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“dream girl” energy is very calm and relaxed. She’s never the one huffing and puffing lol always somewhere in the distance being desired and pampered

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Gaining & Maintaining Power: A Reading List

Power & Manipulation

48 Laws of Power by Robert Green

The Prince by Machiavelli

Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis by Eric Berne

The Dictator's Handbook: Why Bad Behavior is Almost Always Good Politics by Bruce Bueno de Mesquita

Power: Why Some People Have It - And Others Don't by Jeffrey Pfeffer

The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success by Kevin Dutton

Charisma & Social Skills

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox Cabane

Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People by Vanessa Van Edwards

Never Eat Alone, And the Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi

The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over by Jack Schafer

Persuasion

The Art of Seduction by Robert Green

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter by Scott Adams

Pre-Suasion: Channeling Attention for Change by Robert Cialdini

Win Your Case: How to Present, Persuade, and Prevail, Every Place, Every Time by Gerry Spence

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness by Richard Thaler

Methods of Persuasion: How to Use Psychology to Influence Human Behavior by Nick Kolenda

You Can Read Anyone: Never Be Fooled, Lied to, or Taken Advantage of Again by David Lieberman

Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change by Kerry Patterson

Psychology

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman

The Art of Choosing by Sheena Iyengar

Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink

Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions by Dan Ariely

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green

Philosophy and Mindset

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

Letters from a Stoic by Seneca

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Mastery by Robert Green

The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill

Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Taleb

The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday

Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life by Hector Garcia

Public Speaking, Rhetoric, and Debating

Rhetoric by Aristotle

How to Argue & Win Every Time by Gerry Spence

The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking by Dale Carnegie

The Art of Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie

Talk Like TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds by Carmine Gallo

Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion by George Thompson, PhD

Thank You for Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

p.s. a lot of these can be found on z-library.

xoxo ❤️

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My Life Is Becoming...

Ballet classes weekly

Massages monthly

Healthy balanced meals daily

Reading 1 book every 2 weeks

Nail appointments regularly 

Hair appointments every 2 weeks

Pilates or barre classes weekly

Yoga every night

Stretching every morning

Baking every weekend

Journaling daily

Growing in my spirituality 

Smoothies or homemade juice every morning

Golf lessons weekly

Horseback riding lessons weekly

Walking in nature daily

Vacations at least twice a year

Sugaring appointments monthly 

Teeth whitening appointments monthly 

Guitar lessons daily

Eyebrow tinting appointments regularly 

Fine dining weekly

Investing my money often

Practicing Spanish daily 

Staycations regularly 

Slowly but surely creating my dream life  ✨

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What activities and knowledge do you believe every young woman should partake in and pursue?

Developing a sense of individuality

Continual healing and recovery from traumatic events through therapies, holistic help etc

Transferable skills 

Maintaining emotional and mental health

Belief in something greater and wider

Self care, pampering, holistic beauty and wellbeing

Self esteem building and self worth assurance

Interests and hobbies that are uniquely yours

A few ways of making money and an understanding of finance

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I aspire to be a woman who loves to wakes up early in the morning and loves what she does for a living everyday. Travels often, spiritually secured, and financially stable.

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Recent  goals/to do

Vanity

Keep up with regular skin treatments

Try different sheet masks

Make the most of glamorous hair treatments and hair styles

Eye treatments

Have endless inventory of oils and favorite products

Get  fillers

Semi-permanent brows/lashes

Visit gym 3-4 times a week

Donate old clothing 

Book a spa weekend 

Hoard beauty advice, hair inspiration and tips

Start a fragrance collection

Always  carry hand cream, moisturizer, small makeup kit, ,perfume, hand sanitizer and baby wipes

Professional/career

Continuously read up on business and entrepreneurship

Become fluent in Spanish and French

Have a basic grasp of economics, marketing, management and finance

Take regular notes of ideas and observations

Curb shyness and become more outgoing

Skills/Knowledge

Take swimming lessons

Do courses required to get into university

Become knowledable for pleasure, not to show off

Find new ways to save money and have a healthy income

Spiritual

Do not use laptop first thing in the morning

Pray, say affirmations

Have rejuvenation rituals

Watch funny videos and series.

