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Kim Junmyeon Matters; Suho Matters

As I was cleaning up my 400ishGB worth of EXO vids/music/pics that I accumulated through 3.5 years, I ran down memory lane.  Randomly, I chose to rewatch EXO’s Naver Stardust interview from the Call Me Baby comeback.  Partnered with a nasty comment, about Suho, I had read the other day, it made me reanalyze a few things.  In every kpop group, there’s inside jokes, which started out as harmless little teases but escalated into running fandom jokes.  

“Suho, you’re really handsome.  But when you smile you are so ugly.”

Really funny initially.  “Kyungsoo, such savage!” I believe even Suho, himself, genuinely laughed at the tease but then the fandom kept following suit and repeating it as a meme.  I don’t know about you but if someone keeps telling me I’m ugly or not as attractive when I smile, my brain will automatically program me to not smile as much or at all anymore.

And the thing is, I can’t comprehend why you guys think Suho is ugly or anyone is ugly when they smile.  Smiles are such unique and honest expressions of happiness.  How do you simply taint such a positive attribute?  Suho’s lips may not curl like a kitten’s, like Chen’s, his teeth may not sparkle, like Chanyeols, eyes may not twinkle like Luhan’s, but I think his smile is gorgeous and so perfectly fitting for Suho.  It is unpretentious and inviting, with an ounce of shyness and awkwardness.  His contagious laughter brings me an immense amount of joy that I can’t help but smile too.  

Watch this cut of Naver Stardust Rolling Paper Segment to see and hear for yourself:

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“Suho is such an ugly crier.”

This one started because of EXO’s first ever music awards win during Wolf and even became one of the most searched keywords in Korea.  Sometimes, I think the EXO members tease Suho about it because it’s just kinda awkward to stand next to your friend, who’s crying - you don’t know how to comfort them and such.  But sigh I wonder what the receiver of the teasing feels…are you…supposed to try to look photogenic when you’re crying and expressing your heartfelt gratitude toward people and things that helped you fulfill your dreams?  I think unless you’re an actor filming a movie or drama or w/e, looking pretty while crying doesn’t ever cross your mind…because crying, smiling, laughing are emotions that are meant to come from the heart.

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And now here, something I saw a lot in previous years, that I saw again a few days ago while browsing YouTube videos.  It basically blamed Suho for KrisLuTao’s leave, comparing it to how heroic ZE:A’s Lee Hoo had threatened Star Empire for mistreating his members.

Please repeat after me: It was not Suho’s fault that Kris, Luhan, Tao left EXO.

But, as the leader, he took three bullets for the team.  I remember him getting so, so, so much hate during Kris’s leave.  I’m going to be honest and say, a small part of me kept going, “Do something Suho.  You’re the leader!  You need to fix this.  You’re supposed to protect them.  That’s your job!  Go against the company.  Threaten them.  Flip tables.  FLIP THE TABLES.  Bring Kris back.  Bring him back.  I want him back!”

Did we not think Suho didn’t want him back?  Did we not think that the company hounded Suho for answers or strictly warned him to calm the others down?

I think that though he didn’t show it, he took the member’s leaving the hardest.

Kris - former leader of EXO-M.  Whenever Suho and him reunited, there was a sense of relief and joy from Suho as if weight suddenly lifted off his shoulders because he didn’t need to carry the team alone anymore.  With the departure of Kris, he had to not only carry the 11 members alone, but also the entirety of the fandom, who were all too shock at the slogan ‘We are One’ that was no longer ‘We are One’ but instead, began to divide into two, with 95% of them standing by Kris.

When we blame Suho, we stop viewing him as a human with legitimate emotions, needs, and dreams, but as a steel robot, created with the sole purpose to serve EXO and EXO-Ls.

Did we not ever wonder if was he quite possibly upset that his partner didn’t discuss the situation with him?  Did it never cross our minds that having the first ever concert, he could call his own after seven years was like a dream to him, that seemed to fall from his grasps even though he could taste it with the tip of his tongue?

Did we not see him stand alone on stage, trying so, so very hard to smile and keep it together even though he was falling apart?  He looked handsome and cool smiling like that, didn’t he?  But that was the one time, I couldn’t smile along with him.  

Luhan - one of the older hyungs of the group.  Suho openly credits and thanks him for always taking good care of the younger members with him.

Did we not think Suho was silently agreeing and self-blaming for not being able to stop his team from falling apart, or not able to protect his brothers through harsh conditions?

Tao – this one.  I worried about Suho a lot during this era, where he became such an expert in masking away any sadness he felt.  I think this one, Suho knew way before everyone else did, even before Tao, himself knew.  And I think, he let him go, even though he didn’t want to.  If you even follow EXO over the years, in the slightest, you knew Tao and Suho shared a strong bond, incomparable and irreplaceable.  Tao always leaned on Suho.  “Suho Umma”  “Suho Umma, I love you!”  But just as much as Tao leaned on Suho, Suho leaned on Tao because Tao often showered his hyung with undying love, support, and gratitude.  I’m not saying the others don’t respect their leader, but they often ridicule and tease him.  Of course, I don’t think it’s bullying or by any means disrespectful because we all play around and poke fun of people we are closest and most comfortable with.  It’s just that when it gets excessive, the person, on the receiving end of these jokes, will eventually begin to believe such words.

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“I don’t like Suho.  He’s so fake.”

Ah, I guess you are right.  Because as an idol, who is really 100% real in front of the camera?  The things we see through our computer/television screens are mere highlight reels of a person’s life.  Also, how is he supposed to be “real” when ya’ll are hounding him about how ugly he looks when he’s genuinely expressing his emotions?  Tao was the realest member, spurting whatever the heck he felt and thought, and look what we did to him. As the leader, Suho has to fake he is okay, that he is strong and firm on his words, even if the tips of his toes tremble like earthquakes.

He takes his career – seven years of blood and sweat training & four years in public eye, taking bullets every time a problem arises, nurturing (mothering) eleven members he has adopted as his own children, and humoring EXO-Ls so, so seriously.  He literally has playing the role of the guardian and protecting everyone but himself.

Suho hardly ever lets his guard down.  He won’t allow himself to fall apart, fearing that once he falls, a domino effect will occur.  And to be honest, I think it may if we lose him because Suho is truly a rock to EXO.  So even if you don’t like him - because the purpose of this post isn’t to force everyone to love him or become a Suho stan, even if you think he isn’t attractive or if you still think he failed or could have done better during the departure of the three members…please learn to appreciate our leader.  Cheer him on a little more when you see him falter.  Laugh at his jokes once in a while even if you think they’re dorky.  Because we do only have one Suho, leader and guardian of EXO.    

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