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How you connect with others: 7th house and 8th house

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When talking about the 8th house in regards to relationships, the first thing that we think of is sex, however the 8th house rules sex because it is all about any type of deeper intimacy in any committed connection. Our 7th house tells us how we relate to others and what type of connections we like to establish with others but the 8th house can tell more about what you need in order to nurture and establish a deeper connection with someone. Of course many other things in the chart are very telling of how you connect with others such as Moon or Venus, but in this post I'll focus on the the 8th house which is all about going past that one-on-one interaction (7th house) to really let the other person in, which is why you may or may not be comfortable with your 8th house energy. This house is very telling of the type of energy you need in order to build trust and strong binding and also how you behave with the people you trust

*Please note:

If you're using placidus and you find that you're in situation where for example you're a water ASC but your 8th house is ruled by water and not air just pay attention to the 7th house description of water asc and the 8th description of fire asc and so on. If your 7th and 8th house are ruled by the same sign for example Virgo, these descriptions still apply cause the following sign (Libra) will still occupy some of the 8th house but you could also relate to the earth 8th house description of air risings

Planets and the rest of the chart will give more nuance and layers to these energies

Earth risings really want to get to know someone on a really deep level due to water DSC. They don't necessarily overshare (they very much can), but they are the ones who can get through to others, they're the type to want to make small talk vulnerable or deep right away and you will notice this with how easy it is for them to get through to others. They are very good listeners and can easily make people feel loved and appreciated even through a casual interaction. They do this because they want to know who someone is deep down so when intimacy comes they feel free enough to show their wilder, adventurous or even childish side without being judged since they have fire 8th house. They want to be pampered back and feel a little "selfish" and free and dominate the situation or their partner doing so. I like to think of it as they charm people in (water 7th house) so they can be adored (fire 8th house) but not in a malicious way of course. The type of dynamic they seek with people they trust always involves playfulness, spontaneity and will definitely be out the door if you judge their personality or ego in some way. If they don't trust you they will be able to stir you up emotionally without showing you their real personality which can result in them leading people on a lot. This does not mean they are fake but since they are earth risings, they are used to keeping it together all the time so they want to be able to let loose during intimacy. They are attracted to people who they find a little daring cause they are looking for someone who takes out their feisty side.

Virgo risings (Pisces 7th house, Aries 8th house) -> their way of making deeper connections is actually very child-like due to the dreaminess mixed with impulsiveness. They can get infatuated quite easily and want a partner that keeps them on their toes always longing. They commit passionately and blindly

Capricorn risings (Cancer 7th house, Leo 8th house) -> they want to feel cared for and pampered so admiration is a big factor here for what makes these natives want to connect more deeply. They are very attentive people and want a partner that respects them and always takes them into account

Taurus risings (Scorpio 7th house, Sagittarius 8th house) -> these people want to go all in in their connections in every aspect, no bs kinda vibe, specially when it comes to intimacy they want to be able to just go wild with their partner, explore the good and the ugly and simply have fun doing so

Fire risings prefer people who give them light-hearted and fun conversations which they genuinely find entertaining and interesting and they’re more open to interacting with all sorts of people due to air DSC. They are easily swayed by other's mind or surface-level charm, but they want to get to know the actual deeper personality of others, so these natives are actually more sentimental than what they may actually look in a casual interaction. Once they've been charmed by someone mentally, when it comes to intimacy they want to feel comfortable enough to show their deeper self and to know each other deeper due to water ruling 8th house. They're the type to want a relationship where you can talk about gossip and their trauma just as comfortably, but they won't trust someone they can only have surface level conversations with or someone who is inconsiderate with their emotional expression or disregards their deeper views of things. As fire risings, they are used to coming across as tough and confident but when it comes to intimacy they need to feel like there's always an open door for vulnerability and softness if they need it. If they don't trust you emotionally, they'll just enjoy having a casual mentally stimulating conversation and then move on, so it's easy for them to come across as charming to many people. They want a connection that has a fun and light-hearted dynamic but with a strong emotional bond underneath it all. These natives are the type to fall for charming and intelligent individuals that are 'softies' on the inside

Sagittarius risings (Gemini 7th house, Cancer 8th house) -> with this mix they definitely will get intimate with someone who says just the right things and verbally comforts them. They want a relationship where they can keep things youthful and emotionally soft with not much turmoil

Aries risings (Libra 7th house, Scorpio 8th house) -> these peeps are the epitome of charming, they want to connect with people that they relate to in some way but will accept and embrace their dark side and secrets, their way of making deep connections is by taking the person into their inner cave with them

Leo risings (Aquarius 7th house, Pisces 8th house) -> these natives have a habit of getting in problematic relationships and romanticizing them for it. They fall for unconventional or chaotic people and then have this "they don't understand that I see past that and I love you for your soul" sort of intimacy

Air risings tend to surround themselves with people that provide them with brand new experiences, people who are entertaining, fun and independent due to their fire DSC. They always want to do new things with the people they like and come in contact with and they also like people who are 'their own person'. These natives are often very blunt and outspoken actually and it's not uncommon for them to be seen as rude, bold or nonchalant sometimes, but as much as they enjoy interacting with stimulating and bold people, when it comes to intimacy and a deeper connection they desire stability and reliability due to earth ruling their 8th house. Basically they won't commit to and specially won't trust someone who is fun but lacks consistency and dependability. Deep down they themselves are very reliable, but they reserve that side of themselves for the people they love and trust, therefore they will commit to a partner that will reciprocate this type of energy. They are very fun people to be around and they're usually rather popular, but once they trust you they will show a more serious and respectful side to them. They will want to connect with people who are independent and stimulating but deep down is chill, low-key and reliable underneath it all. When it comes to deep intimacy they will feel like it's safe to trust someone who shows patience and consistency even if it's not too emotional or fiery. Being air risings, they're very mental normally, so they will like to commit and give themselves to someone that grounds them

