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If anyone’s worried about the incel movement in the West, by the way - here is what’s starting to happen in India and China, where men vastly outnumber women and millions of men are about to discover they’ll never get married. 

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I honestly think that men can't handle the harsh truths of life, they have been protected and pampered for so much time that the mere discovery that women are people too gives them a mental breakdown.

Blackpill for men: women like attractive men, women have eyes, women are human beings that can choose.

Blackpill for women: most men would rape women if they could get away with it.

Guess which blackpill is a matter of discussion and pity on the mainstream

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Once you start noticing the passive voice being used for men's actions, you can't unsee it. In history class it was always "women weren't seen as equal human beings" or "women weren't able to own property or have jobs or get education" rather than men legally considered women their property and banned them from work, school, and property rights.

In the news it's always "girl raped in park" or "woman killed in home" which would make some sense if the perpetrator was unknown, but they often have already caught the culprit by the time the article comes out and it's always a man.

The amount of times I've seen a headline about a man murdering his entire family before killing himself being titled "man commits suicide after family is killed" with a nice little family photo of them is absolutely absurd.

Hell, just last night I saw an article titled, "3 kids killed after mom let ex-partner take them to get food." Her male ex took the kids to get food and murdered them before killing himself. Not only is the headline passive, but it also phrases it in a way that makes the mother somehow look guilty like she knew what he had planned or knew he was insane.

To top it off, people get really uncomfortable if you stop using the passive voice for this stuff. They start squirming if you straight up say "men wrote laws banning women from voting" even when that is literally what happened. BOTH men and women act this way. It's like we're all just supposed to pretend that rape, enslavement, murder, and other human rights violations against women just fell from the sky.

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ok well this blew my mind

This is also true with filmmakers. Western filmmakers pan their cameras mostly left to right and Iranian filmmakers do right to left.

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Before January 2025:

If you are a USAmerican in a relationship that might be affected by legislation that dissolves same-sex marriages, who may no longer be recognized as next-of-kin, especially if you have children, get your rights in writing!

Your marriage certificate may not be enough to prove you have rights to make medical decisions for non-biological children or for a same-sex spouse or partner.

Go to a lawyer, get it spelled out as clearly as possible that you have a voice in emergency medical and legal situations.

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The screenshots of this piece were originally posted here on twitter.

And this is what it comes down to, isn’t it? Girls know exactly what Trump’s victory means. Boys, even ones not outwardly sexist, don’t get it and don’t care about the women and girls crying around them. Their lives go on. They’re unfazed by the anguish of their peers, brought on by members of their class.

I greatly relate to this girl’s feeling of belonging to a sisterhood now more than ever. I’ve never felt more like a woman than post-2016, Dobbs, and 2024. We can never forget how men really feel about us and the loss of our rights.

Boys played Minecraft while girls cried. It reminds me of Trump’s first election, when I was crying and my MAGA father sat on the couch across the room and used voice-to-text on his phone to casually message his friends, speaking over my sobbing.

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I always think of this iranian protest art, the imagery of the misogynist in the womb of a woman, the truth that everyone knows he spent his creation in there… very powerful

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no words left to speak, this post says it all.

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has anyone noticed how women aren’t supposed to have fun. like there’s a constant debate online about whether women are punished or rewarded for dressing/acting feminine and I’d argue that we’re rewarded for femininity just so long as we never ever enjoy it. we’re not supposed to enjoy being tomboys either though. there are no stereotypically female hobbies that are purely for fun the way men have sports and video games. the ideal feminine role according to society is a woman who devotes her entire life to other people and does nothing for herself and any woman who prioritizes herself in any way let alone her own enjoyment of life is guilt tripped to hell and back. men are allowed to be silly little guys being dudes and do dumb shit for fun and even the feminist response to that seems to tend to be all about how dumb men are for acting like that and how women would never bc we’re smarter (I am not smarter I had to be talked out of stealing a boat on Sunday). women aren’t supposed to ever take risks. every silly little fun thing that women like (Pinterest Taylor Swift Christian girl Autumn pumpkin spice lattes etc) is RUTHLESSLY mocked. I think one of the most feminist things a woman can do is have a lot of fun and laugh a lot and enjoy life

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Activism is not cold-calling.

Activism is not cold-calling, and this is critically important to understand.

I'm seeing a lot of posts on here about 'building bridges' and 'finding community,' and then (extremely valid) response posts saying "BUT HOW??" And I'm going to explain something that can be very counter-intuitive: there is strategy involved in community.

As a longtime volunteer labour organizer, I’ve taken and taught many trainings on the strategy of talking. Something that surprises a lot of people is the very first thing you do in a union campaign. You sit down with your organizing committee, take out pen and paper, and literally map it out. You draw a physical map of the workplace: where are the entrances, exits, break rooms, supervisor offices. Essentially, ‘where is it safe to have a union conversation.’ Then you draw another physical chart of your coworkers. You sort out who is union-friendly, openly hostile to unions, or somewhere in the middle, and then you plan out very deliberately and carefully who talks to whom and in what order.