Make it a habit to watch luscious, happy and adrenaline rushing films and series

Be friendly ,assertive, charismatic and engaging.

Curb alcohol use 

Curb internet use

Ignore time wasting confrontation and unnecessary arguments 

Random future extravagant ‘doing the most’ things on my bucket list

See Venice from above and below

Take cooking classes from professional chefs

Thailand Island hopping and spa experience

Visit Tokyo and indulge in local cuisine

Go on a helicopter and hot air balloon ride

Visit  Ancient Mayan ruins.

Go Caribbean Island hopping via a glamorous cruise ship

See a lion, jaguar, tiger and a whale in the flesh

Travel from the Secret Valleys of Peru, quiet beaches of Costa Rica to the Vibrancy of Colombia

Have a romantic, candlelit meal by an ocean or lake

Have more candlelit meals

Do watersports 

Visit a street food festival

See the Lion King at Broadway, New York

Have a caviar/gold facial

Go ‘glamping’ with a group of girls

Visit  luxurious hotels for unique style massages, sauna and spa treatments

Have a walk in closet

Cheese and wine tasting

Go on a road trip with jazz music blasting

Go to a jazz and bossa nova event

Have sex with Leonardo DiCaprio

Have a peaceful beach holiday at Mozambique, Kenya, Seychelles or Namibia

Sleep. Book a hotel one day for sleeping and eating purposes.

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Spring cleaning ♡

(the angeldiscovery way ^_^)

This is a overall post on how to make ur spring more fulfilling & cleansing 🎀 i’m using half my own pictures from instagram & randoms from pinterest/tumblr. if u know original sources of the other photos credit them 4 me !! that’s all.

refreshing ✧*:･ﾟ

refreshing can be cleaning, finding a new signature scent, etc.

wash your clothes + lingerie with new detergent & fresh scented dryer sheets

find a new room spray/plug-in from bath & body or your local drug store

donate your older + unused clothes to family or a center

shop to find a new perfume, it’ll excite u for upcoming events & gatherings !

wash your bedding/sheets and take care of your sleep schedule

refresh yourself with a new set of affirmations & goals for the month

buy a cute new water bottle to remind you to stay hydrated & drink more than enough water during the day

health + beauty ✧*:･ﾟ

health + beauty includes investing into new supplements, fixing errors in your schedule, and taking care of your appearance

STUDY study youtube videos, articles, blogs, anything ! about health & vitamins. invest into the right ones to help your body + mind.

take yourself on a trip to the beauty store & find cute things to spoil yourself with. treat urself to a new lipgloss, concealer, body scrub, whatever u want.

refine your beauty routine & analyze how each step makes u feel. you should always feel beautiful ! take care of yourself & make sure you’re telling yourself affirmations during makeup, skincare, and haircare.

get a high quality bra + underwear set to wear. this really boosts your confidence & it helps me feel well taken care of.

upgrade your closet. find super cute pieces for the hot weather coming up & some pretty sandals ! also getting your toes done won’t hurt either.

( this can include getting your nails/hair done too )

importance of journaling & life cleansing

even if u do all the things on this list, if youre still unhealed & mentally wounded, that root will still remain inside you. that’s why i’ll always remind everyone the importance of journaling with the help of life cleansing. they work together & are the most life changing when done with high vibrations & determination.

in your journal(book & mind) always question yourself on how you feel & what’s going on. it saves a lot of pain & future confusion. do not suppress how you feel & be your own bestfriend.

you must do the things on this list with a idea & goal in mind. dedicate yourself to wanting better for the person in the mirror.

journaling doesn’t have to be pen & paper, talk to yourself, talk yourself through hard points in the day, train your mind to think in patterns that benefit you. journaling happens in the mind too. your thoughts are words in your head written by a pen that’s your soul.

i hope this helps u all. take care of yourself !!!! its so worth it ♡

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PAC : self care tips

Intuitive reading

Hello beautiful people what's up? Did you drink enough water and did you keep your mental health above all ?

