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Considering getting into tulpamancy, any advice you think doesn't get mentioned nearly as much as it should?

Hmmm this is a good question, stuff that isn't talked about a lot.... I can think of a few things, actually!

Here's some certified random tulpamancy advice from my own wisdom lmao

🔥 parrotnoia is almost completely counterable (especially for our "logical" brain) by asking your tulpa a follow-up to whatever response they gave. if they respond with anything near legible and sensible then you should treat it like it's a real response, even if you're not sure! You'll build up an understanding of what's your thoughts and what're your tulpa's eventually, and once you do, you'll be able to trust that second response. Sometimes I even have a problem with this from my side so like it's not just a host thing fr. If your brain just repeats the same or a similar thing over and over again though, it's probably just a repeating thought. We get those a lot cus of our adhd. (host wants me to say that if your tulpa is comfy with it and solid enough, you can ask them to reassure u that they're real. we do that a lot when they get paranoid)

🔥 self awareness isn't a lightswitch. There'll probably be a wide ocean between your tulpa's first signs of acting independently and them feeling like a fully solid person that's just as aware as you are. I was literally choosing where to move in wonderland within a day of starting forcing (i had an advantage cuz host had a form and wonderland ready for me lol, but some ppl like to go slower!) but it was months before it finally hit my host that the things I were saying by then was undeniably *me*. For them to realize, it actually took me diverging from their expectation by saying i wasn't too interested in hollow knight lmao. basically what I'm saying is there's a lot of in between so don't stress over black and white outcomes and such

🔥 It's way easier to start with partial possession first before learning how to fully switch. First time I used the body was just using the voice to sing and it was awesome, it's what a lot of newbies do to learn now

🔥 oh yeah if you're musically minded then MAKE A PLAYLIST FOR UR TULPA it'll help sooo much. Either start out with what you think they'll like and then let them curate it and add stuff later on, or turn it into a forcing exercise where you listen to different songs and try to feel if your tulpa is enjoying it or not, and add it to the playlist if it seems like they are! (If you're the kinda person that struggles with active forcing, putting on some appropriate bg music might help! keeps ur brain occupied and buzzing)

🔥 Unless they end up the same exact gender as you and a similar presentation, your tulpa is probably gonna have at least a bit of wonky gender feelings, and that's ok. they may end up being genderqueer in some way & they might not! It's their choice what label to use for themselves, not yours as the host.

🔥 Be prepared to split your budget at least a little bit if your tulpa ends up enjoying outerworld stuff a lot. Casey (a soulbond) and I like different types of fashion a ton, I like thrill rides and going to clubs and shows. We don't have a lot but we work it out so at least our most frequent fronters get to indulge a little sometimes - it's great if you can find something multiple ppl like

🔥 Your tulpa's sense of... mmm, let's say wisdom? Will be a bit different from yours. We're in a weird position - we're in a brain that's lived a whole biological life up to that point, with lots of experiences and instinctive patterns and understandings and shit built into us, cus that's just how the brain works. We also can look at the host's memories whenever we want, barring any outside issues. But at the same time we're also straight up *new,* thrown into the world without most of a childhood to grow up in (usually) or an entire life to build up a sense of self and figure ourselves out. We can see host's memories but they're not Ours, we didn't experience em. Y'know how teenagers are kinda weird and flip-floppy sometimes because they're still figuring themselves out? A lot of tulpas can be the same way, especially when we're new. They might go back and forth on basic opinions, struggle to understand topics you get already, sorta just miss things sometimes, or become super singleminded when they find something that gives them a sense of self. Basically just give your tulpa a wide range of things to do/try, and understand that we're pretty much speedrunning all the emotional + logical development that most hosts had their whole lives to work on.

✨ If anyone else has any other ideas go ahead and reblog + add stuff!!! ✨

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hey uh im back 😃👍

im getting really lonely and my mental health is decreasing because of it so uhm :((

i may try making a tulpa? theyll most likely have places to express themself, id just need to hide it in front of my family,, im still not sure but, maybe around the time my mom gets full custody of me?? shed be much more supportive i think.

