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[ravfattylover]

If you’re too embarrassed to have a fat partner but have no issues feeding or fucking someone who’s fat, kindly fuck off.

BuT cHeDdAr, I hAvE a ReAlLy gOoD rEaSoN!!!

You haven’t dealt with your own internalized fatphobia?

You’re worried people will judge you?

You couldn’t possibly with XYZ career?

You somehow feel superior?

Stop. Enough. I’m a coach for Christ’s sake. Did my gym friends understand? No. Did it make it harder for me? Absolutely. It was NOT worth it for shit stain but there are good feedees and fatties that deserve it.

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It's crazy to me that when fat people exist they get told to exercise

They exercise, gain muscle, but still look "fat".

They get told being fit/being able to lift doesn't mean you're healthy.

I'm sorry. Healthy?

What are we talking about then? Because I've been plenty skinny most of my life, most of my gamer friends are twigs.

And we chug monster drinks like there's no tomorrow, and shove them down with chips.

Why is it that it's always people who don't fit into what we see as skinny that need to explain their dietary habits?

Why is it that we don't bat eye at a skinny person who says they don't do any exercise, who can't hike, who can't do a simple run to the grocery store, who eats tons of unhealthy food.

But the moment it's person that doesn't fit in the perspective of people on what's healthy suddenly it's an issue?

Stop pretending your opinions on people with bigger bodies has anything to do with fitness, or health. It's all about aesthetics. Just shut up. Go drink your monster energy drink and scream at people in CoD, oh mighty judge of fitness

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i love fat.

i love fat that conforms to the conditions you subject it to, that hangs low when you stand, and spreads indecently around you when seated.

i love how even the most minor movement makes your body sway. how hard it is to quell that momentum once you've gotten it going, and how easy it is to let yourself be led by it.

i love fat in places it "shouldn't" be. an extra roll under your already-suffocating double-chin, excess pockmarking every inch of your thighs, fat that hangs heavy from the hips and sags low.

i love fat that's loud. that slaps your thighs if you try to run. fat that demands to be seen. i love fat when it's worn by an even louder personality. i love unapologetic fat.

anyway, how's your Wednesday?

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Feedism is one of the most subversive kinks out there.

it goes against established beauty standards. It celebrates fatness not just in the more socially acceptable "curvy" version, but in all its glory, with large hanging bellies, stretch marks, double chins etc.

it's anti-capitalist. It's about transforming your body in a way that might render it "useless" to the exploitative capitalist system. It's about putting comfort before efficiency, "laziness" before productivity.

it challenges our deepest unconscious beliefs about health and moral goodness. Many people don't realize that they think of "healthy" as "morally good". It's the root of fathpobia: believing that fat people are inherently unhealthy, and believing that being unhealthy is automatically a moral failing. As if eating a salad was virtuous. Feedism sticks a middle finger to that.

it exposes the whole diet industry as a massive cash grab it is.

feedism challenges our perception of autonomy and what is a "valid" choice to make. Many people like to say that they are radically pro-choice and that as long as these choices don't harm others, people are entitled to do whatever they want with their bodies. But in reality, many people object when they see others make radical changes to their bodies. We see it with transphobes, and we see it with people who treat feedists badly. Even within feedism, there is some opposition towards more extreme versions of this kink - but an informed choice to transform your body in a way you see fit is a valid human choice. Nobody should choose for you what you can do with your body.

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There 👏 is 👏 nothing👏 shameful👏 about 👏being/getting👏 fat 👏

now go eat.

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i'm biased but if you're somebody who loves and is attracted to fat people & you have nice sentiments towards double chins and fat arms and rolls and other fat features that don't get much airplay you should be vocal and insistent about them bc it's something many of us will never ever hear addressed positively & it feels really nice to know that these features can be not just tolerated/overlooked but actually actively adored

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How big is too big for you ?

As long as you're happy. . .no such thing as "too big!" 😉🐷

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Reblog if you’re 30 or older

This is an experiment to see if there really are as few of us as people think.You can also use this to freak out your followers who think you’re 25 or something. Yay!

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thinking about Her

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To be fat is to know heaven, I tell people. To eat uncontrollably is bliss.

I am always pursuing more, pursuing bigger. There will never be enough food. I will never stop growing. Gaining is the very essence of who I am. To grow rounder, softer, larger.