𝒮ℯ𝓃𝒹𝒾𝓃ℊ 𝓁ℴ𝓋ℯ 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝒽ℯ𝒶𝓁𝒾𝓃ℊ 𝓉ℴ 𝓎ℴ𝓊.♡︎♥︎♡︎♥︎

The pac here will be focusing on the area of self care you're missing up on , which can be improved. Choose an image with your intuition .

🌱 DISCLAIMER : Take what resonates , don't do something you're uncomfortable with , i am not a self care professional , i give what I get . If you want to choose everything go for it , choose anything from any pile just take the best care of yourself 💚.

💚pile 1 :

Don't do something you're uncomfortable with and do a temporary test before applying it to your daily care .

Citrus infused water ( lemon , orange , Clementine) , it can aid in refreshing yourself , make the metabolism faster , help in clearing the skin , helps in weight loss etc .

Oatmeal with bananas , helps in lowering blood sugar level and provides antioxidants , helps skin itching , and aids in digestion .

Running in the morning/evening improves cardiovascular fitness and strengthens muscles .

Pranayama breathing yogic practice of Breath control , helps in improving mindfulness , reduces blood pressure and helps in improving cognitive functioning.

Get grounded go out in nature , spend some time alone don't worry all your work can be done later .

💚pile 2 :

Don't do something you're uncomfortable with and do a temporary test before applying it to your daily care .

Check the ingredients in your skin care products , i sense some of your products contain a lot of harmful chemicals , instead go for more natural brands or homemade stuff.

Try listening to binaural beats , relieves anxiety , improves cognition, helps in mediation etc . Do not overuse , especially in the night , I did it once it gives a headache for the next day so use in limited quantity.

Keep a gratefulness journal , keeping this helps in appreciating what we already have and if you are content , universe will always bless you with more.

Get some sunlight , in the morning not in the afternoon , stay away from UV rays , sunlight provides vitamin D , reduces cholesterol , improves sleep cycle etc.

Tree energy transfer , first of all if you are feeling sad , acknowledge it and do things to let go of it , tree transfer is a process of connecting with a tree , you can sit down or touch or just stand near a tree it helps in absorbing negative energies and transforming it into positive energies.

💚 Pile3 :

Don't do something you're uncomfortable with and do a temporary test before applying it to your daily care .

Cut off toxic people , cutting off people who no longer serve your purpose is the best form of self care , be who you wanna be , do what you wanna do!

Walking improves cardiovascular fitness , increases energy levels , helps in improving mind freshness , gives a healthy start to a day.

Read a lot of books of any genre , mostly what comforts you . Dance and sing like no one's watching you , singing and dancing forever improved our energy levels .

Keep a check on what you eat in a day , stay away from overeating follow the 80/20 rule " you eat a "clean" diet 80% of the time and allow yourself to enjoy a few indulgences 20% of the time"

Maintain your regular exercises or start practicing yoga at your home Exercising will improve your energy levels and help you sleep better in the night , it will help in maintaining your fitness as well ; yoga will help in increasing your flexibility , aid in arthritis , improve your mental health etc.

Hope you like it , research more about a point you like through the internet and remember you matter the most in your world .

Thank you for reading 💚

Have a great day/night 💚

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june goals:

- get ahead on summer classes

- no more spending money on food (as of 6/6)

- start a budget

- schedule driving test

- read a book

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follow your own rules but recognize the dynamics at play

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starting tomorrow im going to be doing a digital/dopamine detox. its summer vacay and ive been home for all of it. technically, i have no real responsibilities rn so ive been on my phone all day and everyday. its at the point where i dont actually want to even be on my phone, but i just do not have anything else to do. its been my form of escapism and its ruining my life.

my digital/dopamine detox rules:

- no youtube or streaming services like hulu or netflix

- no music, podcasts, or audiobooks

- no social media (including tumblr and pinterest!)

