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My fall nails that will be for American Thanksgiving 🥰

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Why are cringe atheists so obsessed with me like why do yall care what I do for work lol

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Tess Newall

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Pre-menstrual depression is always depicted as like "He He! I had a box of icecream bars and cried while watching the Titanic!" But in reality, it's more like, "I'm standing the edge of an abyss. There is nothing good inside of me, I'm filled with rage and desperation."

It's crazy that being told how to deal with that is never a part of anyone's menstrual sex education.

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I bring a kind of ‘suggestion of sacrificial love’ to the chat that bitter husbands really don’t like.

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Evening Dress

Jeanne Paquin, 1897

The Metropolitan Museum of Art

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1860s female archery outfit with a pocket diary hanging from the belt

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Costume designed by Nicoletta Ercole for Anna Galiena in 3 (1996)

From Tirelli Costumi

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'sorelle fontana evening ensemble, 1954, worn by ava gardner in "the barefoot contessa"' in high style: masterworks from the brooklyn museum costume collection at the metropolitan museum of art - jan glier reeder (2010)

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Banana slug socks are live!!!

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TIP:

This holiday season, if you know someone who likes house plants,

DON'T

get them a houseplant. DO NOT.

instead, get them a NICE, MEDIUM-LARGE, AESTHETIC, BOTTOM-DRAINING, INDOOR

POT.

that is what they want. that is what they dream of. ok? thats what will be most useful and appreciated. in fact, if you can, get them a CUTE MATCHING SET. OF POTS!!!! NOT PLANTS, POTS!!!!!!!!

they may be more excited initially about the plant. that is true. but a pot is a gift that they will go home and use to upsize one of their already beloved houseplants, and every time they look at it they will remember how much they appreciate you.

HOUSEPLANT:

- they already have so many

- needs to be watered

- takes up window space

- comes in a pot thats already too small, needs to be upsized, costing money

- can die

AESTHETIC POT

- lets them care for an existing plant they own

- they will be grateful every time they see it in their home

- does not take up window space not already occupied by a plant

- can be wrapped without dying or spilling dirt everywhere

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Cape

Late 1890s

The John Bright Collection

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I have crossed the species barrier and I’m currently infected with crochet, I don’t expect to get better, this does tend to be terminal, pray for my husband’s wallet. 😔🙏🏼

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Pro tip if you want to learn the croatian language. Croatia has many dialects, and while yugoslavia was a thing, the favoured dialects where the ones that were more related to serbian. After the division of yugoslavia, those dialects became a bit, hated(?) Exactly because of the similarities to serbian, so the official dialect that is taught in schools uses some older croat words.

So when buying bread in croatia, be careful to say "kruh" and not "hleb" because if you say hleb an old man will be angry at you and demean you :') (a lived expirience)

Also, if you are ever in croatia, you gotta try slanac (unless you have problems and aren't allowed much salt), long soft pieces of bread with salt in like melted strings over it, its name is quite literally salty one (slan, salty, -ac is a suffix) (just sol is salt)

This is extremely helpful thank you!

I found this reddit thread that has a recipe so I think I'll try making it because 👀 this sounds so good especially when I'm on my period and wanting really salty food. It also seems that some of the Slavic bakeries near me sell something similar, but call it 'slanci' so I wonder if it's the same thing but different language?

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Unfortunately I think I am actually intolerant to gluten and/or dairy and it isn't just a psychosomatic thing from the past few months of not eating it to try and get my period back. My stomach has been wrecked for days and I'm so nauseous. Which also means I'll likely have to continue having no gluten or dairy if I get pregnant, which just really sucks

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That's fair... Coconut oil doesn't absorb into my skin well because oil-based lotions and such my skin doesn't like to absorb, I have to use water based stuff. But that's very interesting and might be something I bring up with my husband. Like I said we would only need it once or twice a month 🤔

Sorry this may end up being personal but uh? Coconut oil? Does that work? What does that feel like? That doesn't cause infections or anything? We very occasionally would need to use lubrication (just during the one or two days a month I'm more dry) but was just thinking of buying a small bottle of water-based lube. I don't think I've ever heard or thought of using coconut oil

Idk, feels like oil, lol. Works great. I think we tried water-based lube once when we first got married, and it did not work for us. Dried out fast and tacky. The oil feels more natural.

Coconut oil is naturally anti-bacterial and anti-viral, so no, it doesn't cause infections. Although for women with particularly sensitive pH, it may make them more susceptible to microbial infections. So if you're prone to yeast infections, it may not be the best choice. (It also breaks down latex condoms but that's not an issue for Catholics).

I like that it is natural, readily available, and nondescript. I'm also perpetually dry so it doubles as hydration for me. Been using it several times a week for 3 years of marriage without issue. Just make sure it's pure with no additives.

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Risking more tmi lol

I've never had the sheets be crunchy before 🤔 we also get tired early so usually if we are going to be intimate it will be before dinner right after my husband comes home. Either that or in the middle of the night. And decently frequently (at least 3 times a week but usually 4 or 5). So it usually has enough time to dry before actually going to bed. If/when it isnt, I'll change the sheets or put a towel down to sleep on top of for the night if it's really bad.

This is a bit of a not really specifically Catholic or Christian question but you'll not give *bad* answers to it:

My wife and I have less sex than we might want to in part due to the effort of setting up the bed, and related matters, needed to manage the, uh, mess.

(for example, we assume that we want not to stain the sheets which I'm not even sure is normal)

How can we make this more casual / spontaneous / less of a barrier to us?

I'm not really sure what you mean by "setting up the bed". We just have dedicated towels that we keep by the bedside and throw on the bed beforehand. Takes about 10 seconds and isn't much of an interruption. We also have a little container of coconut oil on the nightstand that we use for lubrication. These steps slow us down for a min, but I don't think it's realistic for us to do away with them.

Not sure what kind of set-up y'all do, but if it's similar, then I'm a bit puzzled as to why this would be seen as such a chore as to be discouraging sex.