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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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I sugar because.. I want money I sugar because.. I need money I sugar because.. College is expensive I sugar because.. Fuck student loans & debt I sugar because.. I like nice clothes I sugar because.. I like nice food I sugar because.. My parents can’t give me what I want and need I sugar…
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He checked it inside & out before saying that I needed one that hasn’t been tampered with by the public. Thanks babe 😍
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Thanks :) and I do but I clean it up, here goes:
Dress in your expectations, say you want Giuseppe & Celine then wear that! If you want UGG’s and coach bags, dress that way.
Dress appropriate for the location! You don’t want to re-live pretty woman. So if you’re shopping on Rodeo, then slip on some Prada & Saint Laurent. You want to look like you belong. You also don’t want to stroll through a family-friendly shopping mall in red bottoms on the arm of a man 40 years your senior. LOL
Dress comfortably! last thing you want is to be tackling some cobblestone in 6 inch heels. Or to tread through the shopping center with new shoes. If you’re wearing heels, make sure they’re comfortable & broken in. What’s comfortable to me or whoever else may not necessarily be comfortable to you.
Jeans: If you decide to wear them, make sure they compliment you’re assets! I would stick to darker wash skinny jeans because they look more “classy” If you’re wearing distressed jeans, make sure they’re only SEMI distressed you don’t want to be walking around with big holes in your pants looking like you accidentally rolled off a cliff lol. Jeggings, the ones that are demim & look like actual jeans work too! If you want/need to wear a belt, stick to something simple. Salvatore Ferragamo and Hermes are good places to start.
Play it cool, you don’t need to look provocative You’re shopping, not heading to a cocktail party so don’t slip on a Bodycon dress. If you want to show some body due to the warmer weather, rompers are a good alternative. They look more cleaned up and you’re not trying too hard.
Don’t neglect your hair/makeup and don’t go overboard HUGE false lashes aren’t necessary in this setting. But remember to look pretty and all that jazz. Refer to my hair/makeup posts: http://vanitythynameiswoman.tumblr.com/post/89037044325/i-your-fashion-posts-i-stalk-your-blog-for-them-up
Leggings: they’re a good alternative to jeans, they’re comfy & go with almost anything.
Dressy tops: pair well with jeans, and leggings. Pick the right ones for your outfit. Don’t wear a leather jacket with longer/detailed tops, it looks overly layered.
Staple pieces: designer bags, sunglasses, and shoes. Make sure things match and aren’t too clunky.
GENERAL RULES OF THUMB: * Use a lint roller * Steam or iron clothing * Wipe clothes down with a dryer sheet to eliminate static * General hygiene applies * POT date etiquette applies * Blend in * No overgrown acrylic or chipping nail polish
Good luck on your next shopping trip & ignore the haters! pretty-pr0vocative
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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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What are 10 good questions you should ask a POT while meeting for coffee
1. What made you join (insert site here)
2. Have you done something like this before?
3. What do you expect in this type of relationship?
4. What can I expect?
5. Are you opposed to giving me an allowance also known as a monthly stipend?
6. Do you like to travel? Are you traveling anywhere anytime soon?
7. Why didn’t the last relationship work out in your own opinion if you don’t mind me asking?
8. How many times would you like to see me?
9. What type of allowance are you thinking about to make this arrangement work?
10. When would you like to see me again?
You can also talk about culture, politics, cuisines, traveling destinations and so on and so forth.
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This is the last page. You can scroll through all of it to see how they are really trying to run game on us.
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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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Remember, being a sugar baby is about you being spoiled rotten, not about sleeping with a man a couple times a month for cash.
http://ivyleaguesugarbaby.tumblr.com/post/91771024233/pot-dates (via demoisellesugarbabe)
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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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how does this sound "Hey, I've viewed your profile and I see that we have similar interests and needs, if you're interested message me back." i really appreciate your help btw ;;
It sounds really boring. So boring in fact that your message is only a word or two different from the generic statement that SA attaches to “winks.” Since joining SA I’ve easily sent over 300 spam messages to POTs yet I’ve only been called out with “Is this a collect message?” or “Nice generic message” twice. If I ever sent out your version, I think that number would increase tenfold, or I’d simply be outright ignored. Likewise, whenever POTs send me messages like this, I know that they’re merely sending me an ounce more effort than a wink and are messaging 40 other women that same note.
