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sweet daily rituals for a calm life 🕊️

+ morning coffee or tea ritual: start your day with a carefully prepared cup of coffee or tea, and if you can, enjoy it slowly somewhere cosy, with a book or soft music in the background.

+ journalling ritual: whether it's morning pages or an end-of-day debrief, consider free-flow journalling to unclog your thoughts, face any problems, and deal with your emotions.

+ skincare ritual: develop a luxurious skincare routine, slowing down to pay real attention and care to your body. consider adding in lymphatic massage, too.

+ mindful cooking: allow cooking to be a meditative process, taking time to choose fresh, seasonal ingredients, explore new recipes, and enjoy the hands-on experience of being in the kitchen. set the table with care, even for simple meals, using beautiful dishes and linens.

+ midday break: decompress and take a quiet break in the middle of the day, perhaps with a short walk through a nearby park or a few minutes of journaling. pause and reflect on how you are feeling and how you want to feel for the rest of the day.

+ afternoon tea or snack: enjoy a piece of dark chocolate, some fresh fruit, delicious cheese, or a small pastry, served on a delicate tray or vintage plate, for a moment of indulgence.

+ evening wind-down: in the evening, unwind with a bath or hot shower, surrounded by soft candlelight and soothing music, followed by changing into comfortable, elegant loungewear or pyjamas. this could be a time for reading, listening to music, spending time with your partner, or enjoying a classic film.

+ home care: pay daily attention to your living space and cultivate a serene and inviting atmosphere by tidying up, clearing away clutter, arranging fresh flowers, and lighting a candle or two.

+ gratitude practice: take a few moments for reflection and gratitude, appreciating the small, beautiful moments that made your day special.

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Yes and no.

Whether or not you have a partner at age 50 is no metric for wokeness. Yet some people do seem to struggle with the idea of self-love.

The problem stems from two places.

The first is that we generally understand love as a subject-object relationship. I love you, or I love lamp.

The second, as consequence, is that we attempt to objectify ourselves and then try to love that object in the name of self-love.

This is actually a form of self-harm, because perceiving yourself as an object is inherently problematic.

Some struggle with self-love because they feel unworthy—they have difficulty feeling love toward their objectified self. Others struggle because they become too attracted to their objectified self, in other words vain. That is the form of “self-love” that would rather bail than resolve conflicts, that prefers self-indulgence instead of growth.

I think it might be best to conceptually divide self-love into self-care and Love.

For self-care: eat right, sleep right, care for the body, cultivate and use your energies enthusiastically, and learn how to listen to yourself and others.

For Love: a flower is simply fragrant without aiming the fragrance at anyone. Notice the place inside yourself that feels loved and loving. Nurture the feeling and radiate it regardless of who is around.

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James Baldwin, A Transition Interview, 1972

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Raj Memula

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Late night thoughts

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mine, abroad, with joy and love. unafraid and unashamed. enjoying a journey of adventure and growth.

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Meeting the Man: James Baldwin in Paris (1970)

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Carlos Fama

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Carlos Fama

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If you seek adventure, be prepared to abandon convenience.

Routines and habits are convenient.

A journey is disorienting, challenging, and often uncomfortable.

If it isn't those things then you may just be a tourist.

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October pathway

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Ray Bradbury

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