided, and this way of talking are mainly used by non-autistic persons while talking about us. The autistic community doesn’t like this “person-first” language very much for several reasons.
First of all, if you need to use specific language to remind yourself that we are people, you may have a problem that no amount of linguistic workarounds can solve. We say “a French person”, not “a person who is French” or “a person with Frenchness”, because we don’t need to remind ourselves that French people are people. Why should it be different with autistic people?
The second reason most of us don’t like saying we are “persons with autism” is that our autism is not something that we carry with us. We are not a human person + a terrible disorder. We are fundamentally different. Being autistic is an integral part of who we are as people, and touches every sphere of our lives. If someone somehow managed to take away our autism, they wouldn’t reveal the “real us” that was hidden behind it: they would create a whole different person. We can’t be separated from our autism, and this should be reflected in the language you use while talking about us.
So ideally, you’ll want to use “autistic”, as an adjective: Cat is autistic, they are an autistic person. Some of us sometimes use “autistic” as a noun as a shortcut, when we’re tired of repeating “people” all the time, but it’s best to avoid it when you can, especially if you’re allistic.
What you really need to avoid is “a person with autism”, or heaven forbid “a person who happens to have autism”, “a person who suffers from autism”, “a person who lives with autism”, or any variation thereof. I’ve also seen a few people write “an autist”, but I don’t get why they do that. Please don’t do it.
And please don’t refer to us as being “on the spectrum,” we don’t need a euphemism to soften the blow of the word “autistic.” We are autistic! Even those who don’t seem disabled. Please remember that, while it is all too often misused in an insulting or pejorative way, “autistic” is not a bad word. Don’t be afraid to use it! In fact, using it more and in a positive way is the best way to stop it from being misused as a pejorative.
You keep using these words I don’t understand…
Alright, let’s get a glossary going! We’ll update this post whenever we use a word that could be hard to understand (if we can remember to do it…). If there is any word on the blog that you can’t understand, check if we’ve explained it here. If we haven’t, shoot us an ask and we’ll do it ASAP. :) All of the titles are clickable and will take you to the corresponding tag so you can check out everything we’ve written about a subject.
AAC: Augmentative and Alternative Communication. Encompasses all means of communicating used by nonverbal people which are not spoken/sign language, such as using a text-to-speech device or a pictogram system to communicate.
ABA: Applied Behaviour Analysis, the most common type of “therapy” autistic children are subjected to. It can have lots of negative long-terms effects on the person’s life, such as PTSD or vulnerability to abuse.
Ableism: Treating disabled people (including autistic people) poorly because they are disabled.Treating someone differently because they behave in autistic ways, punishing autistic people for stimming, forcing nonverbal autistics to communicate verbally (and ignoring other types of communication), etc. are all examples of ableist behavior.
Alexithymia: Difficulty identifying one’s own emotions, very common in autistic people. They may not know how they feel at all, or simply unable to name their feelings. They are often unable to answer the question “How are you?” or “How are you feeling?” and may be aware only of whether they are feeling “good” or “bad” (and sometimes not even that).
Allistic: Someone who is not autistic. Used as an adjective and sometimes as a noun.
Asperger’s Syndrome: An outdated diagnostic term for an autistic person who is generally able to communicate verbally at a typical age and shows interest in social relationships. This is no longer considered to be a thing which exists. (See our masterpost on functioning labels.)
Autistic: Someone who is autistic (ie the subject of this whole blog) (I don’t know why we added that to the glossary)
Cure Culture / Curism: The attitude held by many allistic groups (most notably the hate group “Autism Speaks”) that autism is a disorder or disease which should be eliminated from the human race and place a priority on “curing” it. This is similar to the old belief that homosexuality is a disease that should be cured, and just as harmful to autistic people.
Disability: There are two main definitions to this word: 1- Not being able to do something that the majority of people are able to do. For example: hear (deaf), see (blind), smell (anosmic), walk (para/quadriplegic), etc.  2-Being impaired by a physical/mental difference in a way that restricts one’s professional, social, personal, or leisure activities. Depending on the definition and personal opinions, autistic people can be considered disabled or not disabled.
Dyspraxia: Difficulty with gross and/or fine motor skills, very common in autistic people. To a casual observer they may appear clumsy, often dropping things, walking into things, or tripping over their own feet (gross motor skills), or with poor handwriting, poor ability to hold a writing instrument, etc. (fine motor skills).
Echolalia: Use of verbal repetition to communicate, usually used by those who are not fully verbal. Words and phrases can be immediately repeated directly (“You OK?” “You OK.”), or with some changes (“Are you OK?” “I am okay.”). They can also come from memory (“Who gave you that?” [Darth Vader voice] “I am your father.” = my father).
