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Coming here to vent on a non-work related topic. The queen of guilt trips has struck again. I've been looking forward to my favorite restaurant back home for months. In the past, I've gone with a family member, and the original plan had been that she and I would go together. More recently, however, situations have arisen to the point that this family member really can't travel any real distance away from home without issues, and so I offered to bring the food to her. Unfortunately, that wasn't an acceptable alternative, and she still wanted to physically go to the restaurant. Everybody was saying, "Oh, her issues aren't really issues anymore, so she can go!" Well, we had basically a dry run on Christmas Eve, as she came to our house for dinner. A 10-minute drive from her place and away for 2-ish hours. Her issues arise, and they're not subtle issues, and she doesn't take precautions to lessen them. At that point, I decided the restaurant wasn't a good option, and a few days later, I let her know that I didn't think I was going to have time for the restaurant. That led to a "talking to" from another family member, telling me that she was really looking forward to the restaurant and her issues that arise before were "different." Guilted, I scheduled for today. This morning, this family member calls and says her issues arose again last night (remember other family members kept saying, "they don't happen that often!"), and now she can't go.

To be honest, I don't want to go anymore. This is my favorite fucking restaurant, and all of this is ruining it for me.

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This is the general mentality of the people who work here:

"I'm going to be gone all of next week. I know there are two timecard deadlines on Monday and Friday that require that I complete my/my employee's timecard(s) by those days because I've already gotten one reminder, but I don't think it's important enough to take care of before I leave. I can deal with it when I get back, even though I will be out of compliance at that point, and I'll be holding other people back because I didn't do my part."

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I have a coworker who has absolutely no care for the affect her decisions have on other people. She wants to change everything to fit her vision without consulting with anyone else in the team or considering how much extra work her ideas are going to create for someone else. This is literally the second time in two weeks that her decisions have made me cry thinking about all the extra work I have to do for them.

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The more I have to tell people how to do their jobs correctly, the less motivated I am to do my own job. None of the things I explain on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis are difficult. They're very simple concepts to comprehend. Unfortunately, I work with people who don't care about those requirements for their job, and they just don't even try.

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I'M SO OVER THESE PEOPLE.

We have an employee who started 6 or 7 months ago. In orientation, she was told along with everyone else that she needed to submit leave requests for all holidays. She along with everyone else gets two emails a month telling her she needs to submit leave requests for all holidays. She has never submitted a leave request for a holiday. I emailed her about November holidays because none of them were on her timecard, and her response was, "Are we supposed to request holidays off?"

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.

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I'm tired of sugarcoating things at work. I write e-mails that are to the point (and yet ridiculously detailed because if you don't 100% spell things out for these people, they don't understand). I don't do the whole "as you probably know" and "we ask that you" thing. If it's supposed to be done and you didn't do it, I'm going to tell you it's overdue and needs to be done. Simple as that.

Unfortunately, the team that I work for has a mentality of "we need to pad the incredibly fragile egos of these people" that they hide under what they call "customer service."

I've dealt with these people long enough to know that sugarcoating does nothing. I have to make a presentation today where I need to tell a specific group of people that they need to pick up a task that they as a collective whole just stopped doing a couple of years ago. I wrote myself a little script to practice yesterday and sent it to the person who heads up that part of things (who IMO should be the one to make this announcement, not me as the admin assistant), and she told me it was too hard and I need to soften it up. I know that if I soften it up with phrases like "we're asking you to," the majority of those people will hear "this is optional so you don't have to do it," which it 100% is not. But that's what I've been told to do, so that's what I'll do, and I guarantee in three months when these people are supposed to be tracking these items, at least half of them won't do it.

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This coworker is driving me fucking nuts. She's making unnecessary edits to things that are creating issues, and even though I literally have an audit that shows me she's the one making these edits, she's claiming she's not doing anything. Then I'm the one who has to deal with angry employees who claim they already did something that the edit fucked up, and I have to try to clean up the messes.

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I talked with a coworker last week about changing a monthly deadline we set for employees, and we agreed to wait to change the deadline until the first of the year. Yesterday, I was asked to sit in on a presentation prep meeting, and this same coworker mentioned the new deadline in her part of the presentation. Not as a "hey, heads up, we're making a change" thing, but as a done deal. Today, I brought it up in a section meeting to get clarification on the plan, and she didn't understand why I wanted clarification. Um... Maybe because we decided to wait to make the change at the end of the year, and you're mentioning the change as effective immediately in a meeting this Thursday?

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It's 4:30 on a Friday afternoon. I just received a request from someone for salary information for 15-20 years ago that must be certified and submitted by fucking Wednesday.

WHY THE HELL IS THIS JUST COMING TO US NOW?!

Seriously. I'm working from home today and Monday so don't have access to the person's physical personnel file, and I need an identifier to even be able to try to access the information in the database. But here's the thing - even if I had the identifier, I don't have access to the database. I haven't had it since I started nearly six months ago. I'm "on a waitlist." And everybody who I know has access is out because it's fucking 4:30 on Friday.

I'm freaking out about this. I don't know what to do about it.

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Nothing quite gives me anxiety like being told someone has reported me to my own director because they feel like I'm emailing them too much to follow up on shit they're not doing and they're offended that we're "auditing" (my mistake for calling my tasks by what they are) them to make sure they get shit done.

Seriously. So many fragile egos around here.

I have the support of my director and supervisor on this, thankfully. It's a bit weird to me because I'm not used to it, but I'm grateful.

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I haven't even worked at this place a month yet, and I've had to update my computer during work hours at least once a week since I started. I'm talking like a full on update because the computer stops working properly. I can't save documents because it drops the connection to the drive. I'm getting really sick of losing time in my day to this.

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I haven't even been trained on the intern process yet, and the person who's supposed to train me is already sending me instructions on it. (This is unsurprisingly the same person I've been struggling with lately.) Like bitch, wait until I have some training before confusing me with information I don't understand yet.

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I can feel a migraine coming on. The lights are getting steadily brighter and more uncomfortable. There's pain in my head, but it's inconsistent.

I wish I had a dark place to escape to.

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This coworker who's supposed to be training me on timecards is a horrible trainer. I reach out to ask questions and clarify what my next steps are, and she just fucking fixes it without telling me what needs to be done. I FUCKING NEED TO KNOW THESE THINGS.

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My mom and I used to do 2-4 hour phone calls every couple of months, but we haven't had one in a long time. Phone calls more recently have been car-focused and fairly short. The last time I called, I was disappointed because I wanted to keep talking, but they (both my parents) cut the call short. Tonight, I called to ask my dad a question and ran some errands, and as I was running errands, I had a missed call from my parents. I called back, and so commenced a three-hour phone call with my mom. We were each doing our own thing--I was prepping to change my brakes tomorrow and she was sorting through months of paperwork--but it was nice to do it in company, if you will. I had a very pleasant bubble of happiness form during the call. Things felt normal again.

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It's interesting how every time I have a question for one of my coworkers, her Teams availability changes as soon as I send the question to her, and it takes her forever to get back to me. I'm not expecting her to be available all the time, but she does need to be available some of the time for the new hire who's taking over like half of her old workload.

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Timecards were due on Monday, and every day I get more and more leave requests that should have been submitted before the end of last month. We are literally two weeks past the end of the time period, and people still don't have their shit together. This needs to change.