Why I message
Realistically, everyone on these sites is talking with multiple people at once, but as humans we love to feel uniquely noticed. So the two key things I try to remember for an initial spam message are to stroke the ego and elicit interest. You’re doing a really great job with taking initiative but now it’s time to crank up your messages and get the responses you want and deserve, girl!
Think of an initial message like a voicemail. If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey it’s Andy. Call me back.” You’ll be like what does this bitch want? If you get a voicemail saying, “Hey, gorgeous. It’s Andy! Haven’t heard from you in a while. I have the FUNNIEST story to tell you. You’re gonna die. Call me back some time tonight before 10pm or else I’ll be asleep. Can’t wait to hear from you. Bye!” What are the key differences here? The first one lacks motive or reason and has no sense of urgency. You have no idea why Andy called or what he wants. Consequently, it’s not enticing and it’ll either take you hours/days to call Andy back or you’ll text him and say “Hey got your voicemail. What’s up?” You never want a POT to have to ‘What’s Up’ (aka wtf do you want) you! When people write on their profiles “Not a fan of endless emails/texting” THIS IS WHY. Make your point and make sure your point is a good one! The second voicemail not only makes the point but it leaves the receiver begging for more. What’s Andy’s story? I’ve got to hear it! I might even walk out in the middle of class just to call Andy back and hear what he has to say. This is the difference between a green check next to ‘sent messages’ and an inbox full of responses.
When I Message
On SA, there’s a daily quota of how many messages you can send so choose wisely! Winks are unlimited per day, but as I mentioned above, they are the crutch of the lazy and unimaginative. Your words carry much more clout! Rather than wasting messages on men who are too cheap/indecisive to pay for a premium membership, always make sure that the yellow “Premium” is highlighted on the banner on his profile. This way he can actually see, read, and respond to your messages!
How I Message
This might go without saying, but don’t waste your time reaching out to splenda, salt, and meatsuits. Just because BigDickDaddy69 lives 10 minutes away from you and has a million dollar income doesn’t mean meeting with him will be worth your time (but if you want a free dinner, go for it girl!). READ THEIR PROFILES. Ctrl + F for “sex”, “kinky”, “stamina”, and other TRIGGER WARNING: TACKY AS FUCK words. If he’s in the clear, move on to extracting tidbits about him that you find interesting – his career, places he’s visited, sports he’s into, activities he loves, etc. Ctrl + T his profile in a tab right next to the message you’re writing for him so that you can refer back to it quickly if need be (I say this because Doctor is technologically challenged and idk you might be too lol). While spamming out your daily email quota should not take more than 30-60 minutes and you are not here to write each individual man an ode, you do want to have some specifics.
 Who I message
Assuming I’ve found a premium member who is not a meatsuit, there are two categories that he’ll fall in: Silent Sam and Fun Freddy.
Silent Sam is the standard SA user who, for reasons of extreme discretion, novice sugar profile experience, weak self-selling game, or all three, lacks a well-defined profile. His About Me and About You are brief and vague with phrases like “let’s talk”, “message me for more”, “Handsome, fit, gentleman seeks SB”, “looking for a mutually beneficial arrangement” or other NO DUH type shit. He may have little to no photos, or, worse, have several tailored-suit or beach bod selfie shots thinking that his looks speak for him. He is probably using a vague username like “NYCbanker” or a fake name like “Mike.” Although his hazy wants and needs are frustrating, he is not to be discounted for reasons such as his high income/net worth, high allowance (or it may be open/negotiable but his income is high enough), handsome photos, or ideal location. Thus, I conclude that Silent Sam has the potential to be a good SD and simply needs me to extract this from him.
Fun Freddy, unlike Silent Sam, details his love of Russian ballet and need for an SB who shares it at length on his profile. Indeed, his wants, needs, hobbies, etc. are described explicitly on his About Me and About You which are each a solid one or two paragraphs at least. He may have several photos, or still have little to none for needs of discretion or otherwise. Like Silent Sam, his income/net worth, allowance, and location work well for you but he has a leg up on Sam in that his personality and ideal arrangement align with yours as well.