Consider: If Vocally Leftist Jane walks up to Conservative David and says "hey what do you think about unions," David is going to shut down immediately. He's not inclined to listen to Jane. But if Jane talks to Moderate Jason and brings him into the fold, then Jason is a far more effective strategic choice to talk to David, and David may actually hear him out without an instant reaction.

IMPORTANT CAVEAT: If Conservative David turns out to be Alt-Right David, and could be dangerous to follow organizers, we write him off. We are not trying to reach Alt-Right David. We are trying to reach Conservative David, who may actually be persuaded to find solidarity with other employees as fellow workers. Jason is a safe scout to find out which one he is. It does no one any good if Leftist Jane (or even Moderate Jane who is a visible minority) talks to Alt-Right David and puts herself on his radar. Not only has she done nothing to convince Alt-Right David to join a union - she's probably actively turned him against the idea - but now she's also in danger and the entire campaign is at risk. NOBODY WANTS THIS. Jane was NOT a hero for doing this. The organizing committee was foolish and enacted a terrible strategy to everyone's detriment.

Where you can make a difference is with people who will listen to you. You having a conversation with your well-meaning but clueless Centrist Democrat Auntie, and maybe gently helping her understand some things the media has been glossing over, is way more strategically useful than you marching up to MAGA Neighbour You've Met Once and trying to "build community" or "understand" them. They don't care. They're impervious, dangerous, and cruel. But maybe your beloved auntie will think about what you said, and then talk to her friend Anna who IDs as "fiscally conservative" but didn't vote because she can't bring herself to get on board with Trump. Then perhaps Anna talks to her brother Nic who has MAGA leanings but isn't all the way there yet. Proto-MAGA Nic would not have listened to you, nor would he have listened to Centrist Democrat Auntie, but he might absorb some of what his sister is saying.

This is not a cop-out or an echo chamber. This is you spending your time and energy strategically and safely. You are not a useful activist to anyone if you’re dead. Anyone who is telling you to hurl yourself directly at MAGA assholes like cannon fodder has no understanding of the strategy behind community building, and you should feel comfortable writing them off.

Last point: If you are tired, emotionally devastated, and/or in danger: take a break. This post is for people who would feel better jumping into action, not for people who are too overwhelmed to even think about it right now. You are worth so much even if you’re not actively Doing Activism, and your rest is worth more than “a break period so you can recharge and Do More Activism.” We all deserve the individual dignity of being worthy of comfort, rest & safety just on the basis of being human, outside of whatever we're doing for others' benefit. To deny ourselves that dignity is to devalue ourselves, and that’s the absolute last thing any of us should be doing right now.

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Landyke's guide to learning auto mechanics as a womon on your own:

1. Buy a total beater (of a common make and model so you can find parts) that you can test drive that has a decent engine/ transmission. Ideally it is a truck/ SUV type. Sedan is not ideal but ok. Minivans are bad. Get triple AAA and try to only drive it locally for a while. Get an older car without all that plastic junk covering everything important up.

2. Buy a socket set, oil drain pan, and Chilton manual for your new chariot. Rhino ramps if you got a sedan or vehicle you can't get yourself underneath easily. With ramps you won't have to jack it up every time you want to change oil or look at something.

3. Change the oil, air filter, transmission fluid and coolant. There are many YouTube videos you can look up. Might want to flush brake fluid too, if you're in a humid climate and they're spongey.

4. Look up the maintenance schedule for your vehicle, do at least the engine/transmission maintenance.

5. Something will break! Read your Bible (Chilton). Replace it. Look up how mechanics diagnose problems you have. Decide if you want to buy the tools for the job, or if you'd rather loan them from the auto parts store. You probably don't need to own a fuel pressure test gauge kit for example.

6. When you change your brakes, don't take your noble steed onto the road until you're SURE you did it right (particularly on drum brakes.... trust me...)

7. Keep doing this until your vehicle completely shits the bed.

8. Get a new vehicle that is hopefully less of a beater and repeat.

Remember that cars are designed to be worked on by lazy, ignorant men with, on average, a HS diploma and *maybe* some formal training. Most things are not super complicated. Most of the time you'll spend fixing things will be prying 20+ year old parts off.. seriously it's like they get superglued.

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Maybe straight men do have a point that they're being left behind. I mean, I just did the math, and out of 250 years, a straight man has only been the president for 250 of them. That equals about 100%, which is a staggeringly low number. Worse still, if you add in Obama, that number drops to 97% straight white male presidents, which is just horrifically low. No wonder white straight men feel so threatened and so unlistened-to. This is far worse than women, who have been the president for 0/250 years, or about 0% of the time. No wonder they feel so aggrieved; can you imagine the pain and loneliness they must feel knowing the president represented their graphic a measly 97% of the time? The left needs to fix this if they ever want to win the male vote again

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The funniest thing about all these TERF wars is that one day a white man with a British accent is just going to repeat verbatim what radical feminists have been saying about trans advoacy for the past 10 years and it's going to click for tens of millions of left-wing people. It will happen suddenly and very quickly. All of sudden people will start repeating what "TERFS" have been saying but pretending it's a new revelation.

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