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(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MfkXhP1vkxI) 

This is awesome! Fuck yeah. This women are wonderful and it was so fantastic to hear them talk about asexuality humorously but not offensively! 

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Everyone is convinced I’ll wind up the crazy cat lady.

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“You should just try to stop being asexual.”

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To any asexual who feels alone

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Explaining the gender spectrum to cis people. 

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OMG I have internet again! I’m in the new place! I have two beautiful baby kittens! I’m not 100% mentally back, but I’m going to start answering messages and working on some new posts. So glad to see you guys again!

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It was really kindly pointed out to me that using this flag wasn’t the best choice to use to express my thought behind the post. 

This flag represents gay pride. When I used it, I was searching for a LGBTQIA+ image with the rainbow of the spectrum represented. This was not at all meant to say the purple in the gay pride flag was for asexuals, more just that sometimes we need to see ourselves as a part of this much larger group. I wanted to share that thought with the rainbow, but I am sorry that it may not have come out that way. This was not meant in anyway to take away from gay pride or representation. Just a moment where I didn’t think clearly enough about the picture I was using to express a thought.

Thank you guys for your understanding!

Every time I see the pride flag,

I think about how that that purple is for me.

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im having one of those nights (weeks) where i am feeling super down about my feelings towards sex and really sad about the idea that maybe ill wind up alone and i feel like i need to share this because is super normal and people who are totally happy get this way

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Mini Hiatus

I just got my first place! Yay! This means I get to live alone!! SO MUCH YAY! I also will be adopting a kitten!!!! SO MUCH FREAKING YAY! 

But. I also means that I have a lot of work to do. So, while I am midst the heavy part of getting my new home ready and moving in I am going to be a little spotty on here. There are questions in my ask and things you guys have submitted that I still have to reply too, so just be patient with me I swear I’ll be back and better then ever very soon!

enjoy the happy dancing cat as my penance

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happy bisexual awareness week!

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“You think people can be asexual? That hilarious.”

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When my friend invites me and a plus one to her wedding.

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A-Spectrum Erasure:

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I thought of something toda.

Can’t convince someone that you don’t want to sleep with them or go out on a date with them? All out of words and options? Convince them they don’t want to touch you at all. Pick your fucking nose. Just pick your nose. jsut DO IT. PICK YOUR . NOSE.

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Why I am pissed about the flibanserin approval

Because in addition to being ace spectrum, I’ve been alive long enough to remember what it was like when Viagra first came out, and long enough to know how this culture treats women who (for whatever reason) don’t want to have sex.

Because there’s no way a drug company that spent this much money to acquire this drug and get it approved will limit its marketing to the small population that actually needs it.

Because the next logical market segment is women who don’t necessarily want to have more sex, but who are EXPECTED to have more sex. Which is to say, women with whom men want to have sex. Do I need to explain how that can and will go horribly wrong?

Because this is already being pitched as a great thing for MEN because hey, suddenly it’s medically legit to pressure your(!) woman into taking a daily sedative so she’ll put out more. Less backtalk AND more fucking! Do we really think this isn’t going to be abused .2 seconds after it’s released?

Because this culture in general and medicine in particular values men’s desires and men’s voices over women’s, and if she says “No” and he says “Yes”, we know what usually happens next.

Because the more this drug is prescribed, the more money all parties make, and we all know what that means.

Because it makes my sexual orientation out to be a disease.

Because I will spend the rest of my life explaining, over and over, that no, I’m not like this because I’m “off my little pink pills”.

Because I will have to have The Conversation every time I switch doctors about how no, I’m not taking that fucking pill because I’m not fucking sick.

Because if I ever come out to my family as demi, the next thing out of their mouths will be about this fucking pill.

Because I am one person on a tiny budget and I can’t fight a pharm company spending millions of dollars to convince people I need to be drugged into sexual submission.

Because this drug, and the tsunami of bullshit marketing that will accompany it, will follow me around for the rest of my life (or until it turns out to have killed a large number of people, which is about the only way it’ll get withdrawn).

Because I’m a human being, with a complex biology and history and the inalienable right to choose what I do with my own body, and the people marketing this drug are now going to try very hard to make everyone in my life forget that.

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“If you keep calling yourself asexual, eventually no one will want to have sex with you.”