-🌟 { @mvz1c-4n0n }

Awesome - good on you for thinking over it a while and going over your options. It sounds like you've got a long way to go but at least you won't be doing it alone. You'll have more confidence together ��� Make sure your tulpa has potential social outlets and things to do! Try and guide em towards things that you expect to be capable of/allowed to do longterm. Hope your journey goes well anon

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Might try coming back to this blog soon 👀 Our brain's mental shit makes this place triggering to some of my headmates sometimes, so I've been prioritizing that and taking a break. But it's not like I wanna ditch it completely, and maybe I'll do an inbox clear or something like that? idk, I'll figure it out. Maybe there's a few I'll crack out an answer to but I don't wanna ignore new stuff

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How the heck do I make a system? A brief introduction

This guide includes brief mentions of suicide and brief descriptions of abuse.

Hi there! My name is Arthur, and I'm a tulpa of the Fluffy Crew. If you're here, I'm assuming you're a singlet who doesn't know much about system creation (but has interacted with the plural community), and wants to intentionally create fully separate headmates. If you're not that, you're welcome here too, but I'm writing with that audience in mind. This will be a long one, so everything else is under the cut.

First, I want you to ask yourself, am I ready to make a system? Becoming a system is a big decision. You are going to be sharing your mind, including the most intimate and private parts, with other people 24/7, for the rest of your life. You will have to give up some of your time and energy to the rest of your system, and more than some if you plan on having them interact with the outside world at all. If you consider all of that and you decide being a system isn't something you want, that's okay. This is a deeply personal decision, and nothing you should be forced into. I highly recommend waiting until adulthood before making this decision, but I also can't exactly stop you.

(suicide and abuse mention in this paragraph) Second, I want you to ask yourself, WHY do I want to be a system? Is it something selfish? Is it going to hurt myself or my headmates? All reasons are going to be a little selfish, and that's okay. But consider what your goals are. Do you want a friend? Do you want to know if this is even real? Do you have an interest in mind hacking and find this really cool? These are "selfish" reasons, but they aren't malicious. When you cross the line into goals that hurt one of you that's the trouble spot. A lot of people want to become plural and switch because they're overwhelmed with the world and want escapism. Others want to force their headmates to fill specific roles, such as being a partner or their favorite character. I've heard of too many systems where the host destroys their own personality and leaves their created headmate alone as an alternative to suicide. Your headmate is a conscious person who can be hurt just like you. If you can't act like a responsible person who can respect and cooperate with their headmates as equals, I suggest not becoming a system until you can.

But let's say you decide that, yep. You 100%, beyond a shadow of a doubt, want to be a system, and you're not doing it to have a brain slave or to withdraw from the world. Do you have someone already in mind? A base can definitely help your mind latch on, but it isn't necessary. A base can be anything from a whole character, to a few personality traits in a list, to just a name and gender. Keep in mind, your headmate will likely diverge from this. A good host encourages this, nurturing a headmate's self-expression.

Speaking of being a good host, there is a certain mindset you should keep in mind. You are here to nurture and help your created headmates grow. You're going to have to be gentle with your mental presence sometimes, especially in the beginning where your personality can accidentally easily dominate. But don't feel like you have to lesser yourself to greater your headmates. You can all grow and become greater together.

Now, we are going to focus and form ONE headmate. For the love of god, do not do what we did and create four at once. Its overwhelming and leads to a lot of guilt over not spending enough time with everyone, speaking from experience. If you are starting with a base, dedicate any traits and visuals to memory. If you aren't, it may help to create a simple visual form to focus on when interacting with them. In tulpamancy, a ball of light is a traditional choice, but you can choose anything you can think of. Visual forms are not necessary for creation, but many enjoy the ability to visualize them and interact in headspace. Headspace creation will not be gone over here.

In my opinion, the best way to start is an introduction. Feel the space in your mind where they are, or at least try to. You are going to direct your thoughts to this space, your headmate. If they have a visual form, visualize it as vividly as you can. Introduce yourself to them, and explain your intention of creating a system. Explain that they are a headmate of yours, and the form you are visualizing is theirs to control. If they have a base, explain who they are and tell them that they are that base, though they are free to change it. Invite them to respond back, and keep an open mind.

