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Certain words can change your brain forever and ever so you do have to be very careful about it.

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evil wizard voice: i too have a "doom scroll"

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fellow mr. beast haters and skeptics...they all doubted us but we knew.

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Why does everything have to be an argument. Using the MLM or “toothpaste” flag does not fucking mean you hate history or you don’t respect the community. It means that the original rainbow flag, does not symbolize being a gay man anymore.

It symbolizes and is an umbrella for the community as a whole, which is incredibly important for us to have!!

But if you’re bisexual and you want to flag that, you can wave the bi flag.

If you’re a lesbian you can wave the sunset flag.

But guess what?? If I as a gay trans man wear the rainbow flag, it doesn’t tell people that I’m a gay man, it tells people that I’m under the lgbt umbrella, which 90% of the time leads people to assume I’m a bi girl. I use the MLM flag to tie my gender to my sexuality, for my own comfort.

Is the MLM flag as well known as the others? Maybe not!

Does the rainbow flag still represent my family, my fight and my identity? Of course!

I agree that a disturbing amount of queer kids aren’t getting any history, and I’m sure there are some on twitter that are being little douchebags and trouncing on Gilbert Bakers name and that does make me want to cry

But denouncing flags and identities isn’t the way to make them come around. You can fly more than one flag. Your presentation and the information you show people is up to you. And trying to tell kids that they’re bad for wanting a flag that they feel represents them best really isn’t gonna make them listen.

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i am always the bitch who's like. that's actually not true :) your brain does not stop developing at 25 or ever :) love languages can be a useful vocabulary but is not real :) a lot of the personality disorders you villainize are responses to immense pain and fear :) stop trying to sort the complexity of human experience into HARRY POTTER HOUSES pleaseee think critically abt what u are being told and who's telling u this. why would someone want u to believe that u aren't fully capable of decision making until 25? psych has been a tool to oppress since it was created, don't buy into it!

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saw a grown woman on tiktok snidely calling gen z the christopher columbus generation bc someone’s fifteen year old son ‘thought he’d discovered weezer’. newsflash every generation finds out about the music of the previous generation at some point it comes free with being fifteen. being annoying about music also comes free with being fifteen. a kid saying yeah i’ve just found this band nirvana have you ever heard of them should be a thing of joy

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jesus no

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people are way too comfortable being dismissive of children and teenagers. if a toddler comes up to you and starts explaining skibidi toilet lore or if a 13 year old asks you if you want to hear about their mha ocs you have to listen with utmost sincerity or at least pretend to. this is the only way you will get into heaven.

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Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria is such a weird theory because it's like there's a very obvious explanation for why middle school kids who didn't have dysphoria before might suddenly have dysphoria. Like huh weird I wonder what very obvious and widely known change that could cause kids to suddenly become very uncomfortable in their gender or sexual identity starts in between the ages of 10 and 14. Guess we'll never know. Must be peer pressure to *checks notes* become the only gender minority in your whole school singling you out for harassment by your peers. Couldn't be puberty suddenly giving you new body parts/bodily functions that are wrong for you.

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Correct me if I am wrong, but years ago I collected a list of neopronouns by year of coining (only before 2000 otherwise things would get a bit out of hand very quickly). I wanted to share this list with you all!

History of English Neopronouns:

• Ou (1789)

• Ne/Nim/Nis/Nis/Nimself (1850)

• Ve/Vim/Vis/Vis/Vimself (1864)

• Ze (1864)

• Thon/Thon/Thons/Thons/Thonself (1884)

• E/Em/Es/Es/Emself (1890)

• He’er/Him’er/His’er/His’er/Him’erself (1912)

• Hir (1920)

• Ae/Aer/Aer/Aers/Aerself (1920)

• Tey/Tem/Ter/Ters/Temself (1971)

• Xe/Xem/Xyr/Xyrs/Xemself (1973)

• Te/Tir/Tes/Tes/Tirself (1974)