What I message
(I’ve italicized the template and the rest is just content I scraped from his profile)
Subject: Hey there, (Sam/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)
Body: SO jealous that you live in Neptune! It’s a mere four planets away from me so I drive out often for the amazing rock climbing scene. Do you dabble in that at all? Unfortunately there’s not much of that on Earth where I’m from but it’s probably my favorite hobby. Have you ever been to Earth before? As a Management Consultant, I’m sure that you travel to several fun planets and I can tell there’s a ton I’d love to pick your brain about as I too enjoy sight-seeing in various corners of our galaxy. I’ve enjoyed your profile thus far and would love to hear a bit more about you and your ideal arrangement sometime soon.
Cheers,
Kelly Clarkson
^ Silent Sam is more time-consuming to message because you have to pull teeth to fatten up your template. You can’t spew generic compliments like “You’re so handsome!” or “You seem like a fun, active guy” when you have no idea about either. You must rely a bit more on speculation. But this message does a great job of inserting yourself into the narrative of his life. Now he knows that you’re available to meet for coffee in Neptune often. He knows you love to travel and he doesn’t have to feel shy about asking you to join him on his bi-weekly business trips to Pluto. You also shoot him a few questions highlighting your interest in his life and give him action-steps (tell me more about yourself and your arrangement) to steer the conversation where you want to go and to give HIM a template for how to respond. Nothing worse than a message from a guy that says “How are you?” right? Ugh! This makes YOU have to do all of the guesswork. Don’t be that guy. Save your busy CEO the trouble and give him three or four key points to come back at you with, which will be helpful as you’re trying to learn more about him in spite of his blank ass profile. Ultimately, this message shows that you’re impressed with him all off of a few words that he wrote down – what an incentive to divulge more!
 Subject: Hey there, (Fred/handsome/nothing if he has no name or photos)! :)
I couldn’t help but gush over your profile! Not only are your photos absolutely scrumptious, but you write so eloquently! It’s evident that you are an intelligent, successful, well-traveled gentleman who knows how to have a lot of fun. We definitely share a lot of values and passions in common. I LOVE that you’re a veterinarian – I have two puppies myself. What made you want to study that line of medicine?Your photo line-dancing was very handsome! Have you ever tried salsa before? If not, I’ll simply have to teach you as it is my favorite form of dance :) You seem like you’d be an absolute blast to spend time with and I’d love the chance to find that out for myself. Can’t wait to hear more about you and your ideal arrangement soon!
 Xoxo,
Beyonce
^ This dude could be the most boring guy in the world but I’m still gonna what? Stroke that ego! I act like his profile blew me away. Best I’ve read since I joined the site. He worked really hard to craft those paragraphs so I reward him accordingly. As Drake says, “I’m telling every girl she’s the one for me, when I ain’t even planning to call.” Make him think that you think that he is the shit! You might be wary of doing so because then he’ll think you’re puddy in his hands, but it really has the opposite effect. These men get dozens of messages that commit the below-mentioned offenses (or are boring like yours lol) and to read from someone passionate, exciting, and lively is a breath of fresh air. Remember the voicemail thing. If you have ten “Hey call me back” voicemails and one enthusiastic, inquiring, fun voicemail, who are you going to call back first? The more interest I show in him, the happier and more inclined to learn about me he will be. Moreover, just like your message to Silent Sam, you’re seeking to insert yourself in the narrative of his life by allowing him to envision you two salsa dancing together. Once you plant this image in his mind, he’ll simply have to make it a reality!
AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS NOT THE TIME FOR:
Rapid-fire interrogation into his merits as an SD OR to bring up how much allowance I want.
“Hey there, John! I’ve loved your profile. So tell me, what brings you to SA rather than a more traditional site such as eHarmony? Have you ever been a sugar daddy before? If so how much allowance did she get? And why did it end? Can’t wait to hear back from you!”
^Hey there, SB, you’re hot. Why are you on SA? Do you like older men a lot? The harrier the better? How many older men have you been with? Did you let them do anal? How deep? ………………..Are you uncomfortable yet? This neither strokes the ego nor elicits interest. Instead, I pocket these key questions for the next message or two. Like real dating, sugar dating is about a personality match initially so I start off seeing what we have in common and then (soon, don’t wait forever) move on to see if our arrangement expectations align. As so many SBs say, treat him like a person, not an ATM.
Regurgitation my entire profile.
“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student at University of Tampa who is majoring in psychology. I love to dance, travel, and play with my cats. I keep in shape by running four miles a day and I’m training for my first marathon coming up this summer. Blah. Blah. Blah. Copy and paste from my profile.”