Executive Dysfunction: Difficulty with executive functioning; skills used to make decisions and carry out tasks. Many autistic people have problems with this. They may be unable to make what appear to be simple decisions or figure out how to accomplish a simple goal. They may know exactly what they need to do but be unable to get their body to move to do it. It has been described via metaphors in a few ways: one is having all the ingredients to make a cake but no recipe, and being expected to make the cake, but having no idea how to do it. Another is that the body is like a horse and the brain is the rider, and the rider tries to get the horse to move, but it simply won’t budge.
Functioning Labels: Outdated and inaccurate (but sadly, still commonly used) labels for autistic people based on a narrow set of criteria. Those who don’t communicate verbally are normally considered “low-functioning”, for example, and those who can are “high-functioning”. See our masterpost for more information on why these labels are damaging and should not be used.
Hyperacusis: When a person is extremely sensitive to sound and the world sounds far louder to them than to others. It is often extremely painful, like having the volume on the world turned up way too high, and can be disabling. Many people with hyperacusis have or develop tinnitus (a constant sound, often ringing, usually caused by nerve damage in the ears).
Hyperempathy: Having far more affective empathy than a normal person. This can result in things like crying often, being unable to comfort upset people because their emotions are too overwhelming, etc. Some people feel hyperempathy all the time. Some have it only sometimes or for some people, or for inanimate objects.
Hypersensitivity: A blanket term which means “being more sensitive than most people to something”. When it comes to autism, it can refer to several things. Most of the time, it is used about sensory hypersensitivity, such as sensitivity to sounds or bright lights. There is also emotional hypersensitivity (easily getting hurt feelings/responding very strongly to positive feelings).
Hyposensitivity: The opposite of hypersensitivity, some autistic people feel a lack of sensory stimulation. They feel understimulated and may constantly feel the need to seek sensory stimulation. It’s important to note than an autistic person may be hypersensitive in some ways and hyposensitive in others, or at different times.
Infodumping: Sharing a large amount of information on a single topic all at once, often without pausing or allowing others to speak, due to overwhelming enthusiasm for the subject. It is usually done on subjects of special interest.
Low empathy: Some autistic people feel reduced or no affective empathy for other people (do not identify with their emotions or feel inspired to a certain emotion when they see others having that emotion). This does not necessarily mean that they do not care about the emotions of others - some may not care, some may care a great deal - only that they do not feel what others feel. Some people with low empathy for other people have hyperempathy for inanimate objects or fictional characters.
Meltdown: When the brain is too overloaded with sensory information or stress and can no longer function properly, an autistic individual may have a very violent reaction, called a meltdown. The person melting down is generally in a lot of pain. They might scream, throw things, yell curse words and insults, cry, hurt themselves or other, and try to hide themselves in absurd locations like under couch cushions or behind doors. This neurological event cannot be controlled or stopped once it begins. It can be made worse by interfering and adding more sensory input (by touching or talking to the person) and usually will not subside until the person is left alone to calm down. 
Neurodivergent/Neuroatypical: Having a neurology which is different from the most common ones, such as being autistic or having ADHD. Some people include mental illnesses in this label, some do not.
Neurodiversity: The philosophy that in order to succeed, survive, and thrive, the human race needs many different types of neurology, and that neurodiverse people are an important and positive component of our species.
Neurotypical: A term which is defined as “having the most common type of neurology” (ie not autistic, without ADHD/dyslexia/tourette’s, etc.). Someone with a mental illness may or may not be considered neurotypical depending on people’s opinions.
Nonverbal: Someone who cannot or does not communicate verbally (using spoken language, often including sign language). Some autistic people are always nonverbal. Most are nonverbal under stress or overload. Some are always verbal.
Passing: Successfully behaving enough like an allistic person, particularly in social situations, that no one suspects you are autistic. Often important or even necessary for some people, especially when it comes to work situations.
PECS: One of the AAC methods which is most commonly used with autistic children (and sometimes adults). Stands for “Picture Exchange Communication System”. A pictogram-based system.
Proprioception: All of the sensory input which comes from inside your body. Includes your brain’s awareness of where the different parts of your body are. Autistic people often have very poor proprioception. As a result, they may have some type of dyspraxia, odd facial expressions, odd posture and walking gait, etc., all of which they may not be aware of until someone tells/shows them.
Sensory Processing Disorder: The clinical term for someone who has difficulty processing sensory information. Includes sensory hypersensitivity, hyposensitivity and differences. Too many details to process can lead to sensory overload, shutdowns, and meltdowns. Some autistic people don’t agree that it is a disorder, and prefer to talk of “sensory processing differences”.
Sensory Overload: When too much sensory information is being sent to the brain and the brain can no longer keep up. It becomes painful and the person can become incapable of accepting new sensory information until the brain has time to catch up (like a computer freezing when too many programs are open). This often leads to shutdowns and/or meltdowns.
Shutdown: A defense mechanism against sensory overload and stress. The brain attempts to shut out all sensory input by disconnecting from the environment. The person might no longer understand speech (or even fully hear it), be able to think in language (or to think in any way at all), move their body, or communicate in any way. Their eyes might unfocus and they may seem to be completely “out of it”. This state is usually a sign that the person needs to be left alone for their brain to calm down, but if pushed by those around them, they may switch to having a meltdown.