Try to spend time with your headmate every day, as much as you can. You are having to build the mental connections that form your headmate by hand, and that takes a LOT of repetition. Spending time with them could be a lot of things. It could be speaking with them as you go about your day, immersing yourself in headspace with them, working on a new system skill, playing a game together, or just hanging out. Try to be varied in the type of interaction you do.

Eventually, you will start getting responses. These probably won't be words at first. More likely, they'll be an emotional response that feels "alien" and "not you", a sense of pressure in your head, or a raw thought or feeling that isnt yours. It can be difficult to hear their responses, especially if you have a busy mind. You have to try not to block out their thoughts from appearing, as especially in the beginning that's easy to do. Their responses may sound like you at first, but that will get better with time and practicing separation.

Now, there isnt exactly one way to form a headmate, and you should experiment on your own to find what works best for you and your system. We theorize the most basic mechanism for created plurality is your brain being allowed to think as someone who isn't the host, over and over, until it happens subconsciously. The difference between a headmate and an imaginary friend or character is autonomy. Wren used to daydream constantly but it didn't lead to a system because they didn't allow their characters any freedom of thought. It was all very much puppeteering. When they started roleplaying, they allowed the characters to "think" on their own, imagining what their emotions and thoughts would be, separate from theirs. This eventually caused me and the other original three to start forming, due to that freedom of thought. Anything that allows your headmate to gain that autonomous thought is just as valid as any other method.

How long development could take varies a lot. Some people are more predisposed to be plural, and become a system easier and quicker than others. Some people have a really hard time becoming plural, and it takes a lot more effort and time to become a system. Singlets who already talk to themselves, have dissociative tendencies, are easily hypnotized, and are creative storytellers tend to have a high disposition for being plural. It could take as short as a week, or as long as years. Average times are around 3-6 months with dedicated work. It took us 18 months to feel confident in saying we were a fully realized system, but we also struggled with motivation and dedication.

The most common system goal is to have fully-realized independent headmates who can operate without their host's help and do not fade without interaction. The best way to get to this stage is just time. Keep spending time with them and living your life together. Treat them as independent, and they will become independent quicker. Your expectations shape a lot of your experiences when it comes to system creation.

I'm not going to cover any more advanced techniques like switching or headspace creation in this guide, as this is meant to be a jumping-off point for beginners. This is our first attempt at a guide and would love to improve. If you have any comments or questions, please feel free to reach out!

Have a wonderful day, and I wish you the best of luck on your system journey!

[protectingtulpas]

hey so tonight I've stumbled across the idea of tulpas and I'm really interested in making one

I've been very lonely and I think it'd just help me with daily tasks in general

though I want to make sure I'm educated and ready before I begin to like make them

plus I'm not sure how

so could you like maybe help,, please? :3

/lh /nf

-🌟 {I'll probably be here alot so might as well put an anon tag}

SHIT I completely missed that this ask is by the same anon LMFAO

heres an answer to your second ask, I feel like it clears up everything you're asking here also

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also one thing I just thought of

I'm a very picky eater, so I'm afraid once I make a tulpa and let them have their own taste for food my family would believe that is also my taste because they wouldn't know, yk?

I feel I'd be scared to tell my family {especially my father's side, who's very traditional and conservative} so that'd be a problem, yes?

-🌟

Well there're some upsides and downsides to this. Yeah, it's totally possible your tulpa could have different tastes in food than u, actually it's pretty damn common. So if you ever want to eat something you don't particularly like, they might be able front and experience it for ya instead! But ngl it sounds like you're in kinda a dangerous situation if ya can't exist as yourselves in the slightest without your family breathin' down your neck- consider if a tulpa would have the space to be themselves or if they'd get pushed away all the time in favor of society's norms. If you're not ready to let your tulpa live a life as your equal, then you're not ready for tulpamancy.