Libra risings (Aries 7th house, Taurus 8th house) -> they like spontaneity and indulgence. They are drawn to people who they find immediately attractive and catches their eye, but they like to connect deeply with someone by sharing strong sensuality and calmness that goes beyond a first-time thrill

Aquarius risings (Leo 7th house, Virgo 8th house) -> they love to connect with people who have golden retriever vibe to them and is very loyal and helpful. They will connect deeply with someone by lighting up their day with lots of fun and laughter but also by casually being always there if they need anything

Gemini risings (Sagittarius 7th house, Capricorn 8th house) -> these people love connecting with individuals that bring expansion into their life and will connect deeply with others by giving them some authority. If these people trust you, they will secretly take what you say very seriously

Water risings are quite charming, but they're the type to draw people in while keeping a respectful distance with them. They don't mind being approached but they definitely don't like when people get too close too soon cause they like the process of building a connection. They usually come across as a little serious and stiff when interacting with others and it's not rare for them to keep their social circle small or always interact with the exact same people. This is because they take relationships seriously and like consistency and predictability in their connections and interactions, but when intimacy comes they want to trust someone enough to freely detach due to air ruling the 8th house. They won't commit to someone who is reliable but boring and uninteresting. Being water risings, they are constantly very perceptive of the energies around them, so when it comes to intimacy they will feel very good with someone who they can just take it easy and have a more light-hearted energy. Ironically, these are the most distant and detached risings when it comes to connections and intimacy, but this does not mean they don't love deeply. In fact, this "let's just say, do and talk about whatever, it doesn't matter" side is one they reserve for people who they really trust, that's why they can be dry towards other people who they don't find interesting. These natives usually fall for people who they have to "figure out" in some way sort of like "oh you're reliable and consistant (earth dsc) but I can tell (water asc) that there's more to you and I wanna know more (air 8th house)"

Scorpio risings (Taurus 7th house, Gemini 8th house) -> they definitely want physical attraction paired with some mental thrill so it's common for them to fall for players or be players themselves. They will connect deeply with someone who they can share physical and mental chemistry all in one

Pisces risings (Virgo 7th house, Libra 8th house) -> these natives are naturally very helpful and thoughtful, but they know how to keep to themselves and not give too much. That's why when they connect deeply with someone they're the type to want to share every single with the other person

Cancer risings (Capricorn 7th house, Aquarius 8th house) -> with this double Saturn influence, these natives are the most serious and selective about all their connections, they will feel very connected to someone that gives them a traditional commitment while also opening their minds to new and odd things

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house polarities

1st and the 7th: issues of self and the other

2nd and the 8th: issues of grounding and emptying

3rd and the 9th: issues of integrating ordinary reality and connecting with spiritual realms

4th and the 10th: issue of inner knowing and outer power

5th and the 11th: issues of selfish desires and giving away

6th and the 12th: issues of being in the moment and letting go into divine fusion

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"Damn you're a Scorpio/Scorpio Rising? You're so sexy and magnetizing I would let you ruin my life!"

Aside of this glamorization and idealization of these placements, let's really talk about the reality of this placement. To have Pluto/Scorpio in your 1st house or placements, it genuinely feels like you carry the title "Angel of Death", people noticing it subconsciously wherever you go, and having to deal with people constantly running away, misunderstanding, and being terrified of having you around in their lives, in fear that your existence will inflict change and transformation that they are not prepared to face in their lives.

It doesn't help that we've been forced to battle life since the beginning of time ourselves. The scars and the darkness that came, the deaths of all of our past entities, it's something that overtime we learn to carry almost proudly with our presence, because in this darkness we found our truth and inherited a forbidden wisdom that only the bravest of souls could ever acquire. But people can sense this, making it harder for us to not elicit curiosity and terror whenever we walk into a room, making it harder for us to find people who are really accepting of who we are and make real connections and friendships with others.

Yes, we're magnetizing because we thrive in the shadows, and we understand that this knowledge can only be understood by those who are open and can hold space and alchemize it into a great source of enlightenment and light. The facade of people we encounter on a daily basis makes this process much more slower and more exhausting to deal with. We are in constant search of the truth within ourselves and the people we meet, but not everyone feels the same. Not everyone wants to face their darkness or see themselves in the mirror we so bluntly provide.

Society wants to fantasize and fuck the girl who embodies the perfect idea of the Femme Fatale, but reproaches her when she stings them with the truth of their hypocrisy and isn't afraid to make people pay for their ignorance and sadistic behavior. It is better to live in the bliss of our ideal pipe dream than having someone around reflecting back to us the aspects of ourselves we spend our entire lives running away from.

To be a Scorpio/ have a prominent Scorpio placement is not for the weak.

It's a heavy burden to carry for the person who has these placements, and incredibly misunderstood by others, and nobody really takes the time to truly get to know how incredibly beneficial and amazing it is to have someone around you igniting the changes you've been neglecting on making throughout your life, and as you can see I am genuinely getting tired of this shit.

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visible emotions ::

leo moon, leo mars, moon harshly aspecting sun :: the emotions are theatrical tragedies or grand celebrations, melodramatic emotions, emotional about love, children and happiness. emotions bright and warm like the sun, equally blinding and burning. self-victimization rooted from fear of abandonment. pain received by others taken to heart and feel like direct punctures to the ego.

jupiter contacting the moon or mars, sagittarius moon or mars :: big jupiter tears and thunder laughs, inflates and magnifies emotional experiences, easily forgiving and likewise easily angered, can begin as tears of joy that hyper-activate all emotional response and end with tears of anger, sadness, hopelessness, frustration etc. fluctuating optimism and pessimism, big and loud emotions.

mars in the 1st, aries moon, aries mars, mars contacting moon:: instinctive and immediate reactions, alertly sensitive to the given environment; easily prompted to react explosively. combativeness and aggression rooted from feeling misunderstood by others. “lone warrior” fights battles even when there are no battles to be fought. feels threatened and alone which expresses outwardly as frustration, irritability and aggressive episodes.

