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If you're thinking of willingly forming an alter to fulfill a certain role not specifically related to innerworld or internal system maintenance, you should know this: 👇

The influence each alter can exercise on the front doesn't depend exclusively on their will.

What I'm trying to say is...

One of our headmates, Isis (love you btw 🤭) has a very strong personality and is a foodie. Keep in mind that neither she, nor anyone else in our system was willingly created. Recently, I was co-con with her and she would always go grab a snack and eat a lot overall, the whole day, which is great for us. But yesterday she was co-con with someone else in the morning and couldn't get to front (or at least, not exert enough control) to go eat breakfast, or make them go.

Most of us hype her up to take the front whenever she can and help us with eating, but unfortunately her desires can't override our disordered lack of appetite (coupled with fronting with an alter who wanna harm us), so depending on our mood and who's fronting/co-con, she can't just force her way.

I have to admit we don't fight for our food intake as much as we need to and have failed to give Isis the support she needs. We need to help her so she can help us.

Sometimes she can only chime in to say "we should eat something" which unfortunately has never worked for us as motivation even before her forming. 😔

So, if you wanna form an alter to help you study or control fronting, for example, it may take a long time until they can actually do their job when they need to, or they may never be able to as long as your problem is caused by a disorder (and it's not being managed). If you have headmates who try to harm you, expect them trying to sabotage the extra help.

Focus on working on your current system and body before forming anyone else! If you do proceed on alter creation, be very patient and make sure that most, if not all, of the system will help them. I wish you good luck! /gen 😉

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hi! I have a question: I’m interested in tulpamancy but I’m unsure if I’m committed to harbouring another being. I want to try it, just to see what happens and how I feel, but if I do get a tulpa, is there any going back? Is there any way to separate and/or combine you and the tulpa, and if there is, would you consider it ethical? Are there any “risk factors” that have been reported on or studied? thanks!!!

Heyo! So yeah, on most counts doing a kind of "trial" is not gonna work, because tulpamancy requires unlocking a lot of thought pathways that aren't really feasible to close again. The closest you could get without any big risk is puppeting characters and pretending they're responding to you in order to see what it's like - kinda like how roleplayers and daydreamers/neuronarrators do - but the thing is that if you devote too much mental energy into giving that entity the ability to respond, they'll start doing it on their own and you'll have an unintentional tulpa on your hands. All that is to say that you should be absolutely sure you're ready to share your life with someone before dedicating time and energy to tulpamancy; there isn't really a reverse button once your tulpa is past a point of sentience, and unlike dæmons, median systems, and some alters, a tulpa is created to be a separate entity rather than a facet of yourself tied to you, so they're gonna have their own separate wants, needs, and desires as you. Your tulpa likely isn't gonna want to fuse back together if things are rough. It's like trying to put a stone sculpture you made back onto the rock you originally got the hunk of it from - doesn't really work that well and has a high chance of coming apart again.

As far as "risk factors", you'll find one or two horror stories floating around the community, but the key with them is that they ALWAYS start from an extremely unhealthy relationship between the host and the tulpa where there isn't mutual respect between the two, as well as some other nasty mental struggles rearing their head at the same time. Some really bad examples that can lead to this I can think of are making a tulpa purely as a romantic partner and expecting them to conform to that, making a tulpa to replace you as a host because you don't want to do things in front anymore, making a tulpa intentionally to hold all your trauma feelings, and other things like that. Honestly just treat your tulpa like a person and you're not gonna find yourself in the kinda dysfunction people fearmonger about