Special Interest: A subject which an autistic person is extremely interested in and will go to great lengths to learn everything possible about.
Spoons: A metaphor used to indicate the (limited) amount of energy a disabled or sick person has to devote to various tasks. There is a whole script blog devoted to this (@scriptspoonies). Many autistic people rely on this metaphor to describe their (lack of) energy.
Stimming: Repeated actions which are used to stimulate one’s own nervous system, done for various reasons including to soothe oneself/calm down, express emotions, communicate, or just because it feels nice. Common examples include rocking back and forth, flapping hands, clenching jaw, tapping a part of the body, making a repeated noise, etc.
Verbal: Able to communicate using spoken language.
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Writing Autistic Characters: 50 posts from scriptautistic
Happy Nanowrimo! In honour of national novel writing month 2017 we have put together this list of 50 of the most useful questions and answers from our blog this year. We hope you find them useful - happy writing!
-the scriptautistic mods
Meta
Our masterpost list
Finding an autistic sensitivity reader or beta-reader for your story
How to research autism without falling for tropes
How do I incorporate a character being autistic into the plot without making it be about them being autistic?
Autism resources
Representation
What sorts of characters would you like to see more of?
What are common stereotypes about autistic characters?
Do you have any advice to keep from infantilizing an autistic character?
Is it ok to write ASD characters that are not loved and accepted straight away?
Would it be bad if I make a non-human character autistic?
How do y'all feel about a story about an autistic guy who grows to dislike his autism?
Comorbidities
Similarities and differences between OCD and ASD
What is the difference between down syndrome and autism?
Encouraging abused children to stim again (effects of child abuse)
Are autistic people more likely to get migraines?
Tips for writing an autistic character in a psychiatric hospital?
The effect of a mental breakdown on a character’s routines
Emotions and empathy
What does hyperempathy feel like?
What would a low-empathy character feel and do when trying to comfort someone?
Showing love without saying “I love you”
How would my character use facial expressions?
Sensory sensitivities
What does understimulation feel like?
How might a person with sensory sensitivities cope with living in an unpleasant environment?
Can a character’s autistic traits change as they get older?
How does it feel to have auditory processing disorder?
Why would an autistic person might hit their head when overloaded?
Stimming
How can I write stims?
What does stimming feel like?
What unobtrusive stims could my character use?
Would a character stim differently depending on their emotions?
What is the effect of repressing their stims?
Education
Does autism give disadvantages for certain subjects at school?
Is it realistic to send someone with autism to a special needs school?
Ableism
Well-intentioned but rude neurotypical people
Bad therapy
Might a police officer consider an autistic person a threat if they were having a meltdown?
Communication
What might cause my character to be temporarily nonverbal?
What are some causes for an autistic person being nonverbal?
Might my character use filler words like “um” and “er”?
Could an autistic character pick up on sarcasm?
Could you use signing to communicate with an autistic toddler?
Other
Is it possible for a character’s family/friends to not suspect that the character is autistic until adulthood?
A character’s friends asking them to stop infodumping
How to write a sex scene with an autistic character
What problems might my character have around keeping a pet?
What could be some difficulties with being an autistic cop?
Flying and being at the airport while autistic
Fun posts
Stim toys in a post-apocalyptic setting
Accommodations for an autistic crewmember on a space station
What might an autistic society look like?
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Indirect Quotes Part One
Person A: *sitting on the roof with person B*
Person B: Do you ever wonder what it would be like to be a building?
Person A: *gives person B a concerned look* what drugs did you take today?
Person B: none, just always wondered it
Person A: *silence*
Person B: *looking in the mirror* Is all this makeup necessary?
Person C: you look cute
Person B: *scoffs* I look like a clown
Person A: you’re my clown
Person B: I hate you
Person A: No you don’t
Person A: want to dance? *extends hand to person B*
Person B: want your feet broken?
Person A: it’s a risk I’ll have to take
Person B: *inaudible noises* let’s dance
Person B: does this water look strange to you?
Person A: it’s blood! You killed someone
Person B: nah it’s water
Person A: okay if it’s water, drink it
Person B: do I look like a vampire?
Person C: you are practically drooling over (person B)
Person A: no I’m not!
Person C: then what are you staring at?
Person A: *staring at person B* the flowers!
Person B: *walks over to the table* you my dear, have a staring problem
Person A: *arguing with person B*
Person B: I hate you!
Person A: *looks at them like they’re wounded*
Person B: oh god... I’m sorry. I don’t hate you
Person A: *wraps arms around person B*
Person B: I hate how cute you are
Person B: I love you
Person A: you do?
Person B: *replies as sarcastically as possible* no I love the random person standing the street
Person A: oh...
Person B: of course I love you
Person A: *smiles*
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