moon in the 1st, moon in the 4th, cancer placements :: directly governed by emotions, especially 1st decanate cancer. teary and glassy eyed by nature, neediness of the abandoned child or needless mother, shift and drift of the emotions; moody, melancholic, wistful and sentimental temperament ..especially cancer placed on the ascendant

pisces placements, moon-neptune aspects, strong 12th house :: universal empathy and hypersensitive to the vibrations of others, emotionally psychic, teary about criticism and “meanness,” sorrowful temperament, identification and relating with the Victim, emotionally confused, teary episodes trigger pains of the past. unexplained emotional pains from past lives

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Saturday, November 27, 2021 Good morning! Today’s focus is Compassion, Integrity, Wise and Balanced Energy Tarot of the Day: King of Fishes /Cups

The King of Cups is a compassionate, warm, and gentle voice of reason. He is the worldly and calm projection of authority and resonates with the balance of ‘male’ and ‘female’ energy. He is the embodiment of loving benevolence, gifted intuition, and infinite spiritual knowledge.

He is most likely a reference to someone who will aid you, today, in achieving or furthering your goals. Possibly an older person with medium to light or silver hair. Seek and consider their advice. If he represents you, he speaks to a need to tap into your inner strength and let the lessons of the past, not the issues, be your guide.

💚 If work is your concern, know that your co-workers respect you more than you may think. If you are feeling the need for advice on a project or in advancing in your work, seek the advice of the male authority energy that you respect. They will surely be in your corner. 💚 If money has you preoccupied, force yourself to look at the realities of your situation - you may find you have more flexibility than you think. If you need help, don’t be afraid to seek it out.

💙 Whether you are in a relationship or looking for one, few cards are more loving than the King of Cups. He heralds warm, compassionate, and satisfying pairings so, enjoy that surge of affection and spend it well.

🧡 Overall, this King foretells an element of pure and true love in your life. Nurture yourself, and allow others to nurture you. Know that you are supported by the Universe in ways seen, and unseen. Go, Do, BE…and feel the love. Gus an ath thuras (Until next time), Lovelies Peace out

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Saturn as what you don’t accept in yourself and you don’t want to face

painting by; Edvard Munch.

Saturn in the 1st house: your self-image, which generates little reflection about yourself and also creates problems to develop a positive identity and sense of self.

Saturn in the 2nd house: having to deal with financial problems. possessions and material things and the lack of them during life. take a long time to achieve a great financial life.

Saturn in the 3rd house: your way of communicating and thinking, fears of speaking and expressing yourself, believing that you bother people, social phobia, extreme shyness, thinking too much before communicating and rethinking “what did I say? did I do it right?” all the time.

Saturn in the 4th house: problems with family and lack of emotional nutrition / problems with maternal figure. feel that you should close and not receive any ‘emotional nutrients’ at all. too much emotional rigidity with yourself.

Saturn in the 5th house: you don’t face your creativity, which generates a fear of expressing yourself artfully, prevents you from living love and prevents you from letting your creativity and capacity for expression shine through your being.

Saturn in the 6th house: you can’t face your health problems, can be very obsessed with working and at the same time have problems with matters in this area (routine, organization).

Saturn in the 7th house: you dont accept to relate, to think of the other as a partner / colleague, while being different from you. which creates problems in relationships.

Saturn in the 8th house: you cant face your most sexual side and your powers of self-healing, transformation and breaking taboos. you have sexual blocks and problems accessing your unconscious and from there having contact with yourself.

Saturn in the 9th house: you don’t want to face your ability to learn, which creates a difficulty with studies and with feeling intelligent and capable (which comes from self-criticism and not believing in your potential). you have a hard time accepting other philosophies of life than the traditional ones.

Saturn in the 10th house: you don’t want to face the limitations to achieve your intended career, your public image, obstacles to achieving social prestige and professional success.

Saturn in the 11th house: you don’t easily accept the feeling of being different from others, you don’t cope well with the limitation of being recognized when working / speaking by groups, parts of society, you don’t face your problem with friendships.

Saturn in the 12th house: you don’t face mystical and unconscious issues, which creates problems in accessing your internal and allowing your emotions to flow. this creates a limitation with everything that is emotionally and mind-related. desire for solitude.

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astrology notes: mars (pt. 1)

mars in aries

at home in its own sign, you’re very sure about its desires. passions burn brightly, and you know exactly who and what you want. being cardinal, mars in aries likes to take the initiative, and does tend to rush at people in a way that can be quite intimidating to those who like to make decisions more slowly. the person with mars in Aries is excited by the pursuit, however, so rejections and evasions only serve to fuel the fire. finding it hard to admit defeat, they cannot believe that they won’t get what they want, and will see the slightest ambiguity as grounds for optimism. the mars in aries does have a tendency to enjoy the chase more than the end result, so that they often lose interest in people once they have have them. they are then likely to run away just as fast as they were pursuing before :/ someone who wants to retain the interest of this person will need to remain always a little elusive. 

people with mars in aries feel energized by sexual desire - even if it is not fulfilled, it will make them feel more vital and alive. very intuitive and trusting to instinct and gut reactions, they know exactly what is right for them, and will not compromise. they either desire people or not, the second they meet them: there is no uncertainty or doubt with them. the person with this mars often appears much more confident than they feel, and may tend to look for an identity through their lovers, and try to prove themselves through sex. these people may go to great lengths to prove how independent they are, when they are really trying to define themselves through action. sex, therefore, to these people can assume huge symbolic significance; and they may invest the object of their desire with almost mystical status. they are searching for a hero to fire and inspire them, to help them discover the hero within. to this end, they may have to go on a long and lonely journey, facing many difficulties and rejections before they become the truly independent individual they need to be. life holds many hard lessons for people with mars in aries. they step into each new sexual involvement with careless impulsiveness, naively believing that this one will be much easier than the last, and forgetting that aries must pit itself against adversity in order to develop strength and self-reliance. 

