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Happy International Asexuality Day!!

💚💜♠️ sending so much love to any tumblr folk who are on the asexual &/or aromantic spectrums like me. ♠️💜💚

♠️What is Asexuality?♠️

An Asexual is a person who rarely or never experiences sexual attraction. They are not drawn to people sexually and do not feel compelled to act on attraction to others in a sexual way. Asexuality does not preclude you from experiencing other types of attraction (including romantic attraction) to people of the same or different gender to yourself, or define whether you want to be in a committed relationship.

💜Why is awareness important? 💜

An absence of attraction is much harder to define than a presence; and lack of awareness means many people have no idea that there are words to describe their experiences or others who feel the same. While the term has been in common use since the 1960s, many people are well over the age of 25 when they first hear the word - especially if they experience romantic attraction to the opposite gender and haven’t had much exposure to the broader LGBTIQAP+ community. When you’re told all of your life that romantic feelings about someone are inextricably linked to sexual attraction it can be confusing when your experiences don’t seem to match. It can also be hard to tell what is hyperbole and what are thoughts that allosexual (the opposite of asexual) people have the intention of doing?

There is are strong social and cultural messages which use the development of sexual thoughts, sexual relationships and having children as markers of age and maturity. It can be difficult to express a lack of sexual desire without being invalidated or challenged by the people around you or your own built in expectation that sex is fundamental to being human. Are you medically or psychologically unwell? Are you repressed? Broken? Prudish? A late bloomer? Will this “all make sense” when I meet “the right person”?

While most identities on the LGBTIQAP+ spectrum are becoming better protected from medicalisation and psychiatric diagnosis - Asexuality has a long way to go.

It is still very common for people who are questioning or on the Asexuality spectrum to be offered medical testing and treatment aimed at curing their Asexuality. Most GPs still routinely recommend blood tests to check hormone levels, assessment for depression or other mental illnesses, recommend counselling or prescribe medication to boost libido.

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♠️Celibacy Vs Asexuality♠️

Celibacy is like being on a diet. You still want to have sex and have sexual thoughts about others but are choosing not to act on them at that time. Whether it’s based on your beliefs or availability of a suitable partner varies but that desire is still present even if intentionally suppressed.

Asexuality is like not experiencing hunger because you’re already eaten enough. You don’t have sexual thoughts about others or feel compelled to act on them.

💜Attraction Vs Libido💜

Libido is typically the amount that you think about sex and how much you want to engage in sexual activities either partnered or solo. Libido is on a spectrum for people of all sexual orientations. They normally range from high to low. Libido can fluctuate and change over the lifespan and it can be influenced by hormone levels as well as some medications.

Attraction is usually whether your libido is directed at a particular person or type of person. Attraction can also be seen as the extent to which you want to act on sexual thoughts about a particular person.

Asexual people can and do experience a range of libidos from high to low. However they do not experience attraction, therefore are less likely to feel compelled to act on it and rarely associate it with a specific person.

♠️Attitudes towards Sex♠️

Asexuality is a wide spectrum, individual wants and needs vary but all are valid and normal.

In broad terms: Some asexuals are sex positive, they may not experience hunger but still get pleasure out of sharing a meal with someone. Some asexuals are ambivalent towards sex, it’s something they can take or leave. Some asexuals are completely or partially repelled by the idea of personally participating in sexual activity with a partner.

Resources:

Asexuality Visability & Education Network (AVEN) www.Asexuality.org

‘Finding Asexuality in the Archives’ by Michael Waters (Article on the history of Asexuality)

‘Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex’ by Angela Chen (Nonfiction book) http://www.angelachen.org/ace.html

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker (Nonfiction Book)

A-Ok Podcast (30-60 min interviews with people on the Asexual &/or Aromantic Spectrums) https://www.aokpod.com

There are a lot of fictional books for adults and teens with asexual characters & if anyone is interested I can provide links 😊

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I’m sure this has been done but it was just too good not to make