To love my fat body is to love my drooping arms, my hanging belly, my pendulous tits, and spread thighs. To marvel at each roll, each bit of blubber. To appreciate my triple chin and swollen ankles, my chubby hands and back rolls.

To love food is to know the joy of biting down on a cookie, into a cake. To shovel spoon after spoon of ice cream and still need *more.* To need to food — constant food — so eagerly that you frantically stuff and desperately shove anything fattening in sight, trying always to get more, more, more in. To be soaking wet every time you eat because food is so inherently erotic, so purely sexual for you at this point.

I will never stop getting fatter. Food is who I am. Fat is who I am. Gaining is who I am. Feedee is my identify.

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Suzy Farmer, Cheyenne, Wyoming (1976) by photographer Randal Levenson

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"A world without trans people has never existed and never will"

Poster spotted in Olympia, WA

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How do you deal with being into something that could potentially cause an early death? Aka, hi, I'm into feeder crap and stuffing and whatnot and I've heard mostly bad things about this fetish(/kinks??? Idk unclear to me) since it can often be taken to extremes which has caused people to die at a very early age (20-30ish) and I feel really guilty about being into this sort of thing because of that. Do you know about any way to practice this sort of thing safely? Or if it should even be practiced at all? Is this the sort of thing I should just keep in my head? Sorry in advance

Hello! This is quite an interesting question. No apologies needed though, I'm definitely interested in responding.

Well, let me start with the most important thing: there is extreme fatphobic rhetoric that people use to fearmonger about kinks like that. I'd be very wary of that and keep in mind it's often based on the idea that being fat is inherently unhealthy and people being unhealthy is inherently "bad".

I'd also like to point out that any kink can be taken to extremes. Choking, bondage, overstimulation, etc, etc, they can all be taken to extremes that can be damaging. Its not even unique to kink in particular: exercising, religion, sports, plenty of hobbies and things like that can also be taken to damaging extremes.

Usually when people talk of people dying young from feeder kinks, they are speaking of fat people explicitly and also not necessarily being accurate.

Let me be clear, people do not die young from feeder kinks often at all. It's very rare. And deaths that are supposedly "caused" by feeder kinks are often actually deaths caused by fatphobic healthcare and beliefs that are baked into society.

But even if these people died explicitly from kink they engaged in, that's their right, Anon. People are allowed to choose what kinks they engage in [consensually] and they're allowed to choose that with that risk in mind.

You being into those kinks is fine. Presumably, you're not pressuring anyone into them, you just enjoy it. And if you want to practice that with someone else and they also want to do that, they feel free, that's beautiful.

If you feel bad about being into it, I'd suggest talking to other people who are into it or even a therapist! Learning more about feedism could be very helpful but so could just talking to a therapist or a friend about how you feel and why.

As for practicing it safely, I have to admit that I'm not super knowledgable about that, so I don't have any specific advice.

But I'd look into books and classes if you're interested! It is a kink you can practice but I'd recommend learning some about it first, maybe seeing if you have any local kink groups that teach about it!

Hope this helps, Anon! Let me know if you have any other questions. <3

[ravfattylover]

"Wanting to be fat (much like wanting to be thin or in-betweeny or athletically built) isn't something I, or anyone else, should have to defend. But it is something I want to talk about more. In radical fat acceptance conversations, it's pretty much acceptable to say that you actually enjoy being fat; that you see beauty in it, that you see beauty in the fatness of others, and that you feel empowered by the way you look. In mainstream conversations and day-to-day interactions, that isn't remotely the case. If you are fat, and you are not publicly trying to "fix" yourself, you need a reason and an excuse. You need proof that you're healthy regardless. You need proof that your weight "cannot be helped." Saying you're fat because it's something you want remains more or less off limits, and certainly not something met with respect for one's choices.

I'm over it. As is the case for most people, I am fat for a few reasons. But the main one is simple: That's how I like it. Some people aren't fat because of illness or the financial burdens of "eating clean" or because their parents are fat, too (not that there's anything wrong with that). Some people just want to be fat.

If you're also one of those people, please know that it's OK. Know that you aren't shoving your beliefs and preferences down anyone else's psyche. You aren't claiming that everyone should be attracted to you. You get to decide to what degree health matters to you, much like everyone else. You get to decide how you go about maintaining your weight. You get to decide what to dress in, or what kinds of people you want in your life — romantically or otherwise. You get to be autonomous over your body. You get to rock your own unapologetic fatness."

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