these people are attracted to sharply defined individuals of strong character. they enjoy a certain amount of combativeness and competition with their sexual partners, and are often quite sharp and argumentative with those they find attractive. sexual desire strirs up anger for them; and they often feel safer expressing anger to lovers than to anyone else. it is important to them that the other person is strong enough to handle this, and can give as good as they get. there is a need for the lover to be of equal strength, and they will feel irritated by someone who gives in to them all the time, and will soon lose interest in such a person. they cannot be pushed into things themselves, and tend to despise those who can. although they may be critical of their lovers themselves, they will fight ferociously to defend them against anyone else who dares to attack their loved ones. 

honest, open and direct, mars in aries likes to let their potential lovers know exactly how they feel. it’s important to them  that things are straight-forward and that there is no confusion. they in turn like to know exactly where they stand, and cannot bear any form of deception. they have romantic ideals about sex, and need to be true to themselves, so that the pretence involved in having sex with someone that they do not really want or when they do not want it can be very disturbing to them. mars in aries is not really looking for physical sensation, but rather for some kind of spiritual fulfillment through sex. these people seek spiritually unity, a fusing and oneness with their lover which transcends the physical act. through it, they hope to experience a moment of bliss in which they have abandoned separateness and become one with their lover.

mars in taurus

someone with this placement will have a good connection to their instinctual, physical needs. this will be a strong, no-nonsense person with a matter of fact attitude towards sex; someone who gets enormous enjoyment from their sexual relationships, and with wide tastes. these people could be into sex for its own sake, as pure physical pleasure, with no trimmings. they are comfortable with their own bodies and physical desires. more gentle types could find them too careless and direct.

with mars in any of the earth signs, there is the propensity to split love and sex; but someone with mars in taurus is most prone to this, simply because their desire nature is so strong. these are not people who can easily be celibate, so if there is no-one in their lives who really matters to them, they are still going to look for sexual partners. they may have a pragmatic view of these liaisons, unaware of their own double standards, as when they are deeply involved with someone on a feeling level their values change dramatically. 

taurus is arguably the most possessive sign of the zodiac, and someone with mars in it may claim total ownership rights over their sexual partner. this differs from the emotional possessiveness of someone with mars in scorpio, as with taurus the partner becomes a prized object (trophy wife) in which they invest a part of themselves. infidelity is so completely threatening to these people that it is intolerable (though they may be cheaters themselves lol). they will value their partners highly, treat them as a possession, as an extension of themselves, and expect and demand absolute faithfulness. to say that they are jealous and possessive of loved ones is an understatement.

this is a very primitive mars placement; we are dealing with a neolithic person here. we’re in 2020 and the rest of the world developed more liberated attitudes to relationships, but they’re not easily filtered through to a mars in taurus person. this is someone who has traditional expectations and is likely to want to play a traditional role in relationships. they will build a relationship slowly, not one to rush into things, and will take their time to get to know a prospective partner. a sexual involvement does not necessarily mean  to them that a relationship is underway. they will evaluate a potential relationship in a pragmatic way. once involved, they are loyal and reliable, and are not afraid of making a commitment. they are at their best when in a secure relationship.

mars in gemini

gemini is the most restless of all the air signs; and people with mars here can barely remain still for a minute. they are constantly on the go, moving from place to place and person to person. finding it hard to survive for long without talking, if they cannot actually be with people they will want to be on the phone.they’re likely social media addicted and will find it really hard to concentrate their desire on one person, as sex to them may simply be a way into a friendship. in this way, these people are frequently starting new sexual relationships only to cool off almost immediately. this tends to make their relationships very complicated, when they want to continue on a friendship-only/friends w benefits basis, but the other person sees it as a sexual partnership. no one is more evasive than the mars in gemini person; and it is almost impossible to pin them down. their desires change from moment to moment, which makes it very difficult for them to commit themselves to any one person. because sex and companionship are so closely linked for them, being sexually faithful feels like only being allowed to talk to one person - a fate they find it hard to contemplate. besides, their attitude to sex tends to be rather lighthearted and playful, and so they cannot understand why others should get so heavy and possessive about it.

they are attracted to lively, exciting people who are fun to be with, and often  younger people. mars in gemini people are not very interested in physical beauty, but are excited by a lively mind and sharp sense of humour. they may get very argumentative when they are attracted to someone, and will enjoy it if the person responds in kind. i noticed they’re turned on by arguing, as if it’s a form of courtship to them, and like to chat and joke through sex itself. 

as gemini is intensely curious, they’re likely to wonder exactly what sex would be like with each person they meet, and to get a great deal of pleasure from speculating on this or just talking about sex. these people are tremendous flirts, as for them flirting can be a kind of verbal intercourse which is an end in itself. this can be very confusing to who they talk to, for they may believe that they’re being offered something that just isn’t there and has no way of knowing that what they’re taking part in is not a prelude to sex but an alternative to it. crazy. the duality of gemini also means that there is a side of these people that wants much more than this casual, superficial pleasure which leaves them feeling deeply dissatisfied. deep inside, there is a part of them that craves profound and meaningful connections; and sex for them can be a form of communication that goes much deeper than words. for mars in gemini people, it’s essential that their sexual partner is also a friend who will listen to them and talk to them. in order for them to feel truly desired, they have to be wanted as a person and a friend rather than just for sex.

mars in cancer

someone with this mars is going to move cautiously wherever failure and rejection are a possibility. like the crab, these people will never approach their objective head-on. they will act carefully and pay attention to what kind of response they’re eliciting. in relationships, they will not want to risk rejection, and will often not make a move unless sure of being accepted. these people will use their sensitivity to the non-verbal signals to judge how safe it is before risking a refusal. however, cancer is a cardinal sign, so despite their self-protectiveness they can and will initiate. when they feel emotionally secure, either because the external situation is non threatening or from an inner security established within themselves, they can act passionately and powerfully. 

