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I just got described as an "ad hating commie" by someone because I said a minute of youtube ads is unpleasant. fully spent 5 minutes arguing and defending youtube ads. insane stuff

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This whole thing about scanning your face to prove tour age is making me remember, in 2018 while out in paris we got our wallet stolen during a particularly busy night at a lesbian bar. It was very late and with no money to buy metro tickets we were effectively stranded, but some people helped us and we ended up staying the night at a really sweet older man's place. His face was deeply scarred and he was missing an eye. We chatted on our way and he told me about his life, probably to help calm me down. He explained he had been stuck in a house fire 20 years ago and had had multiple rounds of facial reconstruction and a skin graft, but there's only so much surgery can do so he just learned to live with it. I remember he said he liked the queer bars because they're the only place people don't really stare at him.

At some point I took out my phone, and at the time I was using face unlock. This prompted him to tell me all the ways this technology doesn't work on him. How his phone selfie camera doesn't focus right because it's not a detecting a face. How he had to update his ID the old fashioned way, because the website kept rejecting his photos. And how it was becoming more and more common, and how it was making his life way harder.

This was 7 years ago, and now whenever I see this sort of technology I think of how that guy can't use it. And how house fires are pretty common, and how anything from being born this way to a skin condition to heavy tattooing can probably cause the same issue. Can these people get age verified ? Will they just lose access to all social media, which are increasingly necessary in society, if this becomes the norm ? These are people who are already driven out of public spaces due to how they look, and they're getting pushed out online too all in the interest of companies wanting more money.

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There are many different terms to describe experience outside of the gender binary; this poll is not meant to imply that nonbinary and genderqueer are the only labels, these are just two of the more common ones and relevant to anon's personal experience.

Anon considers themself nonbinary, while other people they know strictly use the term genderqueer and find the term 'nonbinary' offensive. They're curious whether there's any cultural/geographical component.

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We ask your questions anonymously so you don’t have to! Submissions are open on the 1st and 15th of the month.

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HSI/ICE vs. hungry Mexican restaurant customers - WHO YA GOT?

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I don't care what fucking country you're from, internet bans get rid of the only safe place lots of abused kids and adults. Putting these age restrictions (that aren't even accurate btw) on social media does nothing but hurt the vulnerable and make it easier for governments and abusers to have an even tighter chokehold on severely disabled people, abused people, and neglected people.

PLEASE FUCKING LISTEN TO ABUSED AND DISABLED PEOPLE WHO WON'T BE ABLE TO ACCESS THEIR ONLY COMMUNITIES ANYMORE

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my sincerest wish is that everyone know about the john c. campbell folk school in brasstown north carolina. where you can sign up to take classes taught by folk artists in literally every possible category of folk art. theyve got blacksmithy, traditional beadwork, lacemaking, instrument making, folkloric oral history. you name it, they teach it. literally everyting. its so awesome.

EDIT: you can also take classes online for as low a fee as $10 for a few hours of instruction over video call. they also host an annual folk festival where you can learn the basics for free by going in person <- how i learned to weave

SECOND EDIT: this place is alsp pretty close to cherokee and the ancestral homeland of the cherokee people, so they have a lot of classes and lectures about cherokee folk craft too

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it is past time we jettisoned the useless false dichotomy of introversion vs. extroversion and just accepted that everybody has a minimum amount of social interaction, failing which, they get really weird. and everybody has a maximum amount of social interaction, exceeding which, they get really weird. these levels are different for everyone, for a variety of reasons, and have no moral dimension. and that is all.

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as a librarian, i can't encourage you enough to check out stuff you don't think you'll get around to reading

like other institutions, at the end of the day we have to use numbers to justify our existence and inform our financial decisions

check out that novel by that author you like even if you know there's no time to finish it. check out a movie you like even if you can't watch it. check out a sewing machine even if you don't have time for a project. we don't check if you finish anything, and it all adds up.

support your local library by checking out things you don't need

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not to enforce gender roles but a computer should NOT fucking have apps okay. if I wanted an app I'd go on my phone my laptop is for Programs. I mean this.

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do not let up the pressure

https://yellat.money/

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truly from the bottom of my heart i hate the level of enshittification etsy has reached because it's still the best place to buy patterns for my hobby and every time i go scrolling through endless ai-generated bullshit to finally dig up a human-designed pattern i like, i'm hit with a deluge of 'popular!! 563 people are looking at this right now!! it's in 134632 baskets!! you must buy immediately!!!' it's a pdf file. it's a fucking pdf file. do you get off on trying to give people fomo over a fucking pdf file. fuck off. get diarrhea forever.

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Stop just asking "is it normal?" and start asking "is it harming anyone?" Lots of harmful things are normalized in this society and lots of things considered weird or rare are completely harmless. Whether something is considered normal or common shouldn't be the deciding factor in whether it's okay

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You probably already know this, but in case you don't, a lot of women in this era seem to have named their sons after their maiden surname. If you can find their sons names, you might be able to piece together who women are from marriage records

Why do people call wives by their husbands name like they'll say Mrs. John Lastname, instead of Mrs. Lastname or Mrs. Sara Lastname, it's just really weird to me