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How big is too big for you ?

As long as you're happy. . .no such thing as "too big!" 😉🐷

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Reblog if you’re 30 or older

This is an experiment to see if there really are as few of us as people think.You can also use this to freak out your followers who think you’re 25 or something. Yay!

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thinking about Her

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To be fat is to know heaven, I tell people. To eat uncontrollably is bliss.

I am always pursuing more, pursuing bigger. There will never be enough food. I will never stop growing. Gaining is the very essence of who I am. To grow rounder, softer, larger.

To love my fat body is to love my drooping arms, my hanging belly, my pendulous tits, and spread thighs. To marvel at each roll, each bit of blubber. To appreciate my triple chin and swollen ankles, my chubby hands and back rolls.

To love food is to know the joy of biting down on a cookie, into a cake. To shovel spoon after spoon of ice cream and still need *more.* To need to food — constant food — so eagerly that you frantically stuff and desperately shove anything fattening in sight, trying always to get more, more, more in. To be soaking wet every time you eat because food is so inherently erotic, so purely sexual for you at this point.

I will never stop getting fatter. Food is who I am. Fat is who I am. Gaining is who I am. Feedee is my identify.

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Suzy Farmer, Cheyenne, Wyoming (1976) by photographer Randal Levenson

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"A world without trans people has never existed and never will"

Poster spotted in Olympia, WA

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How do you deal with being into something that could potentially cause an early death? Aka, hi, I'm into feeder crap and stuffing and whatnot and I've heard mostly bad things about this fetish(/kinks??? Idk unclear to me) since it can often be taken to extremes which has caused people to die at a very early age (20-30ish) and I feel really guilty about being into this sort of thing because of that. Do you know about any way to practice this sort of thing safely? Or if it should even be practiced at all? Is this the sort of thing I should just keep in my head? Sorry in advance

Hello! This is quite an interesting question. No apologies needed though, I'm definitely interested in responding.

Well, let me start with the most important thing: there is extreme fatphobic rhetoric that people use to fearmonger about kinks like that. I'd be very wary of that and keep in mind it's often based on the idea that being fat is inherently unhealthy and people being unhealthy is inherently "bad".

I'd also like to point out that any kink can be taken to extremes. Choking, bondage, overstimulation, etc, etc, they can all be taken to extremes that can be damaging. Its not even unique to kink in particular: exercising, religion, sports, plenty of hobbies and things like that can also be taken to damaging extremes.

Usually when people talk of people dying young from feeder kinks, they are speaking of fat people explicitly and also not necessarily being accurate.

Let me be clear, people do not die young from feeder kinks often at all. It's very rare. And deaths that are supposedly "caused" by feeder kinks are often actually deaths caused by fatphobic healthcare and beliefs that are baked into society.

But even if these people died explicitly from kink they engaged in, that's their right, Anon. People are allowed to choose what kinks they engage in [consensually] and they're allowed to choose that with that risk in mind.

You being into those kinks is fine. Presumably, you're not pressuring anyone into them, you just enjoy it. And if you want to practice that with someone else and they also want to do that, they feel free, that's beautiful.

If you feel bad about being into it, I'd suggest talking to other people who are into it or even a therapist! Learning more about feedism could be very helpful but so could just talking to a therapist or a friend about how you feel and why.

As for practicing it safely, I have to admit that I'm not super knowledgable about that, so I don't have any specific advice.

But I'd look into books and classes if you're interested! It is a kink you can practice but I'd recommend learning some about it first, maybe seeing if you have any local kink groups that teach about it!

Hope this helps, Anon! Let me know if you have any other questions. <3

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"Wanting to be fat (much like wanting to be thin or in-betweeny or athletically built) isn't something I, or anyone else, should have to defend. But it is something I want to talk about more. In radical fat acceptance conversations, it's pretty much acceptable to say that you actually enjoy being fat; that you see beauty in it, that you see beauty in the fatness of others, and that you feel empowered by the way you look. In mainstream conversations and day-to-day interactions, that isn't remotely the case. If you are fat, and you are not publicly trying to "fix" yourself, you need a reason and an excuse. You need proof that you're healthy regardless. You need proof that your weight "cannot be helped." Saying you're fat because it's something you want remains more or less off limits, and certainly not something met with respect for one's choices.

