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Aroallo culture is seeing everyone complain about not being able to find aroallo pride stuff and wanting to shake them and say I do it but also not wanting to egregiously self promote. Eh, screw it. I'm Paper Cranes and Pride on etsy. Pins and earrings of aro/aroallo/aroace/greyro/demiro arrows, aroallo pineapples, and hearts/flags for literally any identity you desire

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It's (Almost) Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

We're here, we're queer, and we are very glad That Holiday is now firmly behind us.

To celebrate us and our cool flag, I'm offering 20% off all aromantic-pride-themed commissions until February 24. This includes bracelets, bookmarks, pendants, and keychains! Send me a DM to learn more.

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Happy ASAW 2024, here's something about community !

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Aroace in a way that’s inseparable from relationship anarchy. Aroace in a “getting rid of the legal institution of marriage” way. Aroace in a “romantic/sexual attraction is irrelevant to me in the first place because I actively choose to deprioritize the romantic/sexual/nuclear family ideal of relationships in my life” way.

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My fellow aromantics: Remember that it is your god given right to be a hater on valentines day no matter what, and no matter what anyone else says about what the holiday is actually about. Free yourself. be a little hater sometimes. fuck this day and come frolick in the beautiful green, gray, black, and white fields.

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I'm trying to figure out what to do to celebrate aromantic spectrum awareness week (next week)

small freebies: simple aro pride bracelets for anyone who wants one (over 18, US only)

big freebie: single chunky aromantic bracelet & care package (over 18, international)

aro pride discount: a percentage off any aromantic pride commissions (no age or location restrictions)

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gender is a coin that everyone said was gonna land on heads or tails but i turned mine into one of those pressed pennies from the museum. it’s got a dinosaur on it

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FEMA is doing an emergency alert test on all TVs, radios, and cell phones on October 4, 2023, at approximately 2:20pm ET.

If you live in the US and you have a phone you need to keep secret for any reason, make sure that it is turned off at this time.

Yes, I'm doing this months in advance, and yes, my blog has very little reach, but I figure better to post about it more than less.

Please reblog and add better tags than mine, I'm bad at tags.

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I have a sticker on my computer that says, If I do a job in 30 minutes, It's because I spent 10 years learning how to do it. You owe me for the years not the minutes. I think about that a lot when I'm pricing art/commissions or paying for crafted products.

In a way, I wish we had a guild system for all artisans. It would sure help us with pricing and expectations of pricing if we could say, "Ah, that quilt is $300 because a junior quilter made it. And that one is $1000 because a journeyman quilter made it. And that one is $2500 because a master quilter made it."

I suppose the argument against a craftsman guild would be the cost of accreditation/testing/paperwork for something when you just want to be a hobbyist and not a production quilter.

Just a random Saturday morning thought.

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i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues

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"you looking for a friend?" she leans in, "or perhaps... more?"

your eyes widen; two friends?!

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"Loveless marriage" except in a joyous, loveless aromantic way instead of a miserable amatonormative way.

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Someone low key aphobic: Romantic and sexual attraction is what makes us human!

The A-Spec community, holding up a penguin: BEHOLD A HUMAN

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Need people to BACK OFF non-partnering aros ‼️‼️ let us be we are not sad lonely emos

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hey everyone ! I want to wish all you aspecs a happy pride !!! happy pride to every aplatonic person, every aromantic person, every asexual person, every closeted aspec, every person questioning if they're aspec, every person who doesn't use a label, every person who hasn't found the right label yet, every person who uses a ton of labels, SAM aspecs and non-SAM aspecs, everyone with friendships or queerplatonic relationships or romantic relationships or sexual relationships and everyone without, everyone who wants friendships or queerplatonic relationships or romantic relationships or sexual relationships and everyone who doesn't, each and every one of yall are amazing and valid and i wish allyall a wonderful pride month :]

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STAY SAFE!! [ID: the Gilbert Baker pride flag with the words “Happy pride to all those who are unable to celebrate openly and safely. You are loved and seen!” in all-caps black text over it. /end ID]

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a meditation on boundaries

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Back when I thought I was straight I would go on dates with boys. The boys would usually want to kiss me. I disliked kissing, but I thought that their preferences deserved to count as much as mine, and I reasoned that they probably liked kissing more than I disliked kissing. So kissing was a morally good thing to do. I also reasoned that if I told them I disliked the kissing then they’d feel guilty and enjoy it less. So I did not tell them. 

I am certain I was making some kind of critical error but it has taken me a long time to figure out what it might be.

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I like cuddling. I know some straight girls who like cuddling with their straight female friends but don’t want to cuddle with people who might be attracted to them because it makes them uncomfortable. But they don’t want to explicitly tell me this preference because they’re worried it’s homophobic. Ever since I learned that this dynamic was present in at least one friendship of mine I have not cuddled with any straight girls because there’s a plausible scenario in which I’d be making them uncomfortable and they wouldn’t tell me. 

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