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arcane is driving me mad like what do you MEAN silco knew violet and jinx when they were little, he was FRIENDS with their MOM. it recontextualizes the entire first season. like of course powder jumped to cling onto silco after being abandoned. he used to be family. he was the only family she had left, GOD. AUUUGHHHH.

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Your parents can love you and still be shitty abusive parents. They can mean well and still fuck up. They might fuck up without even knowing it's abuse.

Sometimes I think about how, when I was 5, my dad would make grilled cheese sandwiches and cut them into dinosaur shapes for me. Other times when I was hungry, he would refuse to feed me at all, because he decided that 5 was old enough for me to cook for myself when he didn't feel like doing it.

I think about how he taught me to swim, and fish, and (yes) throw a ball. In the summer, at night, he would wrap me in a huge comforter and carry me around outside to show me the constellations. But I hated being left alone with him because he was often bad tempered, mean to me for no reason, and I couldn't count on him for basic things like food.

Sometimes I think about how my mom raised hell in my high school principal's office in front of multiple faculty members because they weren't complying with my IEP (disability required accommodations). She always saw red if someone else laid a finger on me, even figuratively. When we were at home she screamed at me for things I had no control over and said I was using my illness to get my way.

I think about how she bought me art supplies and paid for lessons for all of my hobbies. She attended every single concert, performance, and game. I don't think I went a day without being told she loved me while growing up, and she constantly told me how proud she was. But I could never trust her mood and she could go from loving mother to terrorizing me before I knew what was happening.

My parents love me but I still flinch if someone in my vicinity washes a dish a little too aggressively. My parents never intentionally traumatized me, but my nervous system never knew the difference. Neither of my parents saw anything they did as abuse; they believed they were good parents. It wasn't until my mom was in her mid 60s that she grasped that her own childhood had been abusive, too.

They're not bad, irredeemable people. They're complex people with a lot of their own trauma who lacked many skills necessary for good parenting. I could hate them for it, but I don't. I'm not obligated to forgive them, and I don't think I have, and I don't know whether I ever really will. My parents damaged me a lot in ways that have affected my whole life, and I still have good memories with them.

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[talking about my favorite characters] okay so THESE two come in a bonded pair and if i think about them too hard i start taking poison damage

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being a certain gender doesnt make you evil. youre not automatically evil just because youre a man youre automatically evil because of the amulet

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good morning how do i kill the yearning before it kills me

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i’m so glad earth only has one moon, if there were more i’d have to pick a favorite and that sounds too emotionally taxing to even fathom

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i might be back on my bullshit

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holding an oc closely.... if you had a fandom would people be insane about you....

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my other grounding technique is remembering that the earliest abolitionists & the earliest suffragists had no proof that the world would ever make possible what they fought for and indeed many of them did not live to see it come to pass. and yet they did not succumb to despair so it would be disrespectful to their memory to let it overtake me

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Regardless of how tomorrow goes, I want to tell every trans person on here one thing.

You have to live. You have to live. Even if by some godforsaken reason he wins, you have to live. You have to keep pushing on and living loud and proud. It might be hard, but you absolutely must live.

We will do what trans people have done since the beginning of time. We will resist. We will find our communities and we will thrive, even if it has to be in the shadows. We will live and we will resist no matter what comes tomorrow.

Get out there and vote!!! Ensure a bright future for yourself and your brothers and sisters!! GET OUT THERE AND VOTE BLUE DOWN THE BALLOT!!

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my bravest knighttt... come hither ..... mmmwah !! ok you are dismissed

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*in a Situation* okay which blorbo can I use to get through this

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Maggie Dietz, "November" [ID in alt text]