- phone on dnd (will still text people but wont be checking constantly)

- turn off unnecessary notifications

- at least an hour of no phone time (is easy but when you have nothing to do at home all day its hard)

goals for this detox:

- fix my phone addiction

- improve focus/concentration

- work through mental issues

- fight escapism

things i will be doing:

- alot of reading and writing

- my diary is on google docs so i will be using my phone for that

-i will self reflect, identify my triggers, do shadow work

- i also read on my phone bc i download the pdfs off the internet lol

- i will read books about: mindset, finances, social skills, charisma, power, seduction, spirituality/religion, healing, quantum physics. i also want to read narratives and stories for fun.

- clean and organize my physical spaces

-discover hobbies

i dont know how long i will do this. i kindof want to start with one day and then go a week straight. and keep going up. but i do have a hefty reading list so one day might not work lol .

hot girls log off! 🫶

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oh to be married and spend a lifetime learning and evolving alongside your lover

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“Get used to standing out. You can’t be afraid to let people witness how amazing, magical, gorgeous, brilliant, and different you are.”

— India Ame’ye, Author (via eatmangoesnekkid)

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Winter'21/22 reset prep & plan

Hi angels, it's been a minute since my last blog post but I'm back and ready for a much needed transformation.

Winter is the PERFECT time for a reset and for getting yourself back on track after a detour (which are very common and very normal and totally okay!)

I myself haven't been feeling so great lately, due to a combination of things, a lack of time and energy and I haven't been doing the things that make me feel like me and I have felt like in certain situations, I've violated my own boundaries and abounded my values for the sake of others and a few events in my life completely changed the way I view the world, myself and others. But this is not what this post is about, this post is for anyone that feels like they need a fresh start or feels like they need to get back on track! (although I def have to make a few posts about some of these topics because they are SO important)

You need a fresh start before new year's so you can become the best version of yourself. You do not want to be making major changes without addressing your current problems.

Grab a pice of paper and pen and get ready to dig deep! Remember the theme of this is RESET.

Phase 1 (plan)

Figure out what you want out of this reset. Everyone's journey is different. I personally want to get back to where I was, you could want to turn a new page after heartbreak, or you could want to completely abandon your old life and your old self and start from the beginning. Everyone's going to have different needs, identify them.

Reflect on your current situation

Figure out exactly which areas of your life that you've neglected, and find out why

Identify bad habits you want to get rid of

Identify your triggers

Try to get a clear idea of where you want to be at the end of winter (this is going ti be different for everyone)

Notice if anything's been bothering you lately (do you seem to have less energy, are you forgetting things easily, that sort of thing)

Remember good habits/ routines you had implemented but now no longer engage in

Identify the situations/ people/ events/ habits that do not serve you, and let go of them

If it does not make you feel good, it has no place in your life

Find out which situations/ trauma remain unresolved, and sit with yourself for while and try to work them. Feel free to reach out to someone if needed.

Shadow work is perfect for this!!

Get crystal clear on who you are as an individual, what you stand for, what you believe in, what you like, what you dislike, etc. get to know yourself!

re-examine your goals and re-focus if needed

Phase 2 (feel your best)

Health

Get back on your diet (if you were on one like keto, paleo, Mediterranean, intermittent fasting, plant-based, etc.)

This time of year I find that people tend to eat heavier, more sugary meals, I for one am guilty, and they tend to upset my gut. I would recommend you find out which foods make you feel bad/ sluggish/ heavy/ nauseous/ bloated/ etc. and limit them

Now is a great time to go on a water fast if you're experienced with fasting

Try to walk and dance more

If you've stopped working out, ease your way back into it, starting with once a week, twice a week, etc until you're back at your regular pace.

