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(Hi its great to have you back Roserace! this was saved to my computer without the source creator, hope thats ok)

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thank you!!!

and LSDGJLDJL I feel this meme… so many questions… and I don’t have answers to all of them ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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to anyone who has recently started identifying as arospec or acespec: welcome to the community!!!!!

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hey if anyone still follows this blog:

1) sorry for not being active for a while

2) send a meme and I'll try to make a positivity post for ya!

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Please support aros in romantic relationships!!! As an aro who is very in love with my girlfriend I don't see a lot of support for aces/aros in relationships and it sucks. We're still ace/aro regardless of our relationship status 💜🖤💚

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Shout out ❤

Shout out to all those in an amazing Queer Platonic Relationship (QPR) you are all so valid and amazing.

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[ ID: Three separate images with different quotes. Each has “National Coming Out Day 2019″ at the bottom. First image: background of oak leaves and acorns on a rock. The quote reads, “Coming out is my decision and mine alone. No one can decide for me. I have agency over my own life and identity.” Second image: background of orange-gold front-like plants in a field. The quote reads, “It’s okay if I decide not to come out. It is not always safe or wise to come out. Choosing to stay in the closet is valid, and I get to decide what is best for me. Third image: background of yellow tulips. The quote reads, “It’s okay if I am out to some people but not out to others, or if I am out in some spaces or with some identities, but not with others. This is my life and my choice, and I am valid.” ]

So I’m a couple days late on these, but friends I have been battling severe anxiety due to some family stuff and p much just turned on the queue and have been taking each hour as it comes. Sorry these are late and I hope people still find them helpful. These are all things I needed someone to say to me at one point or another in my life.

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Let’s talk about the fabulous aromantics out there

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#BlackLivesMatter

Resources for Canada:

Mental health resources for the Black community in Toronto

A script for Torontonians to follow when contacting city officials

Podcast detailing racism and corruption in Ontario

How non-Black folk can support Black Canadians

Resources for America:

Thread of bail relief funds for different states/organizations 

Split a donation between 38 bail funds

How to donate when you have no money 

Podcast on racism in American

Podcast episode on racial inequality in medicine, and protest safety

How to stop a horse from being used as a police weapon 

Fund for Black Trans women in Atlanta

Twitter thread with compiled petitions, organizations, and other information

How to safely film police misconduct

Resources for biologists and naturalists:

Information on #BlackBirdersWeek 

Boost for Black paleoartists

Free Field Ornithologist memberships for Black students (must be sponsored by a mentor/advisor)

Opportunity to bird/botanize/geologize the Californian desert

Donation to supply Black birders with binoculars 

Article on structural racism in Natural History museums

Free to use antifascist paleoart/paleontology icons

Resources for the arts:

Google drive with Black revolutionary texts

Graphics you should be posting on Instagram instead of the ‘BlackOut’ square

Boost for Black Gamdev/Art streamers

Resources for Black animators

More resources for Black animators

#DrawingWhileBlack directory

Portfolio reviews for Black artists

Rad screenprinted shirts that benefit the Louisville Community Bail Fund

Feel free to add to this!

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QPR day!

@dragonheartetk and I have planned this day for QPRs to celebrate their relationships and non-romantic love for their QPPs. Personally I think this is really important, it can get a little tiring seeing so much romance everywhere, and having a day where we can celebrate our own kind of love is super cool!

We decided to make it every third Saturday of July to ensure it would always be on a weekend in the hopes people would have time off to spend with their loved one(s).

If you do anything for QPR day, I'd love to see it! Use #QPRday to share, and to spread the word to anyone who might want to know about this! Hope this gets out to lots of people, and have an excellent rest of your day :)

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I think I might be aromantic but I'm not sure... I'm really confused. I kinda want a relationship, but for the most part I don't and I just like being happy by myself. Do you have any advice?

