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moderation guidelines for gossip blogging:

Your original RFG moderator is getting old and weary and sadly, must move on. I don’t know how many RFG moderators will be added in the future or how many URL moves will be made to facilitate gossiping, but I do know that RFG is now an institution in the tumblr radfem community. I want some of the guidelines to be posted for transparency’s sake, and to help anyone trying to start a gossip/drama blog of any sort. 

Your main job as a gossip blogger is to solicit asks and submissions and make a record of notable happenings. If you have a dilemma ask yourself: will this encourage, or discourage submissions? Without your faithful gossipers theres nothing to discuss, be grateful even when they are annoying the living shit out of you.

This is also why you must shut the hell up most of the time. If you are writing a reply, you must delete it more than half the time. Keep yourself out of the equation as much as possible. Pick your battles. Reply to non-admin related material a maximum of once a week. If people dislike you it will discourage submissions. It is better that they don’t know you at all. If you reply try to choose topics that 99% of the community agrees on.

Blocking: Blocking non-community members is fine at any time, but it is a pain to track them all down so I would recommend blocking whoever is annoying you.

Only block community members if it is absolutely necessary. I have blocked in the following cases: non stop sexual asks being sent to me, death threats, repeated asks with graphic violence, threats of litigation, severe mental illness episodes that make it in the member’s best interest to be blocked, being cursed with death. 

queueing: queue everything you can so that no one tries to play internet detective about what your main/other blogs are. Adjust the queue to try and make sure that asks are usually posted within 24 hours of submission.

private messaging: its better not to say anything if you can avoid it. Say as little as possible but be polite. People WILL try to be your friend in order to get favors like having posts deleted at their request. Don’t be friends with people on this account for that reason.

Bumping asks/submissions:

If the community is on fire with a certain topic you may want to bump asks to facilitate discussion. Also bump anything that is urgent, like a community member is in danger or needs money to escape an abusive situation. Use your head, you’ll do fine. 

Episodes of mental illness: always encourage the poster to seek help IRL. It does not matter how mean they are to you or what they say, if they are in danger you must encourage them to seek help IRL.If you know of other members who know the person IRL reach out to them directly. 

Threats of litigation: Most states have anti-SLAPP (strategic lawsuit against public participation) laws that make it illegal to sue others into silence over unpopular opinions. The word “gossip” is protective here also, it is not meant to be taken as a serious source of news, so it is hard to claim that anyone can really have their reputation damaged by its contents. That being said, serious accusations will be made from time to time. It is a good idea to ask for evidence directly in such a case, or note that you have not seen any evidence of what is being alleged. If you do get into legal trouble, contact ken white of popehat, he hooks people up w pro bono lawyers who dislike rich people using their money to shut up free speech online. It is more likey that tumblr would simply delete your account and you would have to start over again, bu they, c’est la vie. 

deleting asks: deleting asks should be taken seriously. Sometimes askers truly are beating a dead horse and you would make the blog less entertaining by publishing all of them. You can choose those that best summarize the wave of asks in your inbox and publish them. Other asks are disgusting or obviously fake, you can publish these to make fun of the poster or you can delete them, whatever you think would irritate the sender the most. Take whatever biases you have in yourself and try to mitigate them. If you agree with one position in an argument make sure you are more liberally publishing the opposing side to keep yourself in check. I no longer publish single insults asks like saying someone is ugly, dumb, etc. Context is needed or it becomes boring. Always publish asks sent about your main.

outside advice: everyone will tell you how to run the blog. Most of them are wrong. You can try different things out to improve the blog but never worry too much about those who act like they are entitled to your work, they won’t ever be happy with what you do anyway. 

charity posts: seek out as many posts as possible about fundraising or charity and publish them. Help out the community. 

Leave others alone outside of the confines of your blog: Reblogging isn’t fucking with them unless you add a bunch of mean commentary, which you should never do. You are there to present something notable happening, not add your opinion. If a person blocks you, leave them alone. You can screen cap without mentioning them in the text or otherwise drawing their attention to you. It is fine if people do not want to interact. Never send anons to stir the pot or any other crap like that. Believe me you will have plenty of content, even if it is somewhat cyclical. 