this is a sexually passionate placement with deep and intense needs for emotional safety within a relationship. people with mars in cancer are particularly likely to want sexual contact to reassure them that they are wanted, although this need to be wanted extends beyond the sexual and will permeate their whole life. they may try to make themselves indispenable to others so that they will never be abandoned. in sexual relationships, they need to feel they belong, to feel protected and secure, and will in turn offer a sense of protection and containment to their partner. 

mars in cancer will often mother their partner and want mothering themselves. they enjoy taking care of others, both physically and emotionally. they are likely to be gentle, kindly and sympathetic. they will recognize and value the deeper exchanges of a sexual union and the bonds that exist on a feeling level. these people are likely to be possessive and to expect their partner to be completely faithful, though they will not necessarily apply this same standard to themselves. however, they will remain faithful if their infidelity threatens their security or violates their feeling of belonging to someone else. 

mars in leo

you desires with passionate intensity; and, like mars in aries, tends to attribute mythical qualities to those you want. you people are looking for someone larger than life, whom you can truly admire; and because of this you tend to expect a great deal from their lovers. mars in leos are prone to serial monogamy, falling passionately in love with someone who seems to embody all the qualities they want. during this phase, they will see the lover as perfect, and will be arresting in their praise. they will devote all their energy and attention to pleasing this person until the imperfections begin to appear. then they begin to feel angry and cheated as though the lover has deliberately set out to deceive them and let them down. the tendency then is to be very critical and see only the bad whereas before they had seen only the good. 

people with mars in leo like to dramatize, so they will tend to draw a lot of people in to sympathize with their disappointment. they are proud and unyielding, so this pattern tends to be repeated many times before they are able to stop blaming others and see how fixed and unrealistic expectations bring about their own disappointment. for them, sex is generally one of life’s pleasures. they give a great deal of attention to setting the scene and creating the right atmosphere. their bedroom will be the most important room in the home, and will likely be beautifully decorated in rich, romantic colours. 

sex is an important performance to them; and they like everything to be exactly right. it’s like staging the first night of a play; and great care is taken to ensure success. they know exactly what pleases people and enjoy giving pleasure, always bearing in mind that sex should be entertaining. they are generous with compliments and attention, and are able to make their partner feel really prized. because their self-esteem is bound up with sex, mars in leo people can be very sensitive to criticism and rejection. there is a strong tendency to feel that they have to put on a great performance in order to prove that they are better lovers than anyone else; and this can rob them of some of their natural spontaneity. when they trust their instincts, they have an intuitive knowledge of what is pleasurable; and this, together with their warmth and enthusiasm, can make them great lovers. 

people with mars in leo are attracted to success. they tend to look to their sexual partners to confirm their identity and enhance their status, so that achievement, wealth and fame are all things that turn them on. they like the good life and enjoy luxury, so someone who can offer these things is likely to seem very attractive to them; and they also get great pleasure from sharing their own good fortune. they have a great capacity for enjoying life. these people’s pleasures are very important to them, so it is vital to them that their lovers have a sense of fun and are able to share these pleasures with them. they will quickly lose interest in someone who lacks a strong appetite for life/with a negative mindset. 

mars in leo people can be very arrogant and high-handed at times. their belief that they are a law unto themselves can create a lot of conflict, drama and heartbreak in their relationships. they find it difficult to back down once they have taken a stand, and they may rather end a relationship rather than admit they are wrong. touchy and easily hurt, they feel humiliated by rejection, and tend to need constant reassurance of their desirability. neing belittled or made fun of feels like death to the them; and anyone who does this will kill off any desire immediately. in order for a relationship to flourish, this person needs to feel appreciated and respected; and their partner must be attentive and generous with praise and encouragement. if these things are not forthcoming, the mars in leo will feel unwanted and turned off. to them, sex is life-giving and vital to their sense of identity. these people are seeking to discover their own uniqueness through it, and so put themselves wholeheartedly into it. it’s a creative act for them; and they need to feel proud of what they do. they are highly principled where sex is concerned, regarding faithfulness and loyalty as essential to a successful relationship. 

mars in virgo

someone with this mars will be moderate and self-contained. they will have the sensual sensitivity that all the earth signs possess, but they will be reserved in expressing it. sex does not matter much to them. unlike mars in taurus, they have no desire in the abstract so they are quite capable of long periods of celibacy if there is no-one around that interests them. when in a new relationship, however, they will initially be very sexually active, trying to make up for previous abstinence. 

while someone with mars in virgo still takes sensual pleasure in their body for its own sake and very into masturbation, this is tempered by a practical, matter-of-fact attitude to physical needs and desires. this is not someone who is easily drawn into the excesses of a mars in taurus; mars in virgo is far more circumspect and health-conscious. someone with mars in virgo will have considerable caution in getting involved in a relationship. they do not want to make a mistake, and will select a partner with care. in choosing, they seek to fulfil quite particular criteria. in extreme cases, a prospective partner may feel like a job applicant being measured against a detailed set of requirements to see if they’re is suitable for the position. virgo has a reputation for being choosy, fussy and critical; and for someone with mars here, they can bring all of this to bear in their approach to a sexual partner. 

virgo is a very analytical sign, and mars in virgo can be analytical to an extreme. at their worst, these people will lose track of the inherent meaning in a situation, in trying to unravel and understand the detail. they can analyse a situation to death. more positively, they will always be prepared to talk about things and to try to undersatnd themselves and their partner. mars in virgos may want a partner who is useful, perhaps someone who helps out with practical or technical problems; and they may offer this to those they are involved with. joint ventures and activities will be an important part of their relationships. 

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Chiron is now retrograde. Chiron is the pain we can feel even when we heal the wound, we have strong awareness in regards to the wound, we can call it painful awareness. We recognize this pain in others easily. We become wise and aware in that area of life.

