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I love that every year fire departments are like "hey. maybe DON'T fry your turkeys?"

and across the nation, patriots rise up and shout "FUCK YOU" bc surely it'll be fine for THEM

and then start massive grease fires in their backyards

it is my most favorite thanksgiving tradition

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officially decided that anyone who tries to divide the lgbt community is a fed. i dont care if you're not actually a fed, if you're causing infighting in a minority community then you're a fed who just isnt getting paid to be one. either apply for a job at the CIA or shut the fuck up

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my observation from 2 months of kittens

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You are loved.

Reference here

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"People on the side of The People always ended up disappointed, in any case. They found that The People tended not to be grateful or appreciative or forward-thinking or obedient. The People tended to be small-minded and conservative and not very clever and were even distrustful of cleverness. And so, the children of the revolution were faced with the age-old problem: it wasn’t that you had the wrong kind of government, which was obvious, but that you had the wrong kind of people. As soon as you saw people as things to be measured, they didn’t measure up."

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Menswear guy’s ability to own is so powerful he even owns himself.

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Also, people in general just don’t like being uncertain or feeling confused. It’s anxiety-inducing. If you’re used to your entire world slotting into very neatly defined categories your whole life, and then suddenly something doesn’t, you can see how that would create some cognitive dissonance that might make you feel some type of way!

Heck, just look at how hard it is for people online to stop categorizing people into “us” and “them” and allow for nuance.

The thing is, you CAN get used to that uncomfortable feeling. You CAN get used to feeling anxious because you’re not quite sure what to do. You CAN live with just not knowing.

But it takes practice! It takes conversations like the one above with people you care about and trust, who can sit with you in that discomfort and help you realize that it’s okay, you’re not going to die, nothing bad is going to happen if you just… don’t know something. You might make a mistake, and that’s okay. You might say the wrong thing, and the world won’t end. You might offend someone, but you can learn how to handle it gracefully if you do.

These are the kinds of conversations we are used to having with kids, or friends, but often we forget that older adults are just humans too. Sometimes they get anxious. Sometimes they need a little guidance. Sometimes they need someone to just sit with them in that discomfort and help them see that it doesn’t hurt, really, to be unsure or a little confused.

And, of course, sometimes they’re just being assholes. Sometimes you learn to recognize when that’s happening, and sometimes you’re a little unsure, a little confused, maybe a little anxious… but maybe you can find someone you trust to sit with you in that feeling, too.

Okay but can anyone articulate the mindset that leads older people to feel like they NEED to know people's gender identity all the time? Like what's going on there

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It’s a five-minute walk from my house to the pub.

It’s a thirty-five minute walk from the pub to my house.

The difference is staggering.

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“in order to create loving males we need to love males” means teach boys that they can be themselves without being less of a man. it means being encouraging and nurturing of their emotions so they don’t become cold and hateful. it means showing boys, early in their lives, that they have value outside of what our society deems proper masculinity. what it doesn’t mean is that it’s our job to handhold men who see women as walking sex toys through the concept of empathy, and maybe if we’re really really nice to them and don’t say things that hurt their feelings they’ll stop killing us for saying no

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using "what were YOU doing at the devils sacrament" to mean "yeah i made an embarrassing reference but you understood it which is also embarrassing" is very funny to me

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Here's a legal PSA:

If you've committed a crime and a detective gathers everyone involved in the room, especially if he's not actually a detective and is instead a novelist, puzzle-setter, psychic, fake psychic, dog, chess grandmaster, etc. ...

YOU SHOULD NOT CONFESS.

Every year, hundreds of people are put away by non-traditional "detectives" who have either inserted themselves into the case or are working with the police in a dubiously legal capacity as advisor. In 99% of these cases, the murderer gives a full confession even though the evidence against them is circumstantial at best and often requires a long just-so story which can only guess at motive.

If this happens to you, stay quiet, do not attempt to defend yourself or talk your way out of it, only say "I want a lawyer".

Now if you find yourself being investigated by a boy genius, magician's assistant, anthropologist, classics scholar, or philosopher, it's likely that refusing to talk to the police (or investigator with no legal authority) is merely the end of the second act, and by the end of the third act they will have you dead to rights.

YOU SHOULD STILL NOT CONFESS.

Make them take it to court. Force the eccentric detective and his straight-laced police partner to take the stand and explain their methods to a jury of your peers. Have your lawyer look at the chain of custody on the evidence, especially if you believe it to have been handled by someone who has only bumbled into detective work through their natural charm and/or unique set of skills and outsider perspective that come in handy more often than they should.

Know your rights. Don't let eccentric detectives put you away.