• Ey/Em/Eir/Eirs/Eirself (1975)

• Per/Per/Pers/Pers/Perself (1979)

• Ve/Ver/Vis/Vis/Verself (1980)

• Hu/Hum/Hus/Hus/Humself (1982)

• E/Em/Eir/Eirs/Emself (1983)

• Ze/Hir/Hir/Hirs/Hirself (1996)

• Ze/Mer/Zer/Zers/Zemself (1997)

• Zhe/Zhim/Zher/Zhers/Zhimself (2000)

Sources:

(I am aware that not all of these are the peak of credibility, so please let me know if any of them are incorrect.)

Wikipedia

Wikipedia

University of Illinois Blog

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realizing that sticking to the "do it bad" "do it scared" mentality implies theres also a "do it bored"

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This is in reply to the TERF argument that trans body parts aren't "real" and/or they aren't "actually a vagina" or "not actually a penis" if they're made via surgery.

People get hip replacements. The new metal hip inside them is 100% a real hip - it is not imaginary, it is not fictional. It is a real hip.

Is it their original hip? No. But that doesn't mean it "isn't actually a hip" - it's definitely a hip. It's just new. That's all.

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"menstruation is punishment for original sin" is a fairly common doctrine (altho in my experience it's usually more implicit than just baldly stated like that)

anyway this implies that of all the animal kingdom, humans are not UNIQUE in sinning, but are joined by bats, the elephant shrew, and the spiny mouse species Acomys cahirinus. (according to my 5 seconds on wikipedia at least)

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Watching the rugby. I could do that [be thrown to the ground by trying and failing to take out the biggest guy ever via sheer force of launching myself at him and immediately get driven into the mud by like six other huge guys in little shorts].

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If the right way is too hard, fuck it. Do it the wrong way.

Folding clothes keeps you from getting the laundry done? Stop folding clothes. Put a basket in your room and throw your unfolded clean stuff into it right out of the dryer, it's fine.

Rinsing dishes off keeps you from loading the dishwasher? Load them dirty and run it twice.

Chopping onions keeps you from making yourself dinner? Buy the freezer bags of chopped onions.

You forget to take your meds and don't want to get out of bed to get them? Start putting them next to the bed.

Can't keep up with the dishes? Get paper plates. Worried about environment impact? Order biodegradable ones online if your local store doesn't have one.

Make the task easier. Put things where you use them instead of where they "go." Eliminate the steps that keep you from finishing the task. Eliminate the task that is stressing you out.

Do it the "wrong" way. It's literally fine.

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Idk man it’s so easy to get bogged down in all the bullshit online but when my then-6 year old cousin found out I was trans he said “ok” then corrected my grandma when she misgendered me. I was once the third between a gay man and a lesbian. Two lesbians once invited me back to their place when I presented as a man. I met an AMAB nb butch who looked strikingly to outsiders like a cis man and it was one of the more sapphic experiences I’ve had. I nervously wore a boydyke shirt to pride and got 3 different cis-looking femme folks tell me they loved my shirt. I once told a trans group at a protest that any pronouns were fine for me and one person said “wow, I’m impressed and intimidated by people like that. I don’t know that I could be that chill with pronouns.” I once told a GNC friend I wished I could wear a type of “opposite” gender clothing after I had already transitioned and so it would be associated with my AGAB and he said “You could just do it.” I’ve had cishet men fight cops for me before. The first time I had a doctor ask me if my name was different than what was on my forms I had to try not to cry. Last week, a phone call with a doctor’s office where I am generally cis passing asked unprompted if my name listed is what I want to be called. It touched me then too. I told a lesbian friend once I felt like my attraction to men AND women both felt gay. She said “makes sense.” And we moved on. I go by different pronouns in different circles. I’ve had gay women love my facial hair. I’ve had gay men like my tits. It’s all out there, I promise. It can be hard to find it but I promise there is community like you and community who likes you. And it’s more messy and beautiful than tumblr discourse makes it out to be.