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hot take: aquarius is less “unique/quirky” and more stubborn/intellectual. aquarius doesn’t do things people see as weird for the sake of being weird, so it is a bit of unclear language to say that weird and strange and unpredictable are core traits of the sign. rather, aquarius is more likely to latch onto intellectual/abstract thoughts and execute them regardless of practicality or norms. it may look strange, but the strangeness is not often a part of aquarius’ mental calculus. it’s just a byproduct of living a life that prioritizes ethics, curiosity and freedom of thought, and a refusal to be moved from their ideals

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November 2021 Astrology

An overview of the most important astrological happenings this November!✨ If you want me to talk about some of them in detail, definitely let me know!

Nov 1st ✧ Mercury trine Jupiter

Nov 2nd ✧ Mercury square Pluto

Nov 4th ✧ New Moon in Scorpio, Sun opposite Uranus

Nov 10th ✧ Mercury conjunct Mars, Mercury square Saturn, Mars square Saturn

Nov 12th ✧ Sun trine Neptune

Nov 13th ✧ Mercury opposite Uranus

Nov 15th ✧ Sun square Jupiter

Nov 16th ✧ Sun sextile Pluto

Nov 17th ✧ Mars opposite Uranus

Nov 19th ✧ Lunar Eclipse in Taurus, Venus trine Uranus

Nov 22nd ✧ Sagittarius Season

Nov 29th ✧ Mars trine Neptune

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dont care, plus i’m an earth sign

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what is it to have a capricorn moon?

This energy

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Mars in Scorpio Transit

✨ 30th October - 12th December 2021

Mars just entered Scorpio a few days ago. Scorpio is an amazing sign for Mars to be in, as it is its traditional planetary ruler. This means that Mars can show his best qualities at a full strength.

Scorpio Mars Transit gives us the necessary drive and determination to achieve our goals. Don't be surprised if you suddenly find yourself having extra motivation and energy to finish a project or work on your fitness goals.

Other areas that will be impacted during this transit are our spiritual senses, sexuality and finances, which come from other people. The affects are mostly positive, but it really depends on your personal chart, to see how exactly you are going to feel it.

✨ How to use this transit:

Use the powerful energy to take real action towards your goals

Cut off anything and anyone that is holding you back

Work on your spiritual side

Dive deep into finding what your soul craves

Don't be shy to express your sexuality, desires and emotions

Emprace rebirth and transformation

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the signs as famous whores, courtesans and madams, part deux

Aries: Veronica Franco 

She was a fierce and intelligent whore who was tried as a witch. She was an author who wrote incendiary and scandalous poetry, embodied in writing a duality, toggling between and addressing both private and public life matters. She also was, arguably, one of the first documented feminists. Whatever her claims to fame, Veronica Franco was and remains the most famous cortigiana onesta (honoured courtesan) of the Italian Renaissance. Born in Venice in 1546, the daughter of Paola Fracassa, a courtesan  herself, she is remembered as a beautiful and highly educated woman, a  fine poet with a strong character.   Franco was the only daughter among the family’s three sons.  In her erly teens, Franco was married off to a doctor in the early 1560s, the marriage  dissolved shortly afterward after she cheated on him, and the courtesan was free to socialize with  the city’s elite. In 1575, she published a volume of her own poetry, the Terze rime. There are 25 poems, but only 17 are by Franco. Her poems represent and transform  her life as a courtesan. The poems advertise these accomplishments and raise her above less educated women selling sex. She was known for being direct, always addressing her poems to a specific man from whom she requested a response. Franco is also openly erotic, even sexually explicit. From her  first poem, she celebrated her sexual expertise as a courtesan and  promised to satisfy her interlocutor’s desires. Her frankness of speech  and the specific situations she dramatizes also challenge the idealizing clichés of  the love poetry that was popular at the time. As an honoured courtesan she lived quite splendidly; she played music (the lute and the spinet), was well versed in the literature of ancient Greece and Rome as well as of the present, and mingled with thinkers, artists, politicians and poets. Franco even corresponded with King Henry III of France and spent 10 days with him. Franco had a higher status than most courtesans, but she wasn’t above being brought down. In fact, all it took for Franco’s fragile status to crumble was an anonymous accusation of witchcraft in 1580. Franco was consequently hauled before  the Venetian Holy Inquisition, a tribunal created by the Venetian government and the Catholic Church to sniff out heresy, and forced to defend herself against a panel that was ready to see her executed. The trial lasted for two days, in which she bravely stood her ground and defended her innocence. Eventually, Franco was acquitted of all charges (there is evidence that her connections among the Venetian nobility helped in her acquittal). But this began a downward spiral as her reputation was irreparably  damaged. She was also severely impoverished by the plague years of 1575-77 in which she lost many of her valuable possessions through  theft, and her faithful patron and friend of many years, Domenico Venier, died in 1582. Her tax declaration of 1582 stated that she was  living in a section of the city where many destitute prostitutes ended  their lives. She died in relative obscurity at the age of 45 in 1591.

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The placement of the sun indicates the way in which one can get nearest  to that sense of being a vessel for something. When looking at the house and sign of the sun, that is where we get closest to the realization of what makes one special, of carrying a destiny, of having a purpose, of having a reason to be here.

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the sun signs in love

As if you people haven’t had enough of these types of posts, here goes yet another one. I’ve covered the personal planets in snapshots (see exhibit A, exhibit B, exhibit C, exhibit D and even exhibit E), but here is a more lengthy description of how the sun signs love and what the sun signs need in love.

aries: this is the sun sign most likely to fall in love at first sight. they go after what they want full force and lavish all sorts of attention on their target. arians tend to be dominant in any relationship they find themselves in. they’re passionate and ardent. their energies may be expressed too quickly, so some of the nuances and subtleties of an affair are completely missed by them. as such, they tend to write off relationships that don’t deliver the goods right away. this can be seen as shallow by some, but they just don’t believe in holding back. when forced to slow down, their energy depletes. arians are passionate lovers, and they need an active sex-life to feel fulfilled. they like sex without preamble, preferring to get right down to it. they derive a great deal of pleasure from brief but intense love affairs, and they don’t cling or even linger when the relationship is over. arians’ natural liveliness and positive fun-loving outlook makes them wonderful partners. they are very aware of their own needs within a relationship, but they can be selfish and may need to be reminded about their partner’s needs from time to time.