Drama summaries: these are a pain to write. If I were more organized I would have started a draft and added to it each week, but I didn’t so it was a nightmare. Ditto w tagging. Be organized or stop giving a shit, whatever works for you. Read some tabloids if you need an example of the writing style. 

adding mods: do what you can to protect the content, like moving URLs. Some people would love to help just to delete everything because they hate this place. They are free to not visit it! Try to choose mods that won’t get flustered when asks about themselves are sent in.

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also- your application is confidential. I won’t tell anyone if you wanted to mod or announce who I pick once its done.

taking applications for a mod, eventually new admin

This blog will be moved to an archive url before adding a new mod so any plans to join in order to delete the blog are pointless. ANYWAY, send me a message about wanting to work on rfg and I will take you into consideration. I am getting less time to moderate and need to make contingency plans. Thanks for reading! -rfg

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come on y’all, I know some of you would make a great mod. 

taking applications for a mod, eventually new admin

This blog will be moved to an archive url before adding a new mod so any plans to join in order to delete the blog are pointless. ANYWAY, send me a message about wanting to work on rfg and I will take you into consideration. I am getting less time to moderate and need to make contingency plans. Thanks for reading! -rfg

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this shitlord is still at it trying to harass/doxx 

Lying fucking cunt. This bitch needs to be doxxed ASAP.

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Does anyone have a sharevibe? Do you like it? I have a feeldoe and I don't really like it and I want to try the sharevibe.

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How does clitrex perpetuate the cotton ceiling?

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white radfems (i would say radfems in general but i've yet to see radfems of color mentioning her) should stop being so supportive of laci green on her anti-gender identity discovery/whatever seeing as her boyfriend is a white supremacist and she'll probably "come out" as a white supremacist herself in a couple of months. (look up what she's said about assata)

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it's 2017 and it's embarrassing how many people #onhere don't know the difference between racism and xenophobia.

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I can't believe we've reached a point in feminism where we're actually trying to prove that rape IS an unavoidable part of human nature. Tragically beautiful

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submission: @lesbianhater is apparently a "radical feminist lesbian" who thinks it's ok to use slurs to identify other lesbians 😊😊😊 Like, I guess I get where she's coming from in that OTHER PEOPLE shouldn't be trying to say one's the man and one's the woman, but the post was about personal usage of the terms femme and butch so that comment still doesn't apply. [Idk if this will be anonymous when posted but please make sure that it is, thanks]

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Bi confession: It really does make me feel like shit knowing that I can be with a woman for 15 whole arse years and for whatever reason we end the relationship; if I ever in my life date a man after that people would think I never really loved her and it was just a phase and experiment. I think about this a lot and it's super painful. So yeah saying bi women "go back" to men just contributes to heteronormativity. We don't "go back" we date people we fancy.

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"I've always found slurs aimed at my ethnicity/religious background to be much more offensive and I'm not here for white women complaining about how woc don't prioritise Becky being called a bitch" well I'm sorry that your shitty culture desensitized you to misogyny then but while you do that the rest of us will be over here actually applying feminist criticism to things ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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It's not exaggerated. Go to Sexual Coercion on Wikipedia (can't link). Do you not find it interesting (food for thought-wise) how rape is an advantageous mating strategy for such male animals, and that in some cases evolution has aided them, giving them adaptations to make rape easier (but admittedly females also evolve to protect themselves). We just want discussion on the issue of rape. Why is it so prevalent? Are the two sexes fundamentally different? Do we have differing biological drives?

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@@@ rabbit anon: i got a bullet vibrator. it doesnt do it for me. i vastly prefer skin on skin contact to vibes. idk why. natural kinda girl. (hands&mouths are great)

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If you factor in the rise of pornography including child pornography, rape culture being pushed by liberals AND conservatives, BDSM being normalized, on top of the continued prostitution and trafficking of women and girls that's literally happening every day worldwide, I would say that men have actually gotten worse over time.

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Submission: from what i recall Kelly only made out with a few girls at bars during her stint as a fake lesbian, is she counting inserting catheters into patients lollll ?

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"Let's stop derailing conversations about women shaming each other for not performing femininity with "but men do it worse" because in your day to day life, let's be honest, most of it is coming from women" can we delete the word shaming from the english language now