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Hot damn it’s been a minute

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Update; 

As things turn out I will not be returning to RP come Novermber, or likely ever. 

Best of luck to all of those that I have had the pleasure of roleplaying with in the past, but this will likely be my last tumblr post. 

Thank you everyone. 

Tumblr Hiatus

As of right now I will be putting Pernoa on a semi in game rp hiatus and a tumblr hiatus. An overdue break from the game is in order, though I plan to return to active rp come WOD. 

Thank you for the past year of wonderful rp from those of you that I have had the pleasure of role playing with. And to those I have yet to have the chance, I hope I am able to come November!

Seya!

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"I was safer on the shelf." 

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I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest. Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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The right way to reach out indeed

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Tumblr Hiatus

As of right now I will be putting Pernoa on a semi in game rp hiatus and a tumblr hiatus. An overdue break from the game is in order, though I plan to return to active rp come WOD. 

Thank you for the past year of wonderful rp from those of you that I have had the pleasure of role playing with. And to those I have yet to have the chance, I hope I am able to come November!

Seya!

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"I put on a dress and then am taken out into the woods. Heels do not work in dirt Lore..."

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How many people has Pernoa slept with?

Interesting question, but thank you anon!

Pernoa has slept with a resounding 2 people, scandalous I know. People are often rather temporary for Pernoa, never lingering for longer then they need to. So it doesn't fair well to the idea of growing close to someone, hence the small number.

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Send a ◎ and a question and my muse must answer, even if it's a secret.

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A year ago I would’ve never guessed life would be the way it is now.

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Hey yooou! I know we still haven't uh, managed a drop of RP, and I'm hella sorry for that. I really should just hop to MG for a day or two and tackle people, but I wanted to say thank you for being a part of this community. You're quite creative, really, what I've seen of the character has been fascinating and what I've heard about you (99% from Aevi) has been nothing but praise and good things. So yes, you're amazing! And thank you for being that, too!

I don’t even know what to say. That’s, probably the nicest thing anyone’s said to me ever. 

Thank you, soo much.

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For every "★" I get, I will post a fact about my characters.

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Fall in love with someone that doesn’t make you think love is hard.

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♥*~Ginger Girls~*♥

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Swear to god if Folin puts another guild battle standered on me imm'a shove it soo far up his ass he an't gonna be able to stealth.