taurus: they’re very internalized as well as stubborn and intransigent; they have an urgent desire to have their needs met, but they have difficulty in expressing these needs openly. taureans are quite romantic and sexy in a down-to-earth kind of way, but they can be a bit old-fashioned. they’re also quite sentimental, hoarding possessions as a sort of emotional and physical fetishism. they’re nothing if not monogamous and they are warm, affectionate, and earnest with their lover. they take a long time to come to the decision that they are in love with someone, but once they make that decision, the only thing that will make them change their mind is disloyalty from their lover. working may be a problem in taureans’ relationships; they spend too much time making money to provide for their lifestyle, so their partner may feel neglected. their sexual nature is that of dependable sexual expression. taureans are very sexual creatures as well as sensual, and make marvelous lovers both in and out of the bedroom. however, taureans aren’t very good at fantasizing or intellectualizing when it comes to love or sex; as such, they can be very unimaginative and fall into ruts in their relationships, focusing on security as opposed to excitement. nonetheless, they do enjoy the good life and don’t mind spending a great deal of time and money wooing a loved one.

gemini: they may be irrepressible flirts, but once they fall in love, they are quick to declare their love. they need delicacy and finesse when it comes to love. geminis appreciate being told how much they’re loved, and the more verbal a partner is (in everyday exchanges and sex), the more satisfied geminis are. sexually, they’re the most adaptable sign of the entire zodiac; they love to experiment, mainly to satisfy their curiosity. if a lover is not as verbally affectionate as they’d like, then they get confused, feel rejected, or more often than not, get impatient and move on to someone else. they need a partner who can provide them with plenty of mental stimulation, be their friend and share many interests in common with them. they don’t mind if their partner questions what they do, because this promotes the type of verbal sparring which they love. to argue, or ‘discuss’, with them is to love them. although there is usually good communication between geminis and their partners, they tend to over-intellectualize and find it hard expressing their deepest feelings. as such, have little tolerance for those who prefer to lay their heart out to bleed and demand intensity that they’re not prepared to give; instead they prefer those who have a sense of humour and like to laugh.

cancer: cancer is a very magnetic sign, and as such, they draw in and attract others rather than going out and getting them. like the gravitational pull of the moon to the ocean and the earth, their magnetic quality is quite powerful. on the flip side, they can be bit possessive and clingy, finding it extremely hard to let their lover go when a relationship ends. they tend to get involved in a lot of emotional entanglements, and can provoke dramatic scenes. a cancerian is either is very self-protective or is very selfless (sometimes too self-denying). their sexuality is enhanced by the intertwining of sensuality, imagination and intuition. theirs is the best memory in the zodiac, and they never forget any past action, good or bad. they may forgive but they don’t forget. they’re most adept at keeping their meaningful relationships quite private, which definitely serves to keep people out of their business, but it also means no emotional help or sympathy from others when they need it. in the low-functioning cancer, substandard individuals wind up in their lives, and their heart blinds them to the truth of a lover/love affair, holding on to someone who doesn’t want or value them, resulting in them looking foolish. however, in the evolved cancer, they exhibit two key traits that a load of people love to get turned off by: their cautiousness and self-protective nature. the reality is that high-functioning cancerians don’t want their highly sensitive inner workings visible or exploited by just anyone, and this, combined with their intuition, helps to fend off any insidious individuals that want to exploit them, which is very intelligent of them. they work harder than most to make a relationship permanent; like taurus, they’re no good with change. cancers make sensual, generous, affectionate and understanding partners, as long as they let their defenses down and throw their protective disguises away.

leo: despite their fierce, cocksure, and independent nature, leos give and receive love freely and surprisingly envelop their lover in tenderness and affection. their pride often causes them problems in their relationships, as well as when it comes to sex. sexually, they’re creatures of habit and can be surprisingly boring when it comes to their sexual expression, which they like to flaunt. their sexuality colours almost everything they do, for good and for bad, and they’re warm and playful when it comes to relationships, wanting grand drama and grand gestures as declarations of love. since leos are open and direct, they sometimes assume that others are also; as such, they can be a little gullible and take people at face value, rather than looking behind the façade. when they fall in love, they will fall good and hard. their open hearts are as lovely as they are foolhardy, and such, leos’ hearts will be broken many times, and will need time to mend. this, in part, stems from the fact that their full expression of love and passion tends to overwhelm a weaker partner. they’re demanding, and tend to expect an awful lot from their partner. leos have a thing about wanting a strong partner who they can look up to and admire, yet also dominate at the same time, which can prove tricky, and result in tehm having a lot of failed relationships as well. they can indeed be stubborn and bossy, but they’re generous and they take great pride in their partner’s success, helping that person to reach their full potential.

virgo: out of all the sun signs, virgos are the ones who aim to please others. they take great pleasure in making a partner a comfortable as possible and attending to their every need. their detail-oriented nature can be positive as far as sexual fantasies and pleasure is concerned. but it can also be negative and result in them being fussy, naggy, and never satisfied, which will turn any lover right off. they can either be the most repressed or the most sexually expressive of all the signs, mainly because of their unwavering specificity. virgos’ specificity may also result in fetishism, so that they attach unusual sexual meaning to particular actions or objects. when virgos fall in love and it is reciprocated, they are like capricorns in that their lack of self-confidence (disguised as cynicism) doesn’t easily allow them to believe that the other person can see anything in them. this leads to virgos sometimes being unable to express themselvesas fully or as rewardingly as they would like, which can lead to inhibitions within the relationship, both emotionally and physically. virgos have a strong romantic nature and needs a partner that is able to help them express it. they’re great communicators and their partners will find that a relationship with them is never boring. they work very hard for their lover, almost too hard, and it can become a cover-up for their inhibitions.