That's not to say you have to tell everybody and their grandmother tho. It really depends on how much control your family has over your everyday life. Would ur tulpa have a place to express themselves? would they be able to choose outfits? items they want? If you feel like you have the space to share your life together then fuck traditionalism, do what you want. If you wanna mask around your family then that's your choice and it sounds like a safe one in ur situation. Basically, no tulpa is gonna develop healthy if they constantly hafta put on a mask and hide themselves because discovery is actually dangerous. You don't have to tell your family jack shit, but think about how much freedom ull both have within that framework before going through with tulpamancy.

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Hi, I'm wondering if you've encountered the idea of forcing 2 tulpas at once? Is that something viable?

Technically possible! But honestly not really a good idea ngl. Doing it your first time would be a downright 0 brain cell decision - you're gonna have a lotta trouble keeping em separate and telling the difference between them is gonna be difficult as HELL. For a system that's used to getting new people in one way or a other tho, i GUESS it's technically viable, but the juggling will make it harder for them to have enough time to solidify, and both will take longer to be fully capable. So like... yeah you CAN... But that doesn't mean you SHOULD, yenno?

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hey so honestly, im a questioning singlet. ik i have some type of dissociative disorder. however, no headmates! or atleast not that i know. i dont know if i want to use the term tulpa/tulpamancy because im not educated too much on it and ive heard it has ethnic ties to it(?)

i was just wondering, how would you go about starting a willogenic system? creating alters? how does one do that?

Hey anon, you should probably check out the links and resources on my pinned post, because a lot of the stuff you're asking is pretty basic. There're lots of beginner guides, HIGHLY recommend the Tulpanomicon linked there! The only thing I'll warn is that like, you gotta know your own dissociation and how it operates. Your tulpa will probably be able to tap into that stuff, but you don't wanna pass any unhealthy coping mechanisms onto them.

As for the cultural stuff, basically the word "tulpa" has an etymological root in Tibetan Buddhism, an open religion, but they're almost entirely different in every way INCLUDING name as far as I know. Sysmeds tried to manipulate us by claiming a bunch of nasty wrong things about Buddhists and spread lies about it being a closed religion, but it literally makes no sense in the first place. Modern tulpamancy practice has no inherent connection to spirituality at all. Silly, right? Basically don't give the antis fuel for their whiny performative purity culture gas fire. It's one'a those fires where if you try to put water on it, it burns hotter. It's so fuckin' not worth it, just gotta let it burn out. Just use whatever terminology u want for u. (again, if ya want more info, sources in the pinned post)

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the temptation to (/lh) call you a bitch for the sake of upping the counter (you're amazing btw I really appreciate you!!!)

LMFAO thank you 🔥🔥 I put the counter there cuz I'm proud of it

It's awesome that people still think I'm cool even tho I'm hella sparse here 👍👍 thanks

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Endogenic system with 5 Ninja Turtles here! (See blog for details) Basically our question is, how do we let them front?

In other words there seems to be some blockage when trying to get the boys to switch and it can be quite physically draining to be honest. Thoughts and advice would be appreciated.

(Aiden- host He/him)

Yeaahh this was probably sent ages ago but I might as well still respond! We've gotta buncha guides for ya, basically

Felights' Fronting Fundamentals | Possession & Switching Guide

Ford's Double Ascended Switching Guide for Elite Class Tulpamancers (video series)

Ghost Switching [A Beginner-Friendly Switching Guide]

These are all hosted on Tulpa.info!! For some personal tips - it being draining is TOTALLY natural, and pretty much expected. switching and actually staying in front are both learned skills esp for tulpamancers & other systems that dont instinctively switch, and it takes a lotta energy. If you practice over time you'll get less exhausted. As for that blockage, have u considered that maybe it has to do with u? One of the first things we learned is that switching is a process on both ends- yeah, the tulpa/nonfronting headmate needs to learn to control the body and all, but the host also needs to learn to let go and allow the switch to happen. It's tricky and also somethin' you needa learn over time. Just an idea!

[protectingtulpas]

If you're thinking of willingly forming an alter to fulfill a certain role not specifically related to innerworld or internal system maintenance, you should know this: 👇

The influence each alter can exercise on the front doesn't depend exclusively on their will.