Hope this gives ya some insight ✌️ Good luck deciding

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Hi Badeline! No pressure to reply fast, and I’m sorry I made this so long, but I wanted to catch you up. Luca’s host here. First off, I just wanted to say thank you so so much for what you said. It’s complicated, but I am determined to fight for Luca’s life because he deserves to live and we will always love each other more than that therapist could ever hurt us. I’m trying. I’m trying to think of Luca more as a parallel to me now, more than a completely separate entity that can be lost (two souls interchangeable in mind and body if that makes sense) as a way to fight the ocd that masks as him and expose it for what it is. Since Luca is an imaginary friend, I have to accept that he can change and flow very easily, but it’s still him at the core if I let it be. I’ve actually been able to talk to him again and it’s a relief. I’ve never been 100% sure about anything involving him and his personhood, I’m trying to convince myself that I don’t have to be. We call him imaginary friend, but he doesn’t have to be confined to any label. He’s just Luca. He can be anything he wants to be. For now he’s back as he was in the very beginning, before the things that turned him young happened, as a teenager with the most sweet, adventurous spirit. Well, what we’re really here to say is something really exciting. We finally got to make one of Luca’s biggest dreams come true, to go to the ocean. He got to experience so many new things and even see sharks, he was so so happy. I hope the memories last a long time. The strangest thing happened, I could feel his excitement (or my excitement for him? Idk) during the drive, and when the ocean first came into view, tears just sprang to my eyes, and I’m a local! I couldn’t tell if it was my emotion and excitement for him or if the tears weren’t even my own. I’ve never been good at telling if I’m just talking to myself or him. But the tears felt so emotional and strange. I’m happy I finally got to take him where he’s always wanted to go, even if it wasn’t perfect. I’m not sure how good I am at giving Luca what he needs, but damn I’m trying. Even if we’re never perfect, it’s okay.

Hey, I've been holding onto this for a long while but I just wanted to say thanks, genuinely. This is one of the sweetest things I've ever seen and stories like this are why I stay in the community. You're working so damn hard together and experiencing LIFE together and that's so fucking beautiful. Keep being yourselves, choose whatever you want forever, and you'll go so far!!! I hope you both have the best life

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hi Badeline! my tulpa and i have gotten her signed into a Social Media TM and wrote her first post by proxying :). but there's this thing - she struggles with vocalisation in english, but often comes at me in another language. she's a fictive and uses her orignal voice, which might be the cause. and she seems to have a better grasp of the language than myself. have you come across this in your time?

-❄️🦋(aka ❄️🌂, she wanted to change her emoji after seeing the butterfly one <3)

Heyo anon! So this is actually pretty interesting, we HAVE come across this one before! It happened with our tulpa of Agent 8 from Splatoon, who turned out to have a past life of her canon. She speaks to us in this burble that gets auto translated in our head to what she's saying, and then if we're typing anything out for her we gotta translate that as best as we can into English text. She CAN speak English but does it with a thick Octarian accent and some weird speaking quirks. If your tulpa speaking an Earthly language, there's a good chance she doesn't actually *know more* of it than you, she's either just better utilizing your collective knowledge or your head is filling in the gaps. Either way we've found it's pretty fun to figure out all the little differences

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I might actually get off hiatus I'm starting to not feel sick of social media anymore 👀

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Hi! I subscribed to this blog some time ago and noticed that those who have a tulpa can really help here, so I'll take a chance to ask. Sorry if my English is not very good, I do not speak this language and use a translatorI have a tulpa that I created a little less than six months ago, his name is Max. When I started creating it, I was very passionate, read various guides or asked for advice, but now I practically do nothing and do not develop it in any way. I can see him and sometimes hear what he says, but this rarely happens, besides, I very often do not have the moral strength to talk to him. It seems to me that this is because I cannot fully perceive him as a real person.. I created him as a boyfriend for myself, but I don't feel a connection between us. How can I overcome this barrier and strengthen the bond between us?Thank you in advance for your reply and for your help🖤