libra: this sun sign is the one that is the most interested in partnership and are the true romantics of the zodiac, befitting their ruling planet of venus. however, not just anyone will do; they need continual growth and development in their relationships, or they get bored. they’re never dull in relationships, and are always trying to improve them or make them more beautiful and satisfying. sexual difficulties are more likely to occur in libra than in most other signs, especially if the person is single and hasn’t established secure pathways of communication with a long-term partner. libras need someone that’s as creative as they, not too emotional, sensitive, or possessive, someone who treats them as special. they need constant reassurances of love from their partner and aren’t above picking fights simply to elicit the declarations of love in the patching up afterwards. because of their combination of standards and impermanence, their love lives can be a bit of a challenge. the true test of a happy relationship is whether they and their partner can find a balance between evolution and stability. this is where libras’ relationships often fail–which, as a high-functioning libra already knows, is just part of the game. however, if libras find a willing partner who can have a healthy balance of emotions and interpersonal communication, then they’ll know a lot more than most about what makes a relationship good or bad. because libras are obsessed with love and long to share their lives with someone else, they fall easily in love without thinking, and often into marriage as well. when an emotional relationship breaks up, they feel very hurt and disillusioned.

scorpio: much has been said about this sun sign’s sexuality, but the reality is that this is the one sun sign that feels life the most intensely and needs to express their passion, usually in power plays. scorpios can be very demanding lovers, but very understanding and intuitive ones as well. their brand of passionate intensity is usually interpreted as sexual to others. also, with scorpios, sexual compatibility is of above average importance for the success of any romantic relationship. scorpios are quick to let their target know that there is no middle ground: they want all from a lover or nothing at all, and they use their magnetism to attract to gain advantage over their lover. as such, scorpios usually wind up attracting less sophisticated, simpler people into their orbit which works well for them, because then they can command the relationship. in the long run, scorpios want something more challenging and meaningful. if conflict or strife isn’t involved, then it’s not real to them - they’re not ones who want a smooth love. they’re very clear about what they want and are willing to wait a long time to get it. they will not settle, and they will not compromise when it comes to their desires. jealousy is usually in the forefront, whether of an actual person or simply of the time that the partner spends away from them. true to their all-or-nothing nature, they tend to obsess and immerse themselves in a person, then they are changed by it and finally become completely detached from it.

sagittarius: this is the sun sign most likely to date outside their race, religion, or culture. sagittarians aren’t the most verbal about love, because the love they seek isn’t detailed or premeditated. sexually, they’re very physically enthusiastic, highly adventurous and seek out any form of sex that promises excitement an challenge. they are optimistic and eager to please as long as the favour is returned. sagittarians prize friendship, spontaneity and shared intellectual interests, and they absolutely need a partner who reflects these qualities. also, if they can globetrot with their partner and travel at will, this would be a major plus. they are passionate, able to express warm feelings and keep the flame of love alive, and hardly jealous at all. but sometimes they don’t seem to take the relationship seriously and can be a little offhand at times with their bright and breezy style. and if their relationship becomes too regulated and routine, their legendary restlessness will kick in and they will indeed want to break out or away, probably in a sudden manner.

capricorn: out of all the signs, capricorns fear rejection the most and hate putting themselves into a vulnerable position. they’re not ones to rush into a relationship, but they won’t back off from one either. thrives on the challenge of loving someone more volatile than they. loyalty is their game and they can hang when the going gets tough in a relationship. sexually, capricorns don’t require a whole lot of bells and whistles. they’re not boring, but they just need sincerity and intensity in their lovemaking. the evolved ones have a good sense of timing and of how far to go before pleasure crosses the bounds of consideration for others. they’re not above using sex for power and control, just like scorpio, but without scorpio’s desire for sexual satisfaction. they want someone to play up to them and make them feel comfortable and powerful. they’re insecure and their egos are fragile, so anyone that reminds them of their humanity is usually someone they don’t like or associate with. their need to be more than what they are often supersedes anything else, and as such, they go for people who make them look good.

aquarius: aquarius is not the most physically sexy sign, but their experimental nature makes them intriguing. aquarians can be quite removed; they tend to treat lovers as interesting objects rather than as an involved partner. they can be quite self-conscious and find it hard to be truly close to another person. nonetheless, they are very loyal, but in a generalized way, not to one relationship alone. aquarius is a very pluralistic sign, and as such, they have the ability to engage in several sincere affairs at once, and this sincerity makes jealousy a less destructive force. with them, sexuality is reinforced by the building of intellectually intimacy as well as friendship. however, they do have hearts; they can be extremely romantic at times, but they won’t keep declaring their love for someone; to them once is enough. when they do fall in love (like any fixed sign), they fall hard. one can expect an exciting and fulfilling relationship with them, never quite knowing what to expect next. their partner will more than likely be an unconventional choice, and that person needs to respect the aquarian’s need for a certain amount of independence within the relationship, and realize that he or she may not always be able to get as close to their aquarian emotionally as they may wish.

pisces: out of all the sun signs, pisceans are the most empathic and psychically attuned to a lover. a pisces will not know any limits on how far they’ll go and how much they’ll sacrifice for a lover, which makes them as popular and revered as lovers as much as it makes them doormat material. they tend to idealize love and their partner, so much so that their fantasy takes precedence over sex or logic. they can be quite consumed by love. this compulsion with love can either transform their personalities into something ugly and irrational in the immature and low-functioning pisceans, or uplift the personalities of the evolved and high-functioning. sexually, they aren’t highly erotic in a purely physical sense, preferring a more ethereal approach, usually involving a melding of the spiritual and mystical as well as through fantasies. needs a partner who is well grounded and realistic. can adapt to their lover’s sexual style. pisceans work hard to make a relationship work, but if they feel that it is getting too difficult, their natural reaction is evasiveness, vagueness and deception, and prefer to take the easy way out of a tricky situation. the like to pass the buck when it comes to who is at fault, and not be too concerned about the consequences of their actions.

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