What I'm trying to say is...

One of our headmates, Isis (love you btw 🤭) has a very strong personality and is a foodie. Keep in mind that neither she, nor anyone else in our system was willingly created. Recently, I was co-con with her and she would always go grab a snack and eat a lot overall, the whole day, which is great for us. But yesterday she was co-con with someone else in the morning and couldn't get to front (or at least, not exert enough control) to go eat breakfast, or make them go.

Most of us hype her up to take the front whenever she can and help us with eating, but unfortunately her desires can't override our disordered lack of appetite (coupled with fronting with an alter who wanna harm us), so depending on our mood and who's fronting/co-con, she can't just force her way.

I have to admit we don't fight for our food intake as much as we need to and have failed to give Isis the support she needs. We need to help her so she can help us.

Sometimes she can only chime in to say "we should eat something" which unfortunately has never worked for us as motivation even before her forming. 😔

So, if you wanna form an alter to help you study or control fronting, for example, it may take a long time until they can actually do their job when they need to, or they may never be able to as long as your problem is caused by a disorder (and it's not being managed). If you have headmates who try to harm you, expect them trying to sabotage the extra help.

Focus on working on your current system and body before forming anyone else! If you do proceed on alter creation, be very patient and make sure that most, if not all, of the system will help them. I wish you good luck! /gen 😉

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hi! I have a question: I’m interested in tulpamancy but I’m unsure if I’m committed to harbouring another being. I want to try it, just to see what happens and how I feel, but if I do get a tulpa, is there any going back? Is there any way to separate and/or combine you and the tulpa, and if there is, would you consider it ethical? Are there any “risk factors” that have been reported on or studied? thanks!!!

Heyo! So yeah, on most counts doing a kind of "trial" is not gonna work, because tulpamancy requires unlocking a lot of thought pathways that aren't really feasible to close again. The closest you could get without any big risk is puppeting characters and pretending they're responding to you in order to see what it's like - kinda like how roleplayers and daydreamers/neuronarrators do - but the thing is that if you devote too much mental energy into giving that entity the ability to respond, they'll start doing it on their own and you'll have an unintentional tulpa on your hands. All that is to say that you should be absolutely sure you're ready to share your life with someone before dedicating time and energy to tulpamancy; there isn't really a reverse button once your tulpa is past a point of sentience, and unlike dæmons, median systems, and some alters, a tulpa is created to be a separate entity rather than a facet of yourself tied to you, so they're gonna have their own separate wants, needs, and desires as you. Your tulpa likely isn't gonna want to fuse back together if things are rough. It's like trying to put a stone sculpture you made back onto the rock you originally got the hunk of it from - doesn't really work that well and has a high chance of coming apart again.

As far as "risk factors", you'll find one or two horror stories floating around the community, but the key with them is that they ALWAYS start from an extremely unhealthy relationship between the host and the tulpa where there isn't mutual respect between the two, as well as some other nasty mental struggles rearing their head at the same time. Some really bad examples that can lead to this I can think of are making a tulpa purely as a romantic partner and expecting them to conform to that, making a tulpa to replace you as a host because you don't want to do things in front anymore, making a tulpa intentionally to hold all your trauma feelings, and other things like that. Honestly just treat your tulpa like a person and you're not gonna find yourself in the kinda dysfunction people fearmonger about