^After a guy reads my message, he will immediately go to your profile to learn more about me. So let’s give him more to learn! Don’t just say everything you’ve already said before. Your profile should do the telling and your message should do the showing. If you say you’re fun, flexible and like to travel – show it! This probably won’t elicit interest since it’s not anything he couldn’t find from just reading your profile. And it certainly doesn’t do anything to stroke the ego since it’s all about you.
Ultimatums.
“Hey there, John! I’m a fun, sexy, college student who is looking for a man to spend time with two to three times a month for wining & dining, enriching experiences, and a mutual beneficial arrangement with, on my part, a monthly allowance of $5000. Is that YOU? :)” ^ It can be tempting to send the latter message because it seemingly weeds out guys who aren’t what I’m looking for, right? Especially since guys send us these messages all the time a la, “I’m not looking to waste either of our time so here’s what I want yada yada yada.” Well these type of gun to the head messages are a big turn-off to a lot of people (especially shy newbies like Silent Sam); it’s better to start light and then delve into what you’re looking for a message or two later. While this message may elicit some interest, if anything, it hurts the ego by measuring this man against my standards right off the bat. Don’t be a salt baby. Don’t make it “Are you good enough for me? Why should I choose you?” But instead “are we good enough for eachother?” (at least not to his face)
SA winks and literal winks “;)” as they are universally tacky and creepy lol.
RECAP, AN INITIAL MESSAGE IS THE TIME TO:
Reveal specifically what I find appealing about a man.
Reveal my fun personality to this man.
Enable him to envision the exponential surge in his quality of life with me as his SB.
 If you found these tips helpful, draft a few responses taking my personal experiences into consideration and send me your own ideas again off anon! I’d be happy to tell you if I’m now more enchanted and interested in having you as my SB lol
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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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POT: $300 to sit and have lunch with you? What’s in it for me?
Me: You know that feeling when you are driving a nice, shiny luxury car and you can feel everyone’s eyes on you? You can sense their jealousy and admiration, and it makes you glow with pride as you bask in your accomplishment. The satisfaction of seeing the most beautiful woman in the room walk in, turn heads and knowing that she’s with you is a similar - if not better - feeling.”
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1. Exfoliate. Seriously-if you and daddy are platonic or in a traditional relationship-this works wonders. Every bf, SD, I’ve ever been close with has commented how smooth my skin is. I LOVE the sugar+coconut oil DIY exfoliation personally. Consistency will depend upon you and skin type but i...
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Before I started sugaring I did research upon research. I had to prepare myself and I find it very dangerous and plain stupid if a SB doesn’t do her research and jumps right into it. You need to decide if it is truly right for you.
So in order to understanding sugaring you must understand the...
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Isaac Inspired Winter Outfit by veterization featuring black boots
C Wonder white t shirt / Brown coat / DL1961 Premium Denim super skinny jeans / H&M black boots, $43 / Tote bag / Eddie Borgo silver earrings / Pearls Before Swine pearl jewelry, $115 / Pieces infinity scarve, $20 / DailyLook fingerless glove
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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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honestly, my goal for the summer is to get hot, but my car, and just stunt on everybody. and then in September, I'm going to start sugaring and focus on school + have a part time job + get back to volunteering at the hospital, and start volunteering at a homeless shelter (: -list out my goals. -proceed. here's to new beginnings!! (:
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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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Just calculated the amount of money in my savings account, my tuition cost as well as the amount of money I make from my vanilla job...and the truth is: I don't really need a sugar daddy at all
How far I’ve come!
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sb-al ¡ 10 years ago
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I’m writing this post specifically for new girls currently on the prowl for their first SDs. The sugar tag is confusing and misleading. You’ll find brand new girls who luck out and find their $3-$5K seemingly perfect arrangements (mind you, we ALL sugarcoat and over-exaggerate on here, I’ll be...
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All sugar babies have different reasons for sugaring. But college babies usually have something in common: we’re all trying to get through school.
Unlike some other SBs, we have to constantly differentiate from needs and wants - like, I really want the Louis Vuitton Neverfull GM, but I need to...
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so my mom tried to get me to leave work and go to tarawih..haaaaaaaaaaaa not happening boo (I feel bad for laughing though ): )
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I would say that my Pot date tonight went well 👌
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