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You can't help other people until you help yourself.

It's like where if you're on an airplane and the oxygen masks fall you're supposed to put yours on first before you turn to help someone else.

Because if you pass out from lack of oxygen while trying to help someone, you're not helping anyone.

If you get yourself hurt or burn yourself out, you're not going to be able to help whoever it is you want to help.

You need to take care of yourself first.

You need to make sure you're okay.

Only then can you think about helping others.

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Positive energy is vital (x)

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Source: sterlinggraves on Instagram

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I know I’ve posted this before, but damn- I can never not reblog it. 

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loving and respecting black women goes beyond finding your black favs hot and calling them the blueprint . If you don’t extend your love and admiration to the black women in your life whether they are close to you or just working at your local shop or just waiting in an elevator with you then your activism means nothing . And loving and respecting black women doesn’t mean fetishizing us it means respecting us as people with inner lives and flamboyant souls and emotions and BOUNDARIES . Let’s get that in all y’all leftists heads

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NOT EVERYTHING FEELS LIKE SOMETHING ELSE

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People often mistake “your feelings are valid” with “your reaction based on your feelings is ok”

Which isn’t the same thing

You’re entitled to how you feel. You’re not entitled to behave however you want based off of those feelings

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“I’m almost 50, and here is the best thing I have learned so far: every strange thing you’ve ever been into, every failed hobby or forgotten instrument, everything you have ever learned will come back to you, will serve you when you need it. No love, however brief, is wasted.” @louisethebaker on Twitter

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via weheartit

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OCEAN VUONG

Night Sky with Exit Wounds (2016);

original photo and edit

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me trying to cope: it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter it doesn’t matter it

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Don’t let those who misunderstand you confuse you about who you are.

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“The moment I saw her, a part of me walked out of my body and wrapped itself around her. And there it still remains.”

— Arundhati Roy, The Ministry of Utmost Happiness (via quotefeeling)

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Please remember that almost everyone around you is traumatized. I didn’t understand this when I was younger. I wondered why people acted so strangely and irrationally. Maybe all children wonder this. The author Robert Anton Wilson said (paraphrasing), “We have never seen a completely sane adult human.” No one makes it out of this life alive. It’s not their fault. Mercy, kindness, forgiving — these are what makes one human. They are other names for love. People break in the strangest of ways.