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what autism is (and what it isn’t)

autism IS

a developmental disability

a difference in neurotype

a spectrum that presents differently in everyone

present from birth

experienced by all genders

a lifelong experience

a disability that effects communication, sensory experiences, and social interaction

experienced by all races

something to take pride in

autism ISN’T

a mental illness

a disease

in need of a cure

caused by vaccines or gluten intake

inherently bad

something that destroys people’s lives

something only cishet white boys experience

something you grow out of

a ‘puzzle piece’ missing in our brains

being autistic is a varied experience. if you’ve met one autistic person, that’s exactly it — you’ve met one autistic person. we’re just as unique as allistic people, we aren’t a monolith, and we aren’t incapable of speaking for ourselves. we’ve been screaming for years, allistics just have yet to listen to us.

light it up #RedInstead this autism acceptance month and highlight actually autistic voices!

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New to discord!

Hey, its been a while since i posted but, its my first time on discord and im not sure how to manage alot of things, i think i understand the basics but id like to test it out! I am creating a minecraft roleplay and am looking for people who are interested in joining! i need lots of people for many different roles. If your interested feel free to reach out!

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oh captain,my captain!

simple, yes, but enough to make anyone cultured enough sob.

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Ever since that Steven universe smut blog turned out to be a republican senator I knew I’d never leave this hell site. You just don’t get drama like that anywhere else

im sorry What

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I hate it when teachers just stop and stare like,, i apologize if me tapping my pen to the rhythm of Soldier,poet,king is distracting you miss i really do but i dont see anyone else here complaining.

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As the others said! feel free to send in asks and include the question! id also like to hear some of your answers!

65 Questions You Aren't Used To

1. Do you ever doubt the existence of others than you?

2. On a scale of 1-5, how afraid of the dark are you?

3. The person you would never want to meet?

4. What is your favorite word?

5. If you were a type of tree, what would you be?

6. When you looked in the mirror this morning what was the first thing you thought?

7. What shirt are you wearing?

8. What do you label yourself as?

9. Bright room or dark room?

10. What were you doing at midnight last night?

11. Favorite age you’ve been so far?

12. Who told you they loved you last?

13. Your worst enemy?

14. What is your current desktop picture?

15. Do you like someone?

16. The last song you listened to?

17. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?

18. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?

19. If anyone could be your slave for a day, who would it be and what would they have to do?

20. What is your best physical attribute? (showing said attribute is optional)

21. If you were the opposite sex for one day, what would you look like and what would you do?

22. Do you have a secret talent? If yes, what is it?

23. What is one unique thing you’re afraid of?

24. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your disposal.

25. You just found $100! How are you going to spend it?

26. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere in the world, but you have to leave immediately. Where are you going to go?

27. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. “Be brand-specific” it says. Man! What are you gonna say about that? Even if you don’t drink booze there’s something you can figure out… so what’s it gonna be?

28. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place? 

29. What is your favorite expletive?

30. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the one thing you’re going to save from that blazing inferno?

31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?

32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!

33. The Celestial Gates Of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person/etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?

34. What was your last dream about?

35. Are you a good….[insert anything you’d like here]?

36. Have you ever been admitted to the hospital?

37. Have you ever built a snowman?

38. What is the color of your socks?

39. What type of music do you like?

40. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?

41. What is your favorite milkshake flavor?

42. What football team do you support? (I will answer in terms of American football as well as soccer)

43. Do you have any scars?

44. What do you want to be when you graduate?

45. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

46. Are you reliable?

47. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?

48. Do you hold grudges?

49. If you could breed two animals together to defy the laws of nature, what new animal would you create?

50. What is the most unusual conversation you’ve ever had?

51. Are you a good liar?

52. How long could you go without talking?

53. What has been you worst haircut/style?

54. Have you ever baked your own cake?

55. Can you do any accents other than your own?

56. What do you like on your toast?

57. What is the last thing you drew a picture of?

58. What would be you dream car?

59. Do you sing in the shower? Or do anything unusual in the shower? Explain.

60. Do you believe in aliens?

61. Do you often read your horoscope?

62. What is your favorite letter of the alphabet?

63. Which is cooler: dinosaurs or dragons?

64. What do you think about babies?

65. Freebie! Ask anything interesting you can think of.

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quotes that just are chaotic academia for some reason which you should write on the walls

