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The city needs more benches and less tiktok cafés

My sister once told me something which have sticked to me. We were walking together in the neighborhood on our way to the grocery store. Just right outside the entrance, there is a bench that round up like a C. I had never seen that bench empty, day or night. All walks of people sat on that bench; from the busy ones who put their freshly purchased groceries bag on the bench for a minute to…

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I am a villain in a lot of people's stories and you probably too

Watching old Disney classics while growing up, everyone wanted to be the princess or in my case – I wanted to be Mulan. Honorable and protective for people and things that are important to me and being unapologetic about it. Now, I still am holding on to these values, to hone the art of living. Stripped from the strokes of animation – reality doesn’t end the day with a happily ever after. It…

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To considerate yourself every step on your way

There are only certain feelings you are able to understand after some time have passed. We all have read about love, all different kinds of love; romantic, platonic, religious, unconditional and the list goes on and on. They all have someting in common, Which is to love, is to considerate. Consideration is not a word you will use often or even say a lot, because it has this subtle nuanced…

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How writing poetry is one of the best things to express myself

I started writing poetry four years ago. Before, I only have written blogposts and longer essays, so to switch to poetry has been quite interesting for my writing journey so far. Overall, writing is all about self-expression, putting one’s thoughts on paper, extracting the essence from within into the external world. It’s a solidair practice that asks for an ability to sit still with yourself and…

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Fruits reaped from the soil

Everything we encounter in life: our experiences, the people we meet along the way, are like fruits reaped from the soil. Sometimes it feels like our life is stagnating, as if we are looking at the same view every single day. However, even during these moments, we are gathering pieces of crops from past seasons. All of us experience joyful blessings, mundane moments, and sadly, also chaos and…

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The first step in healing is to admit you're not doing okay

The first step in healing is to admit you’re not doing okay

October is mental health month but it’s an important topic personally for me as I too struggle with my own mental health. 

With the ongoing covid pandemic, I guess it gives us an extra kick in the gut and puts a mirror before ourselves on how everything just feels like shit all the time. As much as we love to hide it and put up our well presented face to the world – it doesn’t really help to…

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Read this if you just feel like everything is insanely pointless

So many things we do in life could be considered to be pointless. Many of us have learned to set goals for ourselves to plan for the future. As time only is limited, we tend to do things that are higher on the priority list, than to just do ‘’pointless’’ activities.

And so, everything that has no direct connection to our goals, become pointless.

When we relate everything with our goals,…

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Forgive, but never forget

Forgive, but never forget

Emotionally healing is a complex and confusing journey. It does not have a linear process and it’s definitely not a one-fits-all approach. There are times when you think you made it to the other side only to get dragged right back into the tangled web of your own consciousness. A lot of this back and forth behaviour says a lot of where one stands in this emotional healing process. ‘’Letting go’’…

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Life is not only deadlines and to-do-lists

Life is not only deadlines and to-do-lists

Somehow we have this idea that we got all the time left on this planet. You can see it in the way how some people live their lives, moving along the flow and never taking on control over their own time. You wouldn’t think living would be such a difficult thing to do when you were once a carefree kid, roaming down the streets and exploring the corners of your neighborhood. We were all once pure,…

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It will pass when it passes

It will pass when it passes

Breath, this will pass

This is for those who have its portion with bad luck and hopeless days. For those who have troubles getting out of bed each day and those who don’t seem to see the use in life anymore; this is for you.

Life seems even harder to live by when it hasn’t been your day, month or even year. It’s hard to stay hopeful when nothing really works out how you have planned out to be. We…

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Avoiding negativity won't make you into a positive person

Avoiding negativity won’t make you into a positive person

I’m sure all of us strive to be a positive person eventually. With 2019 almost coming to an end, new resolutions will be made again, each goal to help us get closer to become our own best version of ourselves. That includes becoming more positive in our skin as well, that goes of course without saying. When positivity becomes a focus, it is logical to not attract negativity to practise positivity…

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A story about unfillable

A story about unfillable

Some things never really change.

We may have surpassed evolution quite some time ago, but some traits never really go away. Back in time, humans hunt and collect food to survive. Sure, we don’t hunt for our food anymore, but we hunt in other ways. The bottom line is we hunt for jobs to earn money to collect food. Way back, all time was probably been used up to hunt and collect in order to survive…

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When you acknowledge that someone cares about you, it will help you care more about yourself too.

When you acknowledge that someone cares about you, it will help you care more about yourself too.

Self-care comes in a lot of different forms. First thing what comes in mind is usually ways to relax our mind and body, think of meditation, taking a hot bath or just sitting in a park reading your favorite book. These are easy to execute and pampering ways to practice self-care. There are also ways that don’t seem like self-care at all in the first place but are equally important to practice the…

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This is where I love you

This is where I love you

So, the other day I looked at you from a distance within a busy crowd and I thought this must be what other people see when they look at you: a charming, good-looking and well-mannered guy. Someone that can easily whip up a conversation with a stranger or can make people turn their head around when you walk past them. From that same distance, you radiated calmness and a hint of mystery, as if you…

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6 Things I Learned From My Asian Parents

6 Things I Learned From My Asian Parents

The concept of success is up to ourselves to fill in

For the longest of time, I thought that there was only one definition of the word success. Which means to study hard, get a prestige job and earn tons of money. I thought it was what everything thought that it was the way to become a successful person. When you are raised by parents who put work on the first place, it becomes natural that you…

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6 Things I Learned From My Asian Parents

6 Things I Learned From My Asian Parents

The concept of success is up to ourselves to fill in

For the longest of time, I thought that there was only one definition of the word success. Which means to study hard, get a prestige job and earn tons of money. I thought it was what everything thought that it was the way to become a successful person. When you are raised by parents who put work on the first place, it becomes natural that you…

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Why we feel the urge to prove ourselves to others and why we should stop it.

Some people can never sit still literally and figuratively and always need to be ‘’on’’ something – anything. Hands always in movements and a mind that is running a marathon that is never-ending. Hopping from task to task to chase achievement after achievement. It’s like entering in a state of trance where you are so deeply absorbed in the act of doing, that you no longer stop and think what it…