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Rules: Spell out your URL with song titles

Was tagged by @janna42. Thanks for reminding me Tumblr exists

P - “Pompeii” by Bastille

U - “Umbrella” by Rihanna

J - “Jaane Kyun” by Vishal and Shekhar (this has Priyanka Chopra!)

P - “Put Your Name on It” by Mabel

U - “Urvashi” by A.R. Rahman

J - “Jaane Kyun Log” by Udit Narayan and Alka Yagnik

A - “Angel” by Zack Knight

A - “Adiós” by Ricky Martin

This took longer than it should’ve but it was worth it :) Enjoy!

No one is obligated but tagging @dragon-knuckles @lizafromtheocean @default-nerd @moe-problemz @mintflower2 @nadyathetimelady @unicornia-gotica-da-lua @as-sane-as-she-is @vinyaya-jay

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Just because you’re used to it, doesn’t mean it’s okay

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most stories about supernatural entities working with humans portray the supernatural entity as either a stuffy asshole with a superiority complex, or a clumsy idiot whose lack of familiarity with human culture and utilities is played for laughs, or a combination of the two, but what i really want to see for once is a simple buddy/family comedy dynamic. that’s all.

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That gap I-

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Boyfriend photobombs girlfriend with engagement ring for a Month without her knowing

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Ken Nwadiogbu, drawing with pencil

follow him on instagram @kenartng    twitter @kennwadiogbu

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I work at a daycare with infants.

One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

Thin privilege is a small, pretty baby getting better childcare because the caretaker doesn’t think she’s too fat to be allowed to eat.

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Maui is not obese

Maui is a powerful demigod. Big and strong and… oh, you think he looks fat?

That’s probably because you’ve been conditioned by the media to accept this

as what strong and fit looks like. Amiright?

Sadly… these guys are not all that strong. Yeah, they got muscles… but they aren’t built in a useful way. They are built for looks and that’s about it.

This… 

is a strong guy. Actually a competitor in the Strongman competition. But… his tummy sticks out and he doesn’t look like a Dorito. 

You know who else is strong?

These guys…

And Maui…

Look at those arms, omg. And that solid, sturdy torso. You can see a shadow where his meat covers his ribs, but he doesn’t look like any slouch to me.

And this guy…

That’s Dwayne Johnson’s grandfather. When the Disney animators showed him their sketches of Maui, he pulled out a picture of his grandfather and showed it to them because he was amazed how similar they looked. This dude was also a pro wrestler.

There’s actually a great infographic about ab muscles and stuff over HERE. but this is the part i want to show you.

Now… look at Maui again.

That thickness don’t move like fat. It doesn’t jiggle and he’s able to flex it. Look at how it sits on his body. It doesn’t sag… he doesn’t have a gut. There’s even a slight V shape to his torso.

It’s just big and not ‘defined’.

And people aren’t used to that.

(sorry, this isn’t the most organized post… i kinda just let it all spill out)

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Kajol in Mere Khwabon Mein // Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge (1995) dir. Aditya Chopra

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Mere Khwabon Mein | Lata Mangeshkar (DDLJ OST)

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new cryptid everyone!

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how many eye contact until date

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Those negative thoughts that you’re having right now?

Ditch them.

Those thoughts that you’re not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough?

Let go of them.

You only deserve to reside in thoughts of beauty and empowerment. Don’t allow for toxic ones to hold you back.

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I may not be a perfect person but at least I have never yelled at an employee in a store

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I hope August is a good month for all of you

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OH WOW THIS IS BEAUTIFUL 

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One of the most useful things I’ve learned about recovering from trauma is that my decisions need to be judged according to the incomplete information that was available to me at the time.

So, say I’m deciding whether to eat chicken at a restaurant. All evidence is that it’s a good idea. I’m hungry for chicken, and I usually feel good after eating it.

I eat the chicken, and I get food poisoning. The resulting illness causes me to fall short of responsibilities, and creates numerous problems for me and the people who depend on me.

What happened?

Trauma brain says: “This happened because I am Bad At Making Decisions. If I had made The Right Decision and not eaten chicken, everything would have been fine.”

Recovery brain says, “According to the information that was available to me, the chicken was unlikely to make me sick. Eating chicken was a Good Decision with Bad Consequences. This happened to me because I had incomplete information.”

The “trauma brain” response makes all decisions really hard, because each decision involves the prospect of being judged by a future self that has more information.

“Should I buy the $2 mouse pad or the $3 mouse pad? If I buy the cheaper one and it doesn’t work well, it will be my own fault for not buying a better quality one…”

(Then I might end up paying myself $1-per-hour to agonize over which mouse pad to buy, which is probably an ACTUAL unwise course of action.)

But if I foster the “recovery brain” response, I can start to trust that my future self will judge my decisions kindly.

“If I buy the cheap mouse pad and it doesn’t work, then I only gambled $2 on it. If I buy the $3 one and even it doesn’t work, then I’ll have more closely guessed how much I need to pay for a mousepad of sufficient quality.”

And then later when the mousepad doesn’t work: “Well, that didn’t work. At least I made a decision. The outcome has given me more information about the options available to me going forward.”

(Meta level: Decisions you made prior to reading this post about how to treat yourself were probably good given the information you had access to about trauma and recovery!)

tl;dr: Bad results are not always evidence of bad decisions. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt about why you do what you do.