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abuser: don't you fucking dare go blaming me for this

me: watch me

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“but is it still abuse if the abuser doesn’t seem to realize he’s doing it?”

YES IT IS. Abuse is defined by the pain and trauma victims go thru, your suffering and fear don’t go down one bit because “abuser may not be aware of what they’re doing”, actually, it goes up! Being tortured by someone who doesn’t care enough to even freaking realize they’re damaging you is much more dehumanizing and emotionally taxing than at least knowing the abuser’s intention clearly and that they’re achieving exactly what they want to achieve. Being lost about abuser’s intentions adds on to the trauma!

It doesn’t matter if they meant to do it or not (in most cases they absolutely meant it or didn’t actually give a shit if they’re hurting you or not as long as they get what they want). Staying safe from this person is important. Stopping the abuse and preventing any future abuse is important. Healing is important. Label the abuser with whatever you need that helps you to heal. Forget abuser’s side of the story and focus on yours. What they agree or disagree, what they’re aware or aren’t aware isn’t nearly as important as stopping that person from harming you, and preventing them from hurting you ever again.

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i still remember you on my bad days

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but I still remember everything

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Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Crime and Punishment

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Mary Oliver, from “Blue Iris”, Devotions

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spoken to me

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i hate you!!!!!! why would you DO THAT TO ME!1!1!1!1!1!!1!1!1!1!??1!?1!1?1!1?!1?

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Nicole Dollanganger- Have You Seen Me?