I'm over it. As is the case for most people, I am fat for a few reasons. But the main one is simple: That's how I like it. Some people aren't fat because of illness or the financial burdens of "eating clean" or because their parents are fat, too (not that there's anything wrong with that). Some people just want to be fat.

If you're also one of those people, please know that it's OK. Know that you aren't shoving your beliefs and preferences down anyone else's psyche. You aren't claiming that everyone should be attracted to you. You get to decide to what degree health matters to you, much like everyone else. You get to decide how you go about maintaining your weight. You get to decide what to dress in, or what kinds of people you want in your life — romantically or otherwise. You get to be autonomous over your body. You get to rock your own unapologetic fatness."

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Well fucks? Get to it!

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gaining as a form of self actualization

gaining as an expression of bodily autonomy

gaining as an act of kindness towards oneself

gaining as an acknowledgment that you deserve to eat till you’re full

gaining as a means of rebellion against a society that rewards self-deprivation

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They refused to give my dad top surgery bc of his weight, citing risks regarding anasthesia and possible hemorrage. They want him to do a bypass surgery first...... which has exactly the same risks. Because he is fat he has to be punished by mutilation to be allowed to have his top surgery. They are ready to take the risks in order to make him skinny, but refuse the same risks that would make him happy.

If people can't understand how oppressive this is and how it's literally intersectional oppression in my dad's case, idk what to say.

Yeah, it's absolute hypocrisy to be willing to mutilate the healthy organs of fat people for the sake of potential thinness and lifelong chronic health conditions but then put up roadblocks for any surgeries that actually help fat people. I still remember when the NHS decided to save money by comparing fat people to people who smoke and denying fat people surgery until we magically lose weight. It's a horrific world we live in, and not even people who claim to be progressive want to open their eyes to what fat people endure.

-Mod Worthy

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I feel like a lot of ppl think everyone on OF makes like. thousands of dollars a month but unless ur like top 4% on there... u rly aren't. Most my OF friends make like $200 every month and on the occasional month where they do really well it might be twice that. And these are models who have been working at it for years posting frequent content. So be kind to ur local OF content creator and pls don't lowball them bc u assume they have a huge expendable income lol

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In 2022 we’re not letting puritanical losers who don’t know how to critically engage with kink and fetish in a nuanced way make us feel any type of negative way about being grown adults having consensual fun lmao

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you don't have to apologize for taking up space if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for your appearance if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for your fashion choices if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for eating if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for sitting instead of standing if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for being disabled if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for needing mobility aids if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for needing support if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for being trans if you're fat. you don't have to apologize for being queer if you're fat.

you don't have to apologize for being fat.

fat people are guilted out of just about every experience in life. we're told we're too unsightly to dress and look how we want. queer fat people are made to feel like they can never be their given identity because the scant representation of queer folk that we have always shows a skinny or buff person, never any other kind of body in between. fat people are shamed out of becoming singers because of our appearance. fat people are shamed out of becoming actors because of our appeareance. fat people are shamed out of being chefs because we're fat. fat people are shamed out of sports and athletic activities because we're fat. it's often times difficult to impossible to find a fat role model because we are shamed out of thriving and reaching toward our goals.

you don't have to apologize. you don't have to feel like you "can't" do something because you're fat. if you are disabled, please consider and know your limitations, but being fat does not bar you from hobbies or careers that you want to participate in. fat people can dance, sing, do yoga, body build, cook, run, play sports, act, perform on stage, create art, become models and yes, even find sexual liberation in their fatness. fat people are allowed to be fat without apologizing for it. fat people are allowed to be fat.

we're taking up space and we're not apologizing for it anymore. we are not here solely to appeal to the sexual and aesthetic tastes of thin and "fit" people. we are here to live our lives.

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“The Feedee’s Song” is NOW on Youtube!!

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list of things feedees should do:

1. whatever they want

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