Hope this gives ya some insight ✌️ Good luck deciding

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Hi Badeline! No pressure to reply fast, and I’m sorry I made this so long, but I wanted to catch you up. Luca’s host here. First off, I just wanted to say thank you so so much for what you said. It’s complicated, but I am determined to fight for Luca’s life because he deserves to live and we will always love each other more than that therapist could ever hurt us. I’m trying. I’m trying to think of Luca more as a parallel to me now, more than a completely separate entity that can be lost (two souls interchangeable in mind and body if that makes sense) as a way to fight the ocd that masks as him and expose it for what it is. Since Luca is an imaginary friend, I have to accept that he can change and flow very easily, but it’s still him at the core if I let it be. I’ve actually been able to talk to him again and it’s a relief. I’ve never been 100% sure about anything involving him and his personhood, I’m trying to convince myself that I don’t have to be. We call him imaginary friend, but he doesn’t have to be confined to any label. He’s just Luca. He can be anything he wants to be. For now he’s back as he was in the very beginning, before the things that turned him young happened, as a teenager with the most sweet, adventurous spirit. Well, what we’re really here to say is something really exciting. We finally got to make one of Luca’s biggest dreams come true, to go to the ocean. He got to experience so many new things and even see sharks, he was so so happy. I hope the memories last a long time. The strangest thing happened, I could feel his excitement (or my excitement for him? Idk) during the drive, and when the ocean first came into view, tears just sprang to my eyes, and I’m a local! I couldn’t tell if it was my emotion and excitement for him or if the tears weren’t even my own. I’ve never been good at telling if I’m just talking to myself or him. But the tears felt so emotional and strange. I’m happy I finally got to take him where he’s always wanted to go, even if it wasn’t perfect. I’m not sure how good I am at giving Luca what he needs, but damn I’m trying. Even if we’re never perfect, it’s okay.

Hey, I've been holding onto this for a long while but I just wanted to say thanks, genuinely. This is one of the sweetest things I've ever seen and stories like this are why I stay in the community. You're working so damn hard together and experiencing LIFE together and that's so fucking beautiful. Keep being yourselves, choose whatever you want forever, and you'll go so far!!! I hope you both have the best life

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hi Badeline! my tulpa and i have gotten her signed into a Social Media TM and wrote her first post by proxying :). but there's this thing - she struggles with vocalisation in english, but often comes at me in another language. she's a fictive and uses her orignal voice, which might be the cause. and she seems to have a better grasp of the language than myself. have you come across this in your time?

-❄️🦋(aka ❄️🌂, she wanted to change her emoji after seeing the butterfly one <3)

Heyo anon! So this is actually pretty interesting, we HAVE come across this one before! It happened with our tulpa of Agent 8 from Splatoon, who turned out to have a past life of her canon. She speaks to us in this burble that gets auto translated in our head to what she's saying, and then if we're typing anything out for her we gotta translate that as best as we can into English text. She CAN speak English but does it with a thick Octarian accent and some weird speaking quirks. If your tulpa speaking an Earthly language, there's a good chance she doesn't actually *know more* of it than you, she's either just better utilizing your collective knowledge or your head is filling in the gaps. Either way we've found it's pretty fun to figure out all the little differences

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I might actually get off hiatus I'm starting to not feel sick of social media anymore 👀

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Hi! I subscribed to this blog some time ago and noticed that those who have a tulpa can really help here, so I'll take a chance to ask. Sorry if my English is not very good, I do not speak this language and use a translatorI have a tulpa that I created a little less than six months ago, his name is Max. When I started creating it, I was very passionate, read various guides or asked for advice, but now I practically do nothing and do not develop it in any way. I can see him and sometimes hear what he says, but this rarely happens, besides, I very often do not have the moral strength to talk to him. It seems to me that this is because I cannot fully perceive him as a real person.. I created him as a boyfriend for myself, but I don't feel a connection between us. How can I overcome this barrier and strengthen the bond between us?Thank you in advance for your reply and for your help🖤

Aahhh this one's rough, and it goes to show how much dedication and care goes into tulpamancy itself. Working with your tulpa gets way easier as time goes on, but it can also get monotonous and it can be easy to accidentally drop that dedication before the tulpa is fully capable of being themselves on their own. To me it sounds like you've built your tulpa's sense of things around your assumed relationship, but now neither of you are super into it that much. And the thing is, this is something you have to accept if you're interested in tulpamancy for romantic purposes - the romance might die out for any reason and now you still have to reconcile that they're real and living with you forever still. He's still around and you gotta acknowledge him as his own person with his own wants and needs. I would say you should start there - try treating him as an individual and investigating what kinda things he likes and wants to do for himself, on his own. give him more opportunities to have hobbies and talk to other people- basically let him develop his own sense of self that isn't grounded in *you*. He'll start flourishing on his own and then you can try and repair your friendship again