Hi! I think I’m the only mod currently active nowadays, and while I’m ace, I don’t identify as aromantic at the moment. Any input from aros/aro-specs is welcome, though!

Can I say that I think it’s fantastic that you are happy without relationships? I feel like society wrongly puts a lot of pressure on people to be in romantic relationships to be fulfilled or “whole”. I support people in healthy romantic relationships, but I don’t think we should expect that of everyone, regardless of identity.

I’d definitely recommend checking out aro-specific/aro-centric blogs, if you haven’t already. Even if you find the aromantic label doesn’t fit you, it’ll help you become more knowledgeable on aromanticism in general. I know @befriend-an-aro-suggestions has some resources you can find on their desktop page and @astralaspecs is an active blog with aro, aroace, and ace mods for different reference points. However, there is still, of course, a lot of variation in the aro community and how different aromantics view themselves, their relationships, and their aromanticism. So if your experiences don’t sound the exact same as someone else’s, that’s okay!

I personally like romance and like the idea of me being in a relationship, but I’m not necessarily going to seek one out. However, I also know I feel romantic attraction to people. All of these things factor into my identity, and some or more things may factor into yours. Even if we have the same views, we may still reach different conclusions. I think that’s just life, we are separate people beyond our views towards romance/dating/etc and my choices for identity should not control yours.

I’d also say that you don’t have to be 100% sure to use a label. You can test it out for a bit, such as with a small group of friends or on a sideblog, and see if talking about your experiences through an aro lens makes you happy. Unfortunately, people may try to deny you labels based on what experiences/feelings they perceive you have or the way they personally feel about a label. It might be hard to feel comfortable with identifying as aromantic or arospec because of the way others treat you for it, not because the label doesn’t fit you. That’s hard to work through, and I can’t think of great advice because the fault is on them, not you. Hopefully the people you surround yourself with are full of support, both for you and your identities.

Ultimately, you’re the only one who knows how you feel, and you’re the person who is going to be affected by your label the most. If you think the aro label is adds something positive to your life, I’d say, use it! If you don’t think it does, then don’t. There are no exact criteria for labels, so it may be best to just try it out. If it doesn’t work, that’s not a failure or a waste of time, it was simply part of your growth and path to better understanding who you are.

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Queer people who aren't same-gender attracted are lovely!

This is a positivity post for everyone that fits this qualifier:

• M-spec men who aren’t attracted to men.

• M-spec women who aren’t attracted to women.

• Non-binary people who don’t have a same gender.

• Non-binary people who aren’t attracted to other non-binary people either in general or specifically their same non-binary gender.

• Intersex people don’t have to be same-gender attracted.

• Trans people don’t have to be same-gender attracted.

• Aro-spec people don’t have to be same-gender attracted.

• Ace-spec people don’t have to be same-gender attracted.

• Self-identifying queer people don’t have to justify/explain their identities.

• Questioning people don’t have to have everything figured out about themselves to be included.

Let me know if you can think of anyone else to add!

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Prioritizing your own mental well-being is more important than people in your life you who don’t fully accept you, or who tear you down. You’re not doing anything wrong by choosing to walk away from those people.

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[ID: four images of the tumblr like icons. The first two have red backgrounds and the aro and ace flags as the hearts. The last two have the aro and ace flags as the background and red hearts. End ID.]

more transparent aro & ace hearts!! not sure if this icon style is from an outdated version of tumblr but they're still cute

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My gay dress and ace hat. Character is named Yuki, he/him pronouns for him please

Edit: the Ace flag is upside down! I’m gonna fix it in game but want everyone to know.

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People who dislike romance don’t need helped or to learn any lessons. It’s fine to dislike romance and you can just keep doing that.

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Me whenever I see Ace/aro lesbians💞💘💝💓💗💕

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If you're arospec! And you don't have super close friendships! And you don't want a qpr! And you don't get squishes! That's ok! You aren't required to have a committed relationship with anyone at all! You don't have to replace romantic attraction with intense platonic attraction!