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I agree with the idea of having to some time off for yourself from people/places/situations, but I think the wording of this quote can be damaging if applied to ALL of your connections.

Some things, some people, some places, some beings that are doing more harm than good are things that should be released, should be "lost." But this shouldn't be the case most of the time.

I think sometimes you do need to retreat from the bustle of life, retreat from people. But you should not withdraw yourself entirely from all stimuli (your whole world) because that can lead to isolation and depression.

I think even if you don't like socializing or people for that matter, to an extent we all need to interact with people, even if it is through a screen or even if it is through just passing friendly greetings. A lot of the joy of life comes from meaningful interactions with others.

You should not trash meaningful, healthy connections, but I am in agreement with the idea that sometimes we need a break from even good things to relearn the goodness of those cherished things, those cherished people, and those cherished places around us (or we need time to recharge because socializing/interacting/maintaining a relationship or a state can be a draining ordeal even if you do like socializing as energy is expended).

I think it's different though, if you have a duty to children/others/creatures you care for. I think you still must give them your love and care, being a parent/overseer is a full time job afterall (at least for smaller little human beings), but even with full time jobs, there is time for rest. You are not a machine. Take some time for yourself, as you cannot give from a cup that is empty (take some time to refill your cup), but do not neglect your duty to others/the little ones. Involve others, if this duty is hard to maintain. Even if it's just for a weekend, a day, so that your beloved are still getting what they need. Be it attention, food, love, or the like.

For now this is all from me. Hopefully this can help someone. I think God nudged me to write this. I felt I had to. Maybe one of His children needed it.

God Bless.

And if you reached the end of this note, thank you for reading it, thank you for your attention, even if it was just part for of it.

“To find peace, sometimes you have to be willing to lose your connection with people, places and things that create all the noise in your life.”

— lieinlove

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October by Mary Oliver

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— Nizar Qabbani

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On your note about disliking when people refer to a design as being "lazy". I think there's different connotations to the word and being lazy isn't inherently a bad thing (if anything, to your generation it was considered a grave sin while it really isn't a bad thing to be specially given how overworked most people are).

I think a better word for what gets called "lazy design" would be "raw design". The straight to print ideas that don't have an extra layer of flavor or an attempt to conceal the cheekiness. It comes off, to some people, as unpolished when you have the flying cow creature be called Holy Cow for instance, instead of letting the players figure out that was the intent name. Champion of the Perished or Nulldrifter present clever wordplay where Meathook Massacre II relies on a meta-level reference to sequels that would usually only happen on acorn. Original eldraine had some twists on classical fairytales but then Wilds had some 1:1 on ideas that had already been there and that felt bad to some.

What I'm trying to say is that people calling those kind of designs as "lazy designs" probably means "I'd have liked it better if there was a bit more to it", not "designers are lazy and didn't spend time thinking about it".

"Lazy" by definition means "unwilling to work or use energy", so the implication is the designer didn't work or spend energy on it as much as they should. I wish the design was more layered. I wish the design was more subtle. I wish the design had more facets to it. There are plenty of ways to ask that a design has more structure to it than calling it "lazy". It truly is an insult to the design team.

As a general rule, when the words you use upset people (and that's not your intent), find better words.

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I disagree with this because sometimes YOU have to be the one to put yourself out there, to ask, to demand. And ONLY once you've tried it and failed, after multiple times sometimes, can you really say something wasn't meant for you. This is okay. Not everything good in life is meant for you, but that being said there is still enough good in this world for everyone to have a bit of it. But you can't just be passive and expect to get all them good thangs on a silver platter.

Often, the best things in life are ones you have to fight for or are the ones that are a tad difficult to obtain (though, not impossible) or are the ones that won't be handed to you. You've gotta fight for them thangs, put yourself out there. Try and fail.

Even if you fail a lot, that's okay. It is okay to fail.

But even if you fail, you'll have a museum of trying (if you look at this way) as opposed to a gallery of failure (this is a rephrased quote from a TikTok comment, I do not claim credit for it).

But that being said, the advice to "let it be," is good, I just don't think it applies here (you should not be passive when it comes to things you want). Sometimes a situation is unfixable or unchangeable, sometimes you can't do anything. In this case, "let it be."

God bless y'all.

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Why does this remind me of God?

It's not love if you don't have a choice.

You. Must. Be. My. Favorite.

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graves grow no green that you can use.

gwendolyn brooks

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Naomi Shihab Nye, from You & Yours: Poems; "Stay," originally published in 2005

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Originally, it reminded me of Love's love. Of staying with Him. But the quote is more true for when you rest and reside in his presence.

Something that I believe He said in the red book: staying with Him, or following what He tells you or His ways, will not all be smooth sailing. There will be opposition and unpleasant times.

But I also remembered He does promise that you won't go through it alone. :)

Naomi Shihab Nye, from You & Yours: Poems; "Stay," originally published in 2005

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— a word to my lovers (via thatantisocialbitch)

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Word on the Street

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August 23, 2024

"What if the people who hurt you are the ones meant to teach you about forgiveness?" Is a fire line btw

They always speak of forgiveness like it’s gospel.

They say that the only way to move on is to forgive the people who wronged you, then you’ll know peace.

That’s great and all but,

I don’t know how.

Is there a book I can read?

Or will my sister know if I ask her?

Do I have to pray about it?

Would God even know?

What if the people who hurt you are the ones who were meant to teach you about forgiveness?

What if you never learned how to let go of things?

Can I still forgive someone if my hands are bloody too?

How do I forgive myself if I can’t even look myself in the eyes?

What do I do if I still want to apologize?

Am I supposed to want to be forgiven too?

Am I doing the right thing?

Have I ever done the right thing?

Would God know?

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Andrea Gibson, The Madness Vase

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The tags are everything I know. I am sharing this with every single one to try and spread the word.

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People crave love regardless of not they're given it. They will eat their fill.

Analysis:

Both spoons and knives are cutlery.

— Lauren Eden