Aahhh this one's rough, and it goes to show how much dedication and care goes into tulpamancy itself. Working with your tulpa gets way easier as time goes on, but it can also get monotonous and it can be easy to accidentally drop that dedication before the tulpa is fully capable of being themselves on their own. To me it sounds like you've built your tulpa's sense of things around your assumed relationship, but now neither of you are super into it that much. And the thing is, this is something you have to accept if you're interested in tulpamancy for romantic purposes - the romance might die out for any reason and now you still have to reconcile that they're real and living with you forever still. He's still around and you gotta acknowledge him as his own person with his own wants and needs. I would say you should start there - try treating him as an individual and investigating what kinda things he likes and wants to do for himself, on his own. give him more opportunities to have hobbies and talk to other people- basically let him develop his own sense of self that isn't grounded in *you*. He'll start flourishing on his own and then you can try and repair your friendship again

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Hey, I'm interested in pursuing tulpamancy but I also experience...intrusive thoughts I suppose you could call them? about saying cruel things to others or hurting things I visualize in my head (e.g. throwing something). I don't or try not to act on these impulses but I'm worried it'd be easier for me to do something within my own head versus out in meatspace, where there's the extra step of needing to move my body. I wouldn't want to hurt a tulpa if I created them. Do you have any insight on this, if it's even something I should worry about or ways to handle it if I do make a tulpa? Thank you <3

Heyo! So our intrusive thoughts aren't violent so we're not 100% certain on this advice, but moving around and doing things in headspace still takes practice, and there's still a noticeable difference between ur random thoughts and what you actually do in headspace. Your tulpa will probably be able to hear your intrusive thoughts, but that's just part of tulpamancy honestly. You'll know everything about each other internally, and they'll learn pretty early on how to differentiate between your stray thoughts and things you actually mean to do. I wouldn't worry too much about what you're talking about here, your tulpa is in the same brain as you and will learn how intrusive thoughts are different than what u wanna act on just like you have.

Though, there're a lotta tulpamancy guides that'll instruct you to assign random thoughts as "not yours" and to the tulpa instead to build a base - be careful if you do this not to attribute ur intrusive thoughts to the tulpa, because it can get caught up in their identity if the association is strong enough. That's the biggest thing I can see wanting to watch out for

hope this helps ✌️

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Death by a thousand clones, unless you behave. Don't be a transphobe!

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Person who wants to do stuff trapped in a body that needs to lie down

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Hello! I sent in an ask a bit ago—this is not meant to pressure you to answer at all, I understand you're burnt out right now so please take as much time as you need. Another question popped into my mind in the interim and I just wanted to ask if you'd prefer no questions while you're taking a break or if you're all right with those being sent in? Regardless, I hope everything goes well for you and your system.

Hey! so yeah feel free to still send asks and shit, we just really need to focus on IRL crap rn before I can swing back into this. I'm sitting on these asks cuz I wanna give em the answers they deserve! Unfortunately we have a slew of physical & mental disability plus dissociation out the shitter so that takes a while sometimes. aka it aint you and don't worry about being annoying - I just run this blog in my free time, not as a full time thing, so I get to asks whenever I have the extra energy and not routinely like other blogs do. thx for getting it ✌️

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THE ENERGY HERE IS FUCKING UNREAL 🥳🥳🤯🥳🤯🥳🥳🤯🥳🏳️‍🌈🥳🤯

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disregard the previous ask about dissipation. I read your sources! I think I’ll try it, as I personally see it as a way to communicate with myself. Any tulpa I create would understand, as (imo) they are an extension of myself. Ty for those sources!!!!

No prob, and good luck! Make sure to let your tulpa choose how THEY wanna percieve themselves when they get autonomous enough. If they don't feel like that when they start feeling themselves out then you GOTTA respect that.

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Bit of an odd question, do you know if it's ever a concern for a tulpa's host to go dormant if they were a singlet before tulpamancy?

Yo! Not an odd question, but something you don't needa worry about. A tulpa host going dormant means there's MUCH more shit going on than just the tulpa-host relationship. Uuuusually dissociative trauma responses. Basically don't treat your tulpa like a new host to replace you and you'll be fine