the most infuriating thing about personal growth is that even if someone else did have the answer you needed and conveyed it to you in a precise and effective matter, it won't make sense until you're ready for it. you could hear it every day of your life and it wouldn't matter a fucking bit until it finally clicks. there's very little you can do to influence when that happens, either
“sometimes you can feel like what you have to offer is too little to make a difference, but today, i learned that everypony's contribution is important, no matter how small.”