Swap out your usual routine for something less intense (walking instead of running, lighter weights, etc.)

Get your blood tested!!! check your vitamin D, B12 and iron levels

Tea has so many benefits and will keep you warm!

Face & Body care

If you've been neglecting your self-maintenance this is the time to get back to old routines. Personally, I haven't found the energy for my weekly facials however I enjoy them so much and I've decided this is something I want back in my life, I also need to get back on my IPL schedule. This is going to be different for everyone.

Hair

clarifying treatments

henna masks

hair masks in general

get a trim or look into dusting if you want to maintain your length

ACV rinses are great

Give your hair a break from relaxers, heat, bleach, etc.

Scent

How to smell good from head to toe, AKA my scent routine

Also, figure out if you have BO and try to get rid of it (I can make a post on this!)

Phase 3 (mental wellbeing)

This is the star of this reset!

Give yourself a social media detox, whatever that looks like for you (take a break/ edit your followers and following lists/ completely delete/ deactivate your account/ only use social media on your laptop/ use extensions to limit your social media usage/ only for 30 minutes a day/ etc. figure out what works best for you and what you need)

Cut out toxic people from your life and people who do not make you feel good

Find out what drains your energy (people, places, situations, social media, listening to too much music with harmful lyrics, partying, gossiping, etc.)

Get clear on your personal values

Get clear on your personal boundaries (in relationships, friendships, at work/ school, mental boundaries as well)

Identify any self-sabotaging or people pleasing behaviour

Let go and detach yourself from anything that does not serve

Release shame

Forgive yourself

Recognize and stop comparison

Get clear on what you will and will not tolerate

Place some rules on yourself and your life, if you find yourself going down a slippery path (I will not vape, I will not entertain a man just because I'm bored, I'm will not gossip, etc.)

Work on getting eight hours of sleep

Journal to organize your thoughts

Once again, shadow work!!!

Go on a dopamine detox

Recognize red flags in relationships, friendships, work place, etc.

Recognize your own red flags and work on them

Give yourself closure if you need to

Vent to a friend who is willing to help

Remove yourself from harmful situations

Choose to be happy

Reconnect with old friends

Smiling is an instant mood booster

Work on your insecurities

practice intentional kindness, to yourself and others

Speaking of, self-compassion is so so important during this journey

Find your comfort shows/ movies/ food for fun

appreciate and find joy in the little things

Work on any traumas you may have (childhood, generational, relationships, friendships, etc.)

Identify unhealthy patterns in your life

Recognize what your grateful for

Recognize the areas in your life where you have improved, things your proud of yourself for, no mater how small

Heal energetic cords

Choose to put things behind you and to move on

Be intentional with everything, with your healing, with your emotions, with your thoughts and your actions

Journal for self-reflection

celebrate small victories

Positive self talk in the mirror is life-changing

Find out what fulfill you

Let go of limiting beliefs

make your self and your wellbeing a priority

Remind yourself of moments life has been kind to you

Focus on healing

Stop caring about other people's judgements of you

learn to control your emotions and reactions

Phase 4 (living)

Now is a great time for any of your usual reset rituals

Spend time with people you leave you feeling good

Do something nice for someone

Yoga + meditation for new beginnings

Practice LOA, whatever that means for you

Get back on track with your studying

revisit and relearn old skills

Do small things that make you happy (baking brownies, buying flowers, painting your nails, etc.)

Explore your city!! there are so many fun things to do

Consider taking a trip somewhere

Buy yourself a symbolic piece of jewellery

Asses your money habits

Make any and all lifestyle changes necessary

Work on reimplementing any good habits/ routines back into your life

Get enough sleep!!

Go out in nature! it's so healing

make plans for days when you are not feeling so great

I just want you to know that I am so so proud of you for putting in the effort to better your self and your life. Self-improvement journeys are never linear and you will have bad days, bad weeks or bad months and that's okay! it is a part of growth.

Lots of love,

Serena

xx