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All this rage about pronouns and how to use them - I don’t think they should be conversed that deeply.

Sure, it is great if we would have a non-gender biased society so children grow up knowing they can do whatever they want no matter the majority gender or assumed gender that certain role has.

However, if people DO assume gender, it should not be taken on offense. We make assumptions every day, and the basis of the bias is not entirely because of sexism. We may assume a friend’s doctor is a she just because ours is, so the imagery is certainly customized for everyone. People should not be quick to take offense to that.

I personally live in a country whose language does not have gendered pronouns. Just a third party pronoun used in all sorts of occasions (Indonesians, I’m referring to the word “dia”). And even so, assumptions about gender still retains, but nobody is offended by that. We’ve had this language for who knows how long and still, traditional gender roles are still tradition, majority of gender stereotypes are actually majority reality, and its fine.

It doesn’t mean it that the status quo is restricting those who want to bend the stereotypes or switch up roles (if you don’t want to cook and clean in the household, just find a partner who wants to do what you don’t want to do, or get a helper).

I’m just saying. Pronouns - they aren’t that deep. It’s not a definition of yourself, or your personality, it’s just language. If you’re misgendered, let it go or correct them in a ‘btw’ sequence, not in an accusing tone. There’s no harm done, especially if it’s just a passerby saying hi.