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Where's that tweet about people still living long fulfilling lives even through the fall of the roman empire because I think about it constantly

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Kay I'm really sick of this "masculinity is a prison" bullshit.

I'm a gay trans man, I've found my expression masculinity and defined it for myself. It makes me feel whole in a way femininity never did. I have aspects of femininity sprinkled into my masculinity but my masculinity is still masculinity. If it's not for you it's not for you, you don't have to be masculine if you don't want to be. But stop demonizing an entire form of gender expression and sexuality. You're not being progressive.

Patriarchy is a prison.

Masculinity is beautiful.

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DNI lists on this website are fucking insane

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"in the future, boys and girls will be next to impossible to tell apart. even in bed."

-- david byrne

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It’s really silly that people are looking at trans men and mascs creating language to describe how we are targeted and affected by bigotry, and say that’s reactionary because it’s “in reaction to” the treatment we’re receiving.

Like. Does creating language in reaction to bigotry being faced not describe all of the language we have to describe bigotry? Why is it different when trans men and mascs are creating language?

Also, they’re using the term “reactionary” because we talk about how bad “reactionary politics” are. Calling something reactionary nowadays immediately brings to mind reactionary politics. Meanwhile, reactionary politics is not something being “in reaction to”, but a specific type of political stance which values return to a status quo. The word that could actually describe what they want to describe is “reactive” but they choose to say “reactionary” because they know the connotation that carries. It’s incorrect use of a buzzword as a silencing tactic.

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the world is a better place with trans men and transmasc people in it

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There's a stairway to heaven and a highway to hell, but the midnight train goes anywhere. Trains are clearly the superior transit method.

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Dave made us a nice Christmas dinner 🥰

Merry Christmas to all that celebrate 🎄💜🎉

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Does anybody have any low sodium (and ideally low fat ig) recipes that actually taste good? Triple points if I can make them in the slow cooker.

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babygirl i sit hunched in ways you’d never fuckin believe

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I feel so validated right now after a full day of feeling terrible at the game lol. You're just playing on another level

Have been trying to figure out how Rouke was kicking my ass in mario kart so hard and it turns out that it just learned how to do speedrun boost strats when it was a kid and thought that was how everyone played

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Have been trying to figure out how Rouke was kicking my ass in mario kart so hard and it turns out that it just learned how to do speedrun boost strats when it was a kid and thought that was how everyone played

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do you weep

often

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I know all the posts about how to stockpile hrt come from a good place but yall. Stockpiling T on purpose is a felony and its not one i judge you for but...STOP admitting it out loud on your blogs frankly and with none of the "teehee THEORETICALLY" shoplifter blogs used to have. Im seeing people talk abt the stockpiles they already have AND their plans to share it and my guys... this website WILL give your personal info to the government if subpoenad. Idk that its LIKELY but I know itd be embarrassing as hell to go to JAIL for felony possession of controlled substance w intent to distribute bc you couldnt stop yourself from YAPPING on a fucking tumblr post and then mr hammers gave your email and login ip to the cops. I KNOW youre all not using secure enough burners and vpns and shit 4 that Cmon now

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my personal take on "antigonism" is that it's entirely what you make of it. which is to say, i agreed with your post explaining why you felt such a term was necessary, and i do think this mentality of "most of us are normal about each other" and simply assuming we understand each other's experiences by virtue of being trans is reinventing artificial gender solidarity between cis people ("bros before hoes", "girl's girl") but superimposed onto trans people. which can be particularly contentious, given that we're an extremely traumatized bunch with a lot of baggage and massively diverging perspectives on all kinds of things. relating to each other outside of conventional gender relations means we have to put in that much more work to bridge the gaps between us, because we can no longer rely on the common assumptions made about men and women to carry our interactions, if that makes sense.

i do think a whole word for transfem-to-transmasc solidarity does toe a line between being unnecessarily inflammatory and conditionally useful. i'm genuinely glad for the people who felt seen and appreciated by the fact that a transfem made so explicit her stance on intracommunity issues. i'm also sympathetic to the people who feel put-off by such a word. when does allyship become chauvinistic? there is no word for a non-misogynistic man to signal to women that he is explicitly anti-antifeminist, for example. do we need one? i think a vast majority would say no, on account of simply stating he believes in feminist principles to suffice. so i'm wondering what specifically the push was for you to coin a word around tfem4tmasc solidarity, because while i do think trans people as a whole need to take significantly more initiative about rooting out transmisogyny and transandrophobia both, i'm not quite clear on what could signal more clearly a transfem's stance on intracommunity dialogue than just saying "i believe in transandrophobia and condemn all radfems". all feminism, transfeminism included, has had their malicious actors-- the existence of transradfems isn't really anything noteworthy as far as the broader feminist conversations go.

i hope this doesnt come across as confrontational because i think the people who found comfort in the fact that you are willing to go that far for them is truly heartwarming. i just don't want to see us splinter further into microfactions over something like one person coining one maybe-overenthusiastic word on the internet

Sincerely, there is a word for men who are anti-anti-feminist, though, they're feminists. Granted, self-identified "feminist" men have somewhat of a negative stereotype associated to them, but still, feminist men are feminists.

One of the biggest reasons I think a term would be useful is because so many people feel unsafe in the trans community because of trans radical feminism right now that it can help them relax a lot when they see a trans woman identifies as such. Just reminding people with assurances that most trans women are Normal doesn't really help that when they keep running into ones who aren't over and over.

TRFs are aggressive about this stuff. Seriously, every single day, post after post, their primary form of activism is crying about TMEs stealing kinks and liking a children's toy too much. I feel strongly that should be countered. Even if they aren't the majority, they sure as hell act like it and repeat how great it is that every single trans woman except velvetvexations alone agrees with them.

To be absolutely clear, I do not think I'm the only non-weird trans woman! That is just literally what they say about me! They may be the minority now but that frog is boiling.

IRL transmascs are forced out of spaces and talked over when they're let in because mascuwinity is scawy, No doubt transfems have similar problems because some spaces are TERF-y, but that problem is exacerbated when social media is filled with TRF rhetoric because it gets drilled into people's heads they need to be worried about that, and I don't think "touch grass" is a good response to that.

Hell, what if someone touches grass and then they do happen to end up having people be transandrophobic/exorsexist/intersexist/etc. to them? "Oh, well, that didn't count, try again somewhere else, I prommy that's not Normal."

It's all about volume. I feel very, very strongly that volume is necessary here, to combat the feeling that that radical feminism is around every corner and help people feel at ease and know trans women are with them.

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'People also suffered' those are the same people who lead the rich and fulfilling lives bestie the two are not mutually exclusive

Where's that tweet about people still living long fulfilling lives even through the fall of the roman empire because I think about it constantly

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One thing you can see in the notes of this one is that some people will see another person coping and doing their best to feel better. And they will immediately jump to invalidate that as fast as they can.

Where's that tweet about people still living long fulfilling lives even through the fall of the roman empire because I think about it constantly