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His ass is in Okinawa or wtvr 😒

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Amanda and Carmen having breakfast in their bathrobes with mimosas and fresh fruit with honey and oats. They're kissing between feeding each other with the early morning sun bathing them in gold.

Johnny and Daniel in last night's rumpled clothes eating fried bologna and cereal on Johnny's couch bickering over what to watch on TV. They just got up, it's 2pm.

Not comparing them, I want both.

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sam and robby - birds of a feather

(randomly was feeling the sam and robby friendship superiority. if not besties then why move in sync?)

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doodled some daniels to soothe myself after the fuckery of the recent episodes

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deadbeat dads are my vibe tbh bonus points if they kind-of know karate

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The Karate Kid pt. II (1986) dir. John G. Avildsen

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demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.

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How the Grinch Stole Christmas (2000) dir. Ron Howard

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samantha larusso and robby keene ARE best friends and that’s just a true and real fact sorry

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Bro was burned to a crisp.

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Pink Flamingos (1972) - dir. John Waters

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The Karate Kid pt.II (1986) dir. John G. Avildsen

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Where There’s a Will, There’s a War || M*A*S*H 10x17 Original Airdate: February 22, 1982 written by David Pollock, Elias Davis story editing by Karen Hall directed by Alan Alda

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I love Ice