"I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by madness, starving hysterical naked" - Allen Ginsberg (Howl)

"I will see if I can see. See now. there all the time without you: and ever shall be, world without end" - James Joyce (Ulysses)

"people empty me, I have to get away to refill" - Charles Bukowski

"towards thee I roll, thou all-destroying but unconquering whale; to the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee." - Herman Melville (Moby Dick)

"I would rather die of passion than of boredom" - Van Gough

"we rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. but to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything - what a waste!" - Andre Aciman (Call Me By Your Name)

"I do not suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute of it" - Edgar Allan Poe

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it’s so wild to me that heterosexual people can talk about their first crushes when they were in elementary school and how they had their first awkward kiss at really young ages or they would chase boys on the playground to try and kiss them and that’s all fine and normal and cute but no one considers the fact that lgbt people experience this too like….i had elementary school-aged crushes on my girl friends and spent hours talking to them on the phone every day after school with butterflies in my stomach and together we daydreamed about throwing extravagant parties together and being movie stars or high-fashion models or pop stars or writers and together we held hands on the playground and kissed behind the trees in my backyard…the innocence of a childhood crush does not only exist for straight people….please stop seeing homosexuality as inherently sexual because when you do that, you are erasing all of the girls whose braids i memorized like a pattern and whose faces i can’t recall but still have love for and their stories deserve to be told and remembered and passed down like folk songs

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What song the sirens sang, or what name Achilles assumed when he hid himself among woman, although puzzling questions, are not beyond all conjecture.

Sir Thomas Browne: Urn-Burial

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Once upon a midnight dreary, while i pondered, weak and weary, Over many a quaint and curious volume of forgotten lore,- While I nodded, nearly napping, suddenly there came a tapping, As of some one gently rapping, rapping at my chamber door. "T is some visitor," I muttered, "tapping at my chamber door:                                                                Only this and nothing more." Ah, distinctly I remember it was in the bleak December, And each dying ember wrought its ghost upon the floor. Eagerly I wished the morrow;-vainly I had sought to borrow From my books surcease of sorrow-sorrow for the lost Lenore,  For the rare and radiant maiden whom the angels name          Lenore:                                                            Nameless here for evermore. And the silken sad uncertain rustling of each purple curtain Thrilled me-filled me with fantastic terrors never felt     before..

 The Raven by Edgar Allan Poe

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Dead Poets Society as Chaotic Academia, pinterest

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Dark Academia Valentine’s Day:

Paint your lips blood red and leave the stains on your lovers neck

Take pen to paper and write the words of your heart

Pour a steaming hot cup of rose tea and breathe in the sweet aroma

Fill your bath with scents of rose and jasmine, pouring oils and salts into the water

Slip into the most Lacy and confidence-inspiring lingerie

Spritz your neck, hair and wrists with a deeply sensual perfume

Style your hair to frame your elegant face and the shine in your eyes

Listen to romantic instrumentals, whether it be songs from the most northern parts of India to the ball rooms of Russia

Light a candle scented with luxurious oils

Lean back into a bed of silken sheets, adorned with the plushest pillows

White blouses, red flowing dresses, sharp suits, dress as though you are going to a classical concert

Go on a cultural date whether with a friend or a lover; turn around a rose garden, discuss the forms of an art gallery, read to each other beneath an orchard

Adorn your body with the most beautiful jewels and accessories

Rise up at dawn and let the first light of day caress your face

Buy a bouquet of flowers to scent your bedroom

Embrace your lover in the cover of night and whisper sweet confessions into their ear

Eat a banquet of the most sumptuous delicacies, love your body

Go to the hillside to wait for your forbidden lover, letting your hair blow in the breeze

Love yourself as if your body were the books you live and breathe

Happy Valentine’s week and Happy Chinese New Year!!

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achilles owning a shirt that says ‘if lost return to patroclus’ and patroclus owning the ‘i am patroclus’ shirt

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clouds are soothing me