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almost two weeks into private practice optical and it's going well

it also feels like re-learning everything all over again so halfway through the day I'm like

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there are two kinds of cat dislike. The first is by people who don't understand consent and don't understand personal space and don't like having to change their own behavior even a little bit to make anyone else more comfortable, and honestly huge red flag there's nothing you can really do for those people except don't date them and probably don't be friends with them either.

BUT

the other kind of cat dislike is the "my dad hated cats until i got him a kitten" kind of cat dislike, and the funniest thing about this kind of person is that cats actually get along really well with them... because that kind of person usually acts like a cat.

and that's what usually wins the person over too. Because that person can be like "hey fine we can snuggle or whatever, okay this is actually kind of nice, OW FUCK YOU THEN GET OFF ME I HATE YOU" and to the cat this is a perfectly natural feline interaction.

a dog will usually be like "oh no, figuring out what has gone wrong or continuing this argument is now the most important thing in my day" You ever try to get a dog to leave you alone after they've done something like accidentally kick you in the face, or on purpose punch you in the stomach with both front legs? They turn in to one of those people who you ask to give you some alone time and they spend the next hour on the "are you mad at me" treadmill. Unless it's a husky or something, and then they're more like "ha ha, i'm not touching you i'm not touching you" about it.

Either way "get off me and leave me alone" is all about them.

But a cat? You're suddenly over cuddle time and need to be alone? you seem upset for no reason? normal shit, i'll check back later.

With a cat you can be snuggling and then jump up irritably and walk away and the cat will be like "hey! whatever. I'm gonna go do my own thing then". Try that with a dog? lol no. They need to know what's bothering you now, it is more important than ever that they be in your face

of course these are generalizations and there will be cats and dogs who react somewhere on the range of different to opposite to this, but. I've seen a few people who "don't like cats" wind up with a cat in their home, and it's hilarious how their similarities are what wins them over.

Because, like, you know who else doesn't like you at first and takes a long time to work out a personal relationship before being willing to be friends? you know who else is often totally over dealing with cat bullshit? cats.

So they just take it in stride, and in fact often wind up better friends with "i don't like cats" people than they do with people who want to be friends with them right away. And the person often winds up appreciating the cats willingness to understand "i don't like you right now, check back later"... with the end result being: besties for life

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HELL YEAH WHO SUGGESTED THIS ONE

I've been thinking about this at least since 2019 and made a very quick bullet point post about it!!

Rose Lalonde from Homestuck is Métis!

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uhhh yeah can i start with the house salad?

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"Preventing Childhood Vision Loss Through Exploitative Prison Labor: A Call for Action"

So today was my first full day at my new job, where I waffled back and forth between watching training videos and shadowing the other opticians on finishing orders, receiving the new ones, etc. I learned there is a specific set of orders called CI and I was even told "correctional institution" but didn't quite make the connection until I looked it up. It is also mostly kid's glasses but sometimes adult orders come through.

So I looked it up. It's reentry programs for prisoners, basically making the glasses in labs. The kicker here is that the CI orders are all state insurance. This article from California sums up exactly the same situation here in Washington. I know a lot of the products and stuff we use day to day are made on prison labor and somewhere in my lifetime I learned that eyeglasses are the same way more or less, but what was new to me was the connection to state insurance.

It reminds me heavily of when I worked for the state and remember through 2020 when people were calling for boycotting Amazon, and I could not be separated completely from giving Amazon money. The state has accounts with Amazon for ordering specific goods for foster families and families to prevent dependency cases and I had to pay those bills. It reminds me further how some of the best lens materials you can buy for glasses are produced by Israeli companies. Reminds me how my previous workplace, as good as working there was for me, is a subsidiary of an insurance company. I'd straight up tell patients that.

There's some articles I've read about inmates in prisons in other states talking about how great it is. It can be lucrative when your work options inside are limited and if you're getting out then you have a niche and very sought after skillset. Some people are finding meaning in being able to make things that tangibly benefit people especially when they realize that most of these patients are on Medicare and Medicaid.

There's also the problem of actually getting the jobs outside of prison when you have a criminal record.

Everything is so far connected.

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wait how are you all defining shower time, because the time I have in the actual water under the show varies depending on if I'm washing my hair or not (in the 5 to 15 minute range but 15 is pushing it), but if we're talking about stuff like post-shower styling or whatever it really varies??

Ok this might be a bit of a weird question but I keep arguing with my mom and sis about this so I need y'all to answer this

[For context my mom and sis keep telling me I shower for too long but my showers are usually 45 minutes to an hour]

(edit: *your showers not you showers)

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i gotta remember this

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soju may taste like juice but theres no way the memes aren't ridiculously exaggerated. this bottles only 5 units it cant affect me that considerably

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nothing could ever replace tumblr obviously but just in case I'm over on bsky

mostly a lurker on there but I guess the day this site finally dies I might post there more often.

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why am I seeing posts with people saying "in case this site goes away"

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Xavier Roberts is a gross evil bitch for inventing the Cabbage Patch Kid, but if I can be honest with you for a second... Smash.

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Artists, reblog and put in the tags what the hardest part of the human body for you to draw is. And no you can’t say hands

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my cat hates taking his pills. the only way we can get him to eat them is to turn it into an elaborate pantomime - we take the packet out of the cupboard slowly and hold it up, saying “oh!! what’s this? what’s this? a TREAT? a TREAT for louis????” while making surprised faces. we offer him a pill… then, before he has a chance to sniff it, we wag our fingers at him and replace it in the packet so it becomes a Tantalising Forbidden Mystery. we continue doing this until he’s so confused and excited that he will eat the pill as fast as possible, just so he can find out what it is before we can take it away from him again. as soon as he’s eaten it he looks utterly disappointed and betrayed, like a child who just ate a delicious sweet only to find it was a chocolate-coated brussels sprout. it never gets old

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Earlier I was thinking about genealogy right when my ADHD meds were kicking in, which meant that all I've wanted to do today was genealogy

SO

I'm taking another dive into the California applications because I wanted to go through the DNA matches to see if the witness names could be relatives. There's very few that seem to be tentatively related, but I did notice something I overlooked on James Huntley's file.

He had written to the bureau with some questions and this was in the letter he got in response

"two witnesses who are family with your California Indian ancestry"

There's one section on his application where he lists the Lyons family initially as witnesses but the ones who actually signed are other people. Funny enough... one of the actual signed witnesses is related to the family I initially thought we might've been related to years ago when I was looking into families from the Trinidad and Stone Lagoon area.

I'm going through all the applications and witness names again but knowing that it's meant to be for people they were related to is very exciting.