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I went to a court case here in Scotland. A man was charged with rape and abduction. His victim went to a club, was drugged and lost her friends and phone. She noticed she was drugged so she left the club and went to a little food store to ask for help. It was about 4 am at this time. She went inside the food store and asked the 2 employees who were working there for help. She told them she was drugged, had lost her phone and if they could call the cops. They called the cops, but the cops took over an hour to get there, so eventually one of the guys left, meaning she was now alone with one other man. As soon as that employee left, the other employee locked the doors, closed the windows, turned off the lights and dragged her to a place which he knew was not fully visible in the CCTV footage and raped her.

This girl was drugged by a man meaning to rape her, went to another man for help and instead he raped her.

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There is a cultural crisis happening.

Women are expected to reject their “women privilege” (free drinks, attention, etc.) they receive as women.

However, Women are still expected to maintain the reasons they experience this women privilege: being beautiful, doing their hair, working out, being charming, etc.

Women are expected to perform the “feminine burdens” but still reject the corresponding “women privilege”

To make matters worse, Women are then expected to uptake some of the “masculine burdens”: paying for dates, high earning jobs, working long hours, etc.

BUT Women are then still denied the corresponding “male privilege” of professional respect, higher salaries, voice heard, etc.

Women are now expected to perform more “masculine burdens” but without any corresponding “male privilege”

There is a cultural push for Women to ultimately reduce their privileges but increase their burdens. Be aware of this. 

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not to keep posting about this but i don’t think a lot of people realize that forcing women to be in a perpetual state of defensiveness, so much so that it is internalized and wired into our brains from the time we’re born, is actual brain damage and directly mirrors the internal wiring of trauma survivors whose nervous systems are constantly on alert and ready to defend even when they don’t need to be. when you’re living in a state of perpetual defensiveness you become neurotic, hypervigilant, obsessive, anxious, depressed, overreactive, self-conscious, afraid. all of the things that have been historically categorized as feminine traits and behaviors. your true internal needs become masked by this compulsion to always be performing to satisfy externally enforced expectations, and you lose your sense of self and create this situation where what you want/need is directly at odds with what you express (or don’t express) to others. which then is what gives birth to the idea that women never know what they want, women are mysterious and hard to understand, women are always contradicting themselves, women are never clear. it’s like well..yeah because women are repeatedly traumatized both psychologically and physically from the day they’re born and only those who are fortunate enough to encounter sisterhood or wise maternal guidance or individually break free from ideology are able to live authentically. and even then it takes so much work to resist because you still have to operate within a culture that doesn’t have a place for liberated women.

[sappypatheticfool]

There is a cultural crisis happening.

Women are expected to reject their “women privilege” (free drinks, attention, etc.) they receive as women.

However, Women are still expected to maintain the reasons they experience this women privilege: being beautiful, doing their hair, working out, being charming, etc.

Women are expected to perform the “feminine burdens” but still reject the corresponding “women privilege”

To make matters worse, Women are then expected to uptake some of the “masculine burdens”: paying for dates, high earning jobs, working long hours, etc.

BUT Women are then still denied the corresponding “male privilege” of professional respect, higher salaries, voice heard, etc.

Women are now expected to perform more “masculine burdens” but without any corresponding “male privilege”

There is a cultural push for Women to ultimately reduce their privileges but increase their burdens. Be aware of this. 

[sappypatheticfool]

It really bothers me the way male vs female rape victims are discussed. It’s considered way harder for men to come forward because it signifies a deeper loss of dignity. Do women not have dignity? Did it never occur to anyone that women are whole human beings also capable of feeling diminished/humiliated? Is the violation of our bodies so commonplace that our shame means nothing?

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most female murderers are severely beaten down by the world by the time they kill someone, like insanely horrible shit. meanwhile men will murder woman bc they saw a dead animal and got hard  

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A guy just came to my house while I was home alone to ask if I was single why are men like this

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Daddy gave me his heart ✨💚

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every single social interaction i've ever had has been complete guesswork

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I just wish I could learn every language and all the histories and about everyone's food and folklore and... 😔 but i only have one brain and it is small and malfunctioning

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if you’re at a point right now where you don’t see any hope in the future, remember that the future will always seem overwhelming when you’re thinking about it all at once. you only have to live through one moment at a time. focus on now and focus on getting through this, because you will.

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StopLine3

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stop overthinking why people did you dirty

they did it and they meant it, fuck em and move on

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my fav conspiracy theory is that everything will turn out ok eventually