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Listen, I’m only 6 episodes into the podcast, but you can’t tell me this isn’t just Welcome to Night Vale

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"Some seem to think asking for intimate details about your sex⁠ life is totally okay. They want to know mechanics and details like: "How do you have sex in a wheelchair?" "Can you...?" If you're LGBQ, they ramp it up even more. The good old "but how do lesbians have sex?" question goes on steroids when one or both partners is disabled. It doesn't seem to occur to them that they're being pretty rude — how would they like it if we went around asking them intimate personal questions?

You have the right to privacy, and to be treated with respect and dignity. That includes the right to decline to discuss private medical information with people, and to pass on an opportunity to talk about whether and how you have sex. The only people who truly need information about your sex life are your sexual⁠ partners — in intimate personal communication⁠ with each other about how to have joyful, delightful sex — and your doctor, when it's medically relevant. ("I'm thinking about getting pregnant," "I'm having vaginal pain," or "I'm worried I might have an STI⁠.")"

s.e. smith, I Beg Your Pardon? Dealing with Rude Nondisableds

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"If you support trans man lesbians you also have to support cis man lesbians" yeah cool other people's sexual orientation labels are not my business 👍🏻

As long as he's not trolling why should we exclude a guy who genuinely feels their attraction to women is queer/sapphic/lesbian/etc? This is how a few trans girls & nonbinary folk I've met realized they were trans, they realized they were a lesbian before coming to terms with the fact they're a woman / not actually a guy. And you know what, that's literally fucking fine. Not to mention, sometimes using the 'wrong' sexuality labels for your gender can be a form of gender nonconformity. Gnc/genderqueer guy finds it validating to identify as a lesbian? Awesome. Cool as hell.

If you want to get mad at creepy cishet guys creeping on lesbians, DO THAT. I don't think any of those people genuinely believes they are a lesbian, if they're saying that, they're trolling. In general I don't think any non-queer guy is going to genuinely find comfort in labeling themselves as a lesbian. Don't attack queer folk with weird genders or people still figuring shit out when you mean to be gunning for chasers and predators.

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I can’t make pasta any more without mumbling to myself, “wet the drys… then dry the wets…”

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Happy aromantic awareness week everyone!!

whether you're aromantic and romance repulsed, aromantic and romance neutral, or aromantic and romance favorable, happy aromantic awareness week!

whether you experience no romantic attraction, little romantic attraction, shifting romantic attraction, or conditional romantic attraction, happy aromantic awareness week!

whether you're aromantic and asexual, aromantic and allosexual, or aromantic and you just don't know or care, happy aromantic awareness week!!

happy aromantic awareness week everyone! give your local aromantic a shout this week :]

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I’m really into internet discourse but only pointless and stupid internet discourse like how many holes there are in a straw (it’s 2)

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people are always like “i have face blindness but i’m good with names” or “im terrible with names but i never forget a face” well baby idk how to tell u this but i am . bad at both.

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the world is a mess but at least we still have cunnilingus